My daughter is 15 months old, she is absolutely gorgeous, sooooooo smart, and sweet. I just cant get enough of her. I kiss her every chance I get, I tell her I love her a hundred times a day, I tell her shes beautiful and smart all the time.
Im afraid of making her conceited, and I dont want her to think shes better than anyone else, but I cant stop telling her these things. Is that just a moms job? or should I be conservative with the compliments so that she doesnt let them go to her head.
Is it possible that I can desensitize her to love by telling her I love her so much, could it get to where those words dont mean anything to her because shes heard them so many times?
Please tell me what you think. Thanks.
proudestmom
2006-10-10 03:54:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
The best thing you can do for your baby is to make her feel safe and secure by knowing how much she is loved. I feel the same way about my 18 month old son. Maybe we can get the two of them together. LOL.
2006-10-10 03:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I need to know too, then, because you sound just like me! I'm constantly telling my daughter I love her, and I give her so many kisses (when she's not telling me to stop, anyway, LOL). I do tell her she's beautiful, but like you, I've wondered if that could be a bad thing. I don't think it hurts to tell her she's beautiful, I think it will give her confidence and pride in herself, but I do think at some point it can go overboard with some parents. I don't want my daughter to grow up thinking she can get away with anything just because she is "cute", but I don't think it will be a problem. I don't sit there doting on her appearance all day. It's better to compliment who they are as a person. Like instead of just saying to my daughter, "oh, you're so smart" I'll add that she's doing a great job at learning new things. So it's more like a recognition of her accomplishments.
I don't think you will desensitize her, you are just letting her know just how much you love her, and hopefully, that will grow to mean a lot to her as she gets older. I sometimes can't help but stare at my daughter when I put her in bed and tell her I love her more than anything in the world.
BTW - I once heard you know you love someone so much when you hug them and it just doesn't seem close enough. That's the exact feeling I get when I'm holding my daughter. Thanks for sharing your feelings. It's always good to know someone else feels the same way.
2006-10-10 04:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do the same thing to my little girl!!so no you arent doing anything wrong... and i seriously doubt she will be concieted. those are the things that children need... love and attention and you telling her that you think she is best, this will make her less suceptible to teasing when she is in school, because she will have confidence in herself. and i dont think that she will be desensitized to love either. you are just being a good mommy. you love your baby and that is the most wonderful thing you could ever do for her! so keep up the good work and you will have a beautiful intelligent and confident young woman one day. just be careful that even though you want to give her everything, that you dont actually spoil her with material things and such, just stay heavy on the emotional love!!!
2006-10-10 04:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by dindonelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age all you can do is raise her feeling of self esteem. Just don't tell her she is better than anyone else...
There is nothing wrong with a child thinking they are the most special person in the world to their parents... just as long as they don't get the idea they are the most special person in the WORLD.
How many compliments you give your daughter won't teach her to be disrespectful to others or inconsiderate, those lessons are learned by other observations.
2006-10-10 04:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by baxterstuds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I feel the same about my daughter who is almost two.....
but I dont' think it's wrong in any way to love your daughter too much.........
BUT know that you have to set down rules and limits.......when you say no......you stick with it.......
don't give in because she looks so cute or she is crying....
because THAT is wrong and teaching her all the things you don't want her to grow up to be vain and conceited and she can get what she wants from her looks or she deserves everything and gets everything because she's the boss.
And I think you can tell her these things most definitely but you need to put a limit on it yourself.......and if other mothers hear you doing it 24/7..........they will disassociate from you.
ALL mothers think they're kids are the cutest obviously.
But don't emphasize on it. Looks aren't everything........it's the person inside.........
And the first 6 years of child's life is the most important.....what they learn in these 6 years will impact the person they become.
2006-10-10 03:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by Joogie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. As an infant you should love her all that you can, and that will give her very good self esteem. Later on you will have to develop the ability to say "No!" and mean it, and to scold and take things away for punishment.
At that time it will be inappropriate if you can't be a disciplinarian at all. If you have a really good bond with her, a disapproving look may be enough, but you will have to see.
2006-10-10 04:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can love your daughter too much. It would probably be a good ides though if you let her see you praising others too. Such as if she has a new cousin or a friend of yours has a new baby be sure to ooh and aah over the new baby. Get her a baby doll and let her ooh and aah over it. Your daughter is the center of your world, but she does need to know that she's not the center of everyone's world. I think as long as she seems to be loving toward others I wouldn't worry about it.
2006-10-10 04:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are giving her self-confidence, which no child can get too much of. Just remember that she needs discipline as well and not to spoil her too much. Don't be afraid that she won't like you if you enforce the rules. There is a huge difference between loving and spoiling.
2006-10-10 04:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your daughter will grow up knowing that she is loved. It all depends on what goals you want her to have in life. If you want a 'mama's child,' then loving her too much is not a problem, until she hits the teen years, and really doesn't want mom to be hanging all over her. If you want her to be able to hold her own ground, and make something of herself, then yes, loving her too much could be a problem, because you hadn't of allowed her to spread her own wings.
2006-10-10 04:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by tramps3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! definately not wrong. Her personality is developing right now and you are probably molding her to be affectionate and caring.
As far as making her feel like she is better than anyone else..that comes in teaching her how to socialize with others. Lots of exposure to other kids her age will be a huge help.
2006-10-10 04:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by jessified 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋