how do you really know if there is life after death ?

Question

My best friend was killed in a car accedent in the begging of Sept. i feel like she is here , but how do you really know ? do they see us on the other side, do they know how much we are hurting cause of them being gone , why is it so hard for me to believe there is , i want to believe , will i know her when i die ? how do i get the sick feelingout of my stomich about dieing , how do i get it out of my head that I am going to die ( i worry about going anywere or going to sleep).please help I think I am loosing my mind ..

Answer 1

> how do you really know if there is life after death ?

Except for those who report NDEs, I guess no one "knows" by experience. However, we do KNOW by faith; we know by Scripture (which "was written for our learning"), we know by what Jesus taught; we know by His death AND RESURRECTION. We know that as St. Paul says, Christ, the first fruits (Christ is the first to be raised from death to newness of life; likewise, believers will be when He returns).


>My best friend was killed in a car accident in the beginning of Sept.

Sorry. It is difficult to lose a friend. "Experts" seem to say it often takes us one to three years to "get over" a close death. Actually, we never "get over" it; but we do get to where we once atgain can function more normally (whatever "normal" is).

>i feel like she is here , but how do you really know ?

You have your memories of her.

>do they see us on the other side,

As the book of Hebrews (N.T.) says, "we are surrounded by a great crowd of witnesses ..." ; some picture that as though those who hafe "gone before" are looking down over the ramparts of Glory, observing what is happening here on earth.

>do they know how much we are hurting cause of them being gone ,

Heaven is a glorious place. They should be busy exploring their new residence. We should not want them to be sad because of our sadness over their death. I think (and hope) they are not spending all the time moaning our separation. I do think that God does allow them to know when we pause and think and remember them and the "good" times we had together.

>why is it so hard for me to believe there is , i want to believe ,

Probably it is "so hard" because we are so conditioned to believe only that which we can see, hear, touch, smell, etc. -- only what we can verify using our "five" senses. We need to live beyond the five senses ... in the realm of Faith.

>will i know her when i die ?

As Christians, we have the assurance that we shall know as we are known. Now we see "through a glass darkly" (or as in a mirror), then we shall know "face to face".

I think it was Fanny Crosby, the great hymn-writer, who was blind from infancy. Yet she wrote that when she shall see Jesus, she will know Him.

When we, Christians, get to heaven we will find the human (fleshly) limitations will be gone.

>how do i get the sick feeling out of my stomach about dieing
>how do i get it out of my head that I am going to die
>( i worry about going anywere or going to sleep).
>please help I think I am loosing my mind ..

Do try to find others that either share your loss, or that have had simiilar experiences.

Don't worry about going to die. Unless Christ returns before, we all shall die. We should live as well as we can, as long as we can, here. Be of help to others.

When you have suffered much grief, it takes time to heal. While your mind, emotions, etc. are healing, try to be involved in activities. Not necessarily the same things that you and your friend used to do together. But try to find someone who "needs a friend" and then try to be that friend.

Answer 2

I'm a little confused. Life before birth is in the womb for nine months. But life after death is merely the fact that the body dies little by little, so that hair and fingernails continue to grow for a little while. If we say life before conception, then the parallel is closer. But what I really think you mean is not life, but consciousness or awareness. There is no function without the structure to do that function. Therefore, there can be no consciousness before or after there is a brain to do it with.

Answer 3

Me too My father and I were in a car accident in 98 that killed him and I walked away with relatively minor wounds . I could swear I heard his foot steps in the house once or twice after he died.

The year before that 97 my mother died of cancer and in between my Grandmother died my girlfriend at the time had an abortion I had to put the dog down and I ended up having to leave the farm and get a job in Toronto.

I couldn't sleep I had all sorts of wierd dreams I was scared and curious about death the whole none yards.

They call it post traumatic stress disorder - look it up on line You do not have to be the one who's life was dierectly threatened to have it - a close friend or relative will do -

Time helps a lot and my honest to god suggestion is don't talk to the mental health prfesionals and if you do just because you need to talk to someone don't let them medicate you - don't.

Smoke pot if you can't sleep or take valuim but thats it. Try to stay away from alcohol etc .

Good luck it gets worse before it gets better but it does get better.

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Born Again Christian

God's Word say it.

But unless a person accepts Jesus as their Lord and Savior, they won't like their life in the Lake of Fire

These people wait in the shadows for people who are feeling vulnerable and right now thats you - stay away from them or you will end up in thier twisted cult of lies -If you want to join them do it after the healing process has taken place don't let them take advantage of you because you are in a bad spot right now

Answer 4

First let me just tell you that you're not loosing your mind, your just going through the normal grieving process, and that's totally okay.

Well, there are obviously lots of different doctrines on if there is life after death, and what that would be like. I believe there is life after death, and they probably are aware of what we go through when they pass on. I also believe that our family and friends here on earth can continue to be our family and friends after we go.

This has a lot to do with my religious beliefs, but it also has to do with my Grandfather...when he was about to die, he said his grandfather was in the room and he was going to go with him, and every now and again, I hear other stories like that where a family member that has already died comes to escort a person to the other side.

All in all, I'd say, let yourself go through the grieving process, it's okay to be scared of death in your situation. But pay attention to those thoughts that make you feel the most peaceful...I'd suggest trusting those.

hugs.

Answer 5

I am very sure there is life after death but whether you can meet your good friend that will depend on fate because the universe is too big. If you want to carry on with your life in earth we must remember that what we got in this world will definitely left us sooner or later. What ever happen around happy or sad we must still carrying with our life. We can't change it unless we know how to let go, to let go is the best solution

Answer 6

Yes I believe... do I know for sure? No. I just cannot accept that after we die that is it. In my heart I know there is an afterlife. Besides if you want to look at it scientifically the body lives because of energy. Your heart beats, your muscles move, you have brain waives all because of energy. It is a fact that energy just does not disappear. It takes on a new form or moves somewhere else... so where does the energy from our bodies go? It doesn't just dissipate so it has to go somewhere. Hence the afterlife.

Answer 7

We don't! But do you want to risk it? and try losing one of your children in a car accident those feelings are even worse ....But if I believe there is life after death....and I die....and there isn't... then, what have I lost? But if you don't believe it and there is...then you've lost everything....I had rather take my chances with Christ....How bout you? And if your friend was a born again Christian...then the Bible says in the book of Thessalonians that you will see them again....

Answer 8

There is no "life" after death. Death is final, however, there is another plain of existence which is comforting for some people. Your friend just passed away and you are feeling your mortality. As the pain and stark realization passes in time you will become less focused on your own death and begin to heal. Know that you are loved and that there are people that you can talk to about your fears. I'm sincerely sorry that you lost your friend. Your love for each other carries over to the other side and you will be together again.

Answer 9

I have been there (read my answer to a recent question about my belief in the afterlife). Anyway, it is likely that your friend needs prayers. The bible tells us, "It is a Holy and wholesome thought to pray for the dead." You will feel a lot better if you help her with prayer. I am so sorry you have had this terrible experience. God bless.

Answer 10

They see you-they know what you think and feel but they have no subjective judgements like they did in life. They are at peace. Read some of the near death experiences at the following site and it might bring you some hope and peace.