is he pretending?
2006-10-10 04:08:07 · 16 answers · asked by sweet girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry is the easiest word to say and the hardest thing to mean ,tell him to wake up or your dumping him
2006-10-10 04:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may love you, and he may really be sorry at the moment. And it may even be the way he was raised, or how men are, or somethig like that, but when it all comes down to the bottom line, you are getting hurt. Whether it is physically or emotionally... you are still being hurt. And you can't live the rest of your life like that. Trust me, I tried. I have been where you are. I forgave my husband every time he told me he told me he was sorry and would never do it again, but there was always a next time... and the next times always got worse as time went on.
No matter how much you love him... you have to know that if he truly loved you... and I say truly, because there are deeper kinds of love, then he would be doing anything to make sure that he didn't hurt you again. Trust me... I know. I come from an abusive family. I was abused. I have abusive tendencies... and I made the choice at an early age to never hit. And I have NEVER abused my kids, or anyone else. It's a choice that you can't blame on your family. Because you grow up and have to start making decisions of your own... He does, and now you do too. You have to decide if you can live like this for the rest of your life... because I know from experience, that he probably won't change. It will probably only get worse.
2006-10-10 11:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by Hicktown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not pretending, but rather demonstrating stupidity.
People make mistakes, dumb ones and stupid ones. I can forgive a dumb mistake because of ignorance, lack of education or simply poor manners, but the problem is not learning from the dumb mistake and then repeating it, makes it an act of stupidity, and I do not suffer stupidity. If the guy is not learning from his mistakes he is stupid and it is time to find someone who can learn from his mistakes.
Abused women keep in a relationship because the guy apologizes and says he won't do it again, but then what happens?
2006-10-10 11:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by rowlfe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he is not pretending. Look at his parents and see if the same pattern is there. People tend to become like their parents. If one of his parents is abusive and apologizes to get the victim back, this is a commonly seen pattern of behavior. If you are being abused, verbally, emotionally or physically, find someone else.
2006-10-10 11:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An apology is nothing but words if it is not followed by actions or change to show that the person is truly sorry. If he does the same thing after apologizing for it, then he is not really sorry.
2006-10-10 11:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someon is genuinly sorry they try their hardest not to repeat the same action that hurt the person that they care about and love. if he is still doing the same things that he constently apologizes. then he is not sincere. he is just saying that he is sorry to tell you what you want to hear. wise up and let him go. lets see how he will act then. he probably will miss you but you have to give him tough love. make him realize that you don't want to get played anymore cause that is exactly what he is doing.
2006-10-10 11:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by mdbdyot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm... so he apologizes when he does something wrong, but he'll end up doing that something wrong again... right?
If that's the case then yea of course he's just pretending. If someone apologizes to you, then they should do it again because they know its wrong... w/e he did..
2006-10-10 11:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means nothing to someone that uses those words over and over yet still repeat the same behavior!
2006-10-10 11:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by red9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's truly sorry for what he did, he would not continue to do it over again. When a person is really sorry for what they've done and they are being honest with you, if they care about you they would not repeat it.
2006-10-10 11:19:39 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he doesn't care or he really doesn't know how to stop. You need to sit down with him and talk. Tell him how you feel and how his behavior effects you and your relationship. If he loves you, he will understand and care about your feelings and try to do right. If not, he doesn't love you and you deserve better.
2006-10-10 11:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋