I am also cohabiting and i have a daughter. The priest made a big deal of it including getting letters from parents parish
2006-10-10 03:42:06 · 18 answers · asked by survival_paul 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
A few points i'd like to clear up. I am cohabiting as a wedding will cost me 30K. I decided to buy a house first and then get married later rather than live with parents married for years and save for house deposit.
I want to be married for a few reasons. here they are but not in any particular order. Married i can use my wifes tax credits and as such save about 2.5K a year in tax. I want to be married for the extra security that will bring to my daughters life, (if it gets tough its not as easy to walk away when your married so you have to work at it). And also because everyone else gets married.
2006-10-10 03:57:37 · update #1
The main reason i want to marry is that i love my fiance very mucy but i thought that was implied
2006-10-10 04:09:21 · update #2
I'm not sure depends on the priest but as I said in your other question, check out another church.
2006-10-10 03:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not living a Catholic lilfe so why would you want to marry in a Catholic Church. The priest has every right to not marry you.
Perhaps if you make a sincere confession and start attending Mass then he will. Your reasons for wanting to marry are mostly financial and you really dont have the right idea of a Catholic marriage anyway. Its not just a ceremony or a piece of paper, its a sacrament and not to be taken lightly.
2006-10-10 11:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by hbpp 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe there is a lot more to it. You have to be a practicing Catholic, have received Baptism, Reconciliation, Communion and Confirmation. If one partner is not Catholic, the priest will explain how you can still get married in the Church. Also, try speaking with another priest.
2006-10-10 10:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but you shouldn't be married with so many mortal sins on your soul...
the priest is right to refuse you, maybe not to be sending out letters to others about your sins.... but he shouldn't have to explain why he won't, because he's the priest, and you know you are wrong... you shouldn't be cohabitating, its adultery if you are having sex b4 marriage, and cohabitating is an occasion of sin...
move out of the situation you are in, if you wish to be married, you need to go to confession, be sorry for this, and not do it again... you need to talk to your priest... I'll pray for you... and you cannot be married outside of the catholic faith, it will not be recognized as a marriage if you do...
If you do not attend mass, you should start... it's good for your soul...
2006-10-10 10:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by lily 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be up to your local church. If church means so little to you that you can't even attend, why even get married in one? Our church doesn't judge your life when considering whether or not to marry you, but they do insist that you attend a church (not necessarily ours). Your cohabitation and daughter wouldn't affect anything at our church.
2006-10-10 10:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by luvwinz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the church. Most require so much time of counseling with the priest and also many require donations. They usually have a set amount for the donations.
2006-10-10 10:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say whether you've been married before.
If you have and you haven't received an anulment from the Catholic Church, that would explain your problem, as all the other stuff you mentioned should not prevent marrying in the Church.
2006-10-10 12:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A priest should not join two people together if they are not part of his ministry. He needs to know that you are receiving the word that God is giving him. He is accountable to God for what he does, and if he joins a couple that he is not familliar with or has not ministerd to, he sets himself up for failure.
Sounds like you are in rebellion to authority and need to get in alignment.
2006-10-10 10:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Shamus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely up to the church. I'd say if he doesn't want to marry you, that's up to him. Get married at another church or Justice of Peace.
2006-10-10 10:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
one needs to adhere to the laws rules and mores of the Church Doctrine in these matters as what the Church says goes as like others have said this is not a right but a privilege.
2006-10-10 10:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋