I used to be so attractive and so nice looking. I had wonderful curves, cute face nice hair...everything. I am still intelligent but I am honest enuff with myself to admit that I am no longer nice looking. I have polycystic ovaries and it is threaten to become cancer. I have gained lots of weight and even If I lose it my body shape has changed drastically, now I’m larger at the top and smaller at the bottom. I have body hair, I mean large amounts, very visible, I have a full grown beard connecting side burns.
I was an extremely attractive girl when I was 12-17 Now I'm 19 and just a mess.
My boyfriend (who’s now decease) brought back the notion that I just might be beautiful. But I can no longer consider that valid cuz he was cheating so I couldn't have been that beautiful.
Anyway my self-esteem is fine, I love myself but I just know in for a fact I am ugly...I just wanna be beautiful again.
2006-10-10 04:28:23 · 14 answers · asked by Gifted and Gracious 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
SOrry the last line should have been.....
Anyway my self-esteem is fine, I love myself and I know for a fact Im not ugle but these things like facial hair and an ugly body shpae are just ugly.I just wanna be beautiful again.
2006-10-10 04:34:22 · update #1
Beauty comes from within...Or you can join the Circus!
2006-10-10 04:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by red9 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hey, I've got a beard! Are you saying I'm ugly?? :-) Well if you are it doesn't matter, because there is such a thing as razors that can solve that kind of problem, if you think it is a problem.
The idea that being super-thin is what is attractive isn't actually true. People only think that because TV and magazines tell them that. What men consider to be the ideal body shape is significantly "fatter" than what women think it is.
What's wrong with being larger at the top? Isn't that considered a good thing?
Anyway, if your ovaries are becoming cancerous, just take them out. You can survive without ovaries. I don't want you dying of cancer.
If you have gained weight, you can lose it again.
If you have hair, you don't like, you can shave it off. Hair removal is very common and easy. There are also more permanent solutions if you really want.
So all the "problems" you describe can be fixed. That is if you think they are problems. I'm willing to bet you still look great how you are right now.
Do you really think people don't cheat on beautiful people?? That's crazy. All the gorgeous super-model type women still get cheated on! Haven't you ever watched a show about celebrities or read a magazine or newspaper?
Anyway, I saw your other question and thought you sounded great, so I went looking for your other questions, which is how I found this one.
If you want me to give you a verdict on how you look, or any fashion tips on what you can do to be more beautiful, feel free to send me a picture. Otherwise you can just accept my guess that you are beautiful.
2006-10-10 05:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Carl K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your bf was cheating does not mean you are ugly.
Some of the most beautiful women in the world have been cheated on. I'll bet you're a lot more attractive than you feel at the moment.
It doesn't sound like anything you are talking about can't be fixed. The hair can be removed. Weight can be lost and the body shaped up. Why don't you try going to a gym and getting someone there to help you on reshaping your body.? It can be done to an extent.
2006-10-10 04:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by lucy02 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel exactly like you do! I was so beautiful when I was young that people would actually ask if I was a model. I guess I took advantage of those years, since I never appreciated how pretty I was, and actually had self-esteem so low that I thought I was ugly then. Now, I would do anything to look like I did when I was 20. Well, maybe if I just got into shape again I would regain my beauty. Anyway, I hope one day you and I can stop worrying about the way we look and appreciate our inner-beauty and try not to lose it. This is what is most important in life.
And there are guys out there who will see your inner beauty, but they are hard to find. I found mine, he makes me feel beautiful everyday by telling me how pretty I am. I hope one day you will find your man, too. He is out there somewhere, you just have to look real hard and be picky(don't waste your time with shallow guys or the right guy might slip past you). Always see people for their inner beauty, and one day you will find someone who will see your inner beauty as well.
2006-10-10 04:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation does sound so very painful.
Indeed, if your goal is to "just be beautiful again" you might be setting yourself up for further pain. The clock never turns back. You have gone through a great deal; you have learned much and grown much. Now your real task is to create the best and most beautiful you that you can. this may well involve consultations with endocrinologists and other relevant professionals as well as a course of excercise/diet and additional physical ministration.
Certainly, counseling or psychotherapy might be very valuable or even necessary. Somebody needs to be with you to help you through this.
I think your goal might really be to be happy with yourself or to feel fulfilled or to feel honestly pleased with yourself. By starting from where you are now and creating the person you can be you can grow into transcendental beauty. You can actually attain all these goals and so much more.
Good luck.
Additional comment: In life everything changes; nothing stays static. The trick is to take as much control of the changes in our life as we can. In this way we define our own existence.
2006-10-10 09:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by DonBrand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, Your self esteem is not fine. You should start exercising
and eating right. Go to the doctor either a dermatologist or a gynecologist. It may be that you need hormones for the hair. If not you can use nair or another hair removal cream. Your boyfriend did not cheat on you because you aren't pretty. Don't accept responsibility for his actions. He cheated because he is a jerk. Spend time helping others and becoming the woman God wants you to be, Then you will be ready for someone special.
2006-10-10 04:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by jan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aw, Why don't you shave or wax off that beard. Get some make up ? I feel ugly sometimes too. I know I'm not the best lookin` gal out there either. My boyfriend broke up with me for some other girl.. My self esteem is not low and I am fine also. I suggest you to enhance your look. I am sorry.. I hope you get better :)
2006-10-10 04:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by sweetk1ssz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the things you mention can be fixed. I have seen the effects of polycystic ovary syndrome in my own daughter, who is now 17. Your hormone levels can be adjusted to help with the shape of your body (not your weight). Electrolysis can be utilized to get rid of ther excess hair on your face and body. If you have acne, it too will be helped by adjutment of your hormones.
2006-10-10 06:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your doctor and you need to be under the care of a mental health professional . Not because you are crazy but when you are sick you get depressed! That is natural. Discuss what can be done about the weight gain and body hair. It is something they are giving you. The Dr. will know how to help you.
2006-10-10 04:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How did you manage to become so ugly so young and in less than 2 years? IF I were you I would look at this problem and start to address it.
2006-10-10 04:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"Anyway my self-esteem is fine, I love myself but I just know in for a fact I am ugly...I just wanna be beautiful again." that doesn't sound like you have too much self esteem..
2006-10-10 04:31:54 · answer #11 · answered by *~*Mary*~* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋