I have this cousin that is an incredibly sharp-tongued, confident/cocky, audacious and intelligent. Eg, She stole an item from my room a while back like it was something of hers and it got me thinking again tonight because until this day i haven't figured how to handle her conniving ways.
I coincidentally found the same expensive hat my mum had bought me(which i took quite a fond liking to) displayed in her room and i asked her if it was mine(i am sure that it was and is cos she mentioned she had liked it) .. she replies in a very cool manner .. "No i bought that".. and i asked her again was she sure and she nodded on like it was nothing at all. I didn't believe her of coarse but i didn't want to push it. She does these kinds of thing's to me all the time and then tells me i need to be more demanding, i hate that my kindness is so often mistaken for weakness. What should i do ? I've tried confronting her but at the end she still makese me feel like an idiot door mat.
2006-10-10 03:55:01 · 13 answers · asked by underlacollar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are way too nice to your cousin. Be that nasty b***h and demand your respect. If you stand up for yourself to your cousin, she will not take advantage of you and steal your stuff. The more nice you are to her, the more that she will continue to take advantage of you. She is your cousin and she shouldn't be stealing from you. Do what you have to do and stand up for yourself. Best of luck. The sooner you stand up to her, the better off you'll be and she'll leave your stuff alone.
2006-10-10 04:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but you are weak, if you had stronger character you'd just march right in and take your stuff back, she'll be gobsmacked and pobably wouldn't think of doing it again.
She's obviously lying about having bought every single item exactly the same as you, confront her, but be more pushy, this time show her you mean business.
2006-10-10 11:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by *Care Bear* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, being too nice is a sign of weakness... sometimes with people like your cousin you really need to let your emotions out... otherwise its just going to get bottled up and you'll just be the one that'll lose. If she is that conniving be smarter than her... Use her ways against her. You come up to be the person on top. if you know that hat is yours, take it back.
i know its easier said than done, but take initiative if you want to see change...
2006-10-10 11:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cousins can be a pain especially when they are as monstorous as you have mentioned.just play it cool. start locking your room when she is around and if she insists going to your room or touching your stuff you say politely that my stuff is getting stolen every now and then.i dont trust just anyone with my stuff and so have locked. when i saw a hat just like my fav one which is stolen in your room i was reminded of how possesive i can be of my stuff. i hope you understand!i dont like just anyone in my room. not even my mom at times!lets go somewhere else". be sweet and hard! dont fall for such ppl.i have been dealing with similar ppl. she needs you to make herself feel gud.she is basically jealouys of you. make her more by bragging
2006-10-10 11:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by s4e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her do that you need to stand up for yourself, trust me you will feel a lot better after you snap being a ***** gets you far lol im tellin ya ppl llisten when you dont give them time to talk...
2006-10-10 10:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by KaKes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even around her? Walk away. Being cousins doesn't give her any special privileges. Would a friend treat you like that?
2006-10-10 11:24:42 · answer #6 · answered by risa131313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just limit my dealings w/ her. I know it may be hard cause she is family. I have family members that I only call once in a while just to see if they are OK and I see them a family events. That's it. Good luck!
2006-10-10 11:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by drubaby32698 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would end my relationship with her. I know it sounds cold, but if she's going to treat you that way, you would be better off not letting her in your house. My heart goes out to you, my friend. I know what you're going through.
God bless you.
2006-10-10 10:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by anabandana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to stay away from this person. Why would you hang with someone who treats you bad and steals from you?
2006-10-10 10:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by Patti T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not let yourself dominated by her. Just tell your parents what is happening,and I know you will find a way to win.
2006-10-10 11:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by adrianasilviapp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋