how does it feel to become a teenage mother?

Answer 1

in one word HARD!!!! I was a teen mom and the father wasn't around. It was hard. My son is now 9 and would trade him for the world. but i honestly wish i would have waited. I still did graduate high school. I was 7 month pregnant. I missed prom and homecomming and the graduation parties.

Answer 2

Well, this answer really depends on who you are....
I was pregnant at the age of 16, gave birth when I was 17. I have NO regrets about any of it. I really don't even feel I should have waited. Today I have a 5 year old daughter who I am very proud of, and I don't feel like I have missed anything in my life that wasn't worth missing in the first place. It's not always easy, but you will manage. To be honest, I don't see it as being any more difficult than having a baby at the age of 25. As long as you are ready for the responsibilty. And as for me, I raised a child as a SINGLE teenage mother. Her father wasn't around, and when he was he caused nothing but grief and heart ache.
Becoming a mother is a very fulfilling experience in any woman's life. No matter how old. Besides myself, I know many teenage mothers who are happy, and very thankful for their children. We all do the best we can to ensure they have everything they need. Just like all the other people that have their children in their 20's and 30's.
So if you are ready to be a mom, then you'll feel great. If you are ready for the responsibilty, and are mature enough to realize you aren't #1 anymore, it is fantastic. Those two things are the key, and if you find yourself whining about how hard it is, or how you should have waited, blah blah blah. Then you OBVIOUSLY weren't ready.

Answer 3

It's very hard !!!..you just dont realize what you are giving up when you become a mom so early. Your life is changed forever and you no longer do things for yourself. Now you have a child that comes first in every situation. And there is no turning back...its a done deal. I was a mom at 17 (not by choice, I was raped) and although that was 25 years ago....it was very hard. I believe its even harder now. Its harder to get jobs now and living expenses are higher. The things you have to protect your children from now are worse and more dangerous. And I believe if you wait till you are older and a little more experienced, then you are better prepared to handle those situations. You should think long and hard before deciding to have a baby when you still have growing up to do.

Answer 4

i was nineteen when i got pregnant two weeks before my wedding. i gave birth when i was twenty but it was fine. guess thats a different situation. we have been married for almost five years and working on our third baby. we are fine though he has a career making more then i thought possible. we own our first home and buliding a deck and a pool. we live in south florida and my husband is an engineer. i would not change things for all anything, i think that is good to be a young mother. when my children graduate high school i will only be in my early forties. i think thats better then bieng it my fifities. I will be able to be more active for my grandchildren as well. i love being a young mother. i get to stay home with my children all day and take care of a house i own. its wonderful and i am so much in love. good luck .

Answer 5

HARD!!!! I was 17 when i got pregnant, by a stupid decision i made. by that i mean the only time without a condom because we did not have on and i believed that it would not happen to me just this one time. I was wrong. I raised her by myself and i still am. Father has not been in the picture for 10 years... wait... all her life. Let me tell you i was not making the money i am now and i struggled a lot. government help i did get for the first year, but got off of it because i knew someone else deserved it more. i put her on the insurance at work, which left me with hardly any money left, but it was worth it. I didn't even have really a steady home at the time either. i was from place to place. Finally, i moved in with my sister then back to my moms for 3 years then i was out on my own at age 26. I had my own place car and everything you could think of. It is a lot of hard work getting everything your child needs. I am now going to college, working full time and being the best mom to my daughter. My money at my job is excellent. I would not change it for the world. I graduated 37 weeks pregnant. had her the following weekend. I missed all KINDS of social events at school.but it was well worth it.

Answer 6

I had my first child at age 17. I will just tell you straight. I have an 18-year old daughter who is beautiful and smart, yet she has issues that could not have been avoided under the circumstances. We fight so hard to keep her on a straight path. She is emotionally immature and needy: just a little girl in so many ways. She is afraid to take risks and clings to the wrong people. She will take many more years than necessary to complete accomplishments. I am sometimes beat up by my own guilt. She would have been better off raised by a complete and prepared family. From a purely selfless perspective, I have to admit: It would have been in her best interest to give her up for adoption. Even though I was financially on my own at the time (with her father), and was relatively "responsible" for my age, I was not at the maturity level that one needs to be to have a child. From all outward appearances, we were fine and happy. And I had that delusion about how "cool" it would be to be a young mom. You don't recognize this as a delusion until you look back in horror. In many ways, I grew up with her and she had to witness my struggles and mistakes. And there were plenty. I left her father when she was two (because it was the right thing to do). I also didn't know how to set boundaries, even as she got older. We were too close to each other, in maturity: like sisters, not like mother and daughter. Consequently, she has always felt a lack of nurturing from me. In the financial aspect, I always kept a full-time job, but there were times when I cried and panicked because I couldn't find the funds to pay for the basic necessities. I went hungry many times, to keep her fed. I left her in the care of people I could "afford," not necessarily who was best. Then I chose to marry a man who took care of us, and he ended up being abusive. I had two children with him before I fled (It took three years and the Law to get him gone).

Like every other young girl, I sought a relationship to fulfill me. On the "Attractive" scale, I was up there (5'7", 123, tan, long-blonde, green-eyed, fitness instructor). I kept a job; I could hold a conversation; I was sensitive and kind. But when you are a teenage mother, your choices in men are limited. I ended up compromising too much of what I needed. You feel like discounted goods when you're a teenage mom. I heard one guy I was interested in say, "Yeah dude, but she's got a KID." That hurt me for a long time, because it was TRUE: It made me less desirable, not "admirable," as I had told myself.

I had cycles of depression, eating disorders, self-abuse and one suicide attempt. So there may have been some issues from the past (as ALL teenage mothers have), but teenage motherhood sets you up for failure and you are always on an uphill climb. It gets exhausting and overwhelming.

The end of the story is much happier (new marriage, business, two younger and happier children, etc.). However, without the teenage pregnancy, I would have accomplished things sooner and wouldn't have put the scars on my daughter. In some ways, I just got "lucky" to run into a one-in-a-million man who became my husband. I was resolved to spending my life alone.

So, in short: It will beget a cycle of struggle that will last for many years. It will eliminate choices. I would not recommend teenage pregnancy to ANYONE, even in the "best" of circumstances.

"Bradderswifey": I think you did the best with what you had at the time. What more can we expect from one another, when intentions are pure? Blessings to your mom who is doing the right thing for her grandchildren.

Answer 7

I think that it would be very hard because you have to give up a lot of things, like going out every weekend, buying ur self clothes every time you get paid, and u have to stop thinking only about urself. Of course babies are beautiful, I mean who doesn't want babies?? but they'll grow up and give you a hard time if ur not ready for it. Its better to enjoy urself while ur young and get a good education so that u can have a good job and marry someone who is worth being with you and have a family with him. Don't jump into something that you won't be able to handle.

Answer 8

I was married before I became pregnant and gave birth when I was 19. I had a wonderful experience, but unlike many other teen mothers, I had a wonderful husband with good, stable income and a nice home. I was able to be a stay at home mom before my children started school. I was fortunate!

Answer 9

HI
I fell pregant when i was 15.Foolish i know, but when ur that age you dont realise tha that its not going to be all fun and joy .

I found out at my 8 week scan i was having twins .I was over joyed .It was going to be the best thing in my life .I couldnt wait to tell all my mates ...


The pregancy was very hard, i couldnt go and 'hang out with my mates'(which is what most teenagers do at that age)The father who was my long term boyf was 17, he continued to do drugs and get drunk every wkend.

When i gave birth i had never been so scared in my life.There were many problems, nearly lost my life.

But anyway,after my twin sons were born i had just turned 16yrs old.I was so proud ,i d be walking dwn the street holding my head up high and people would be staring in dis belief.

That was before theh cracks began to show, my friends were all same age as me and out every night hanging about,the boyf doing the same.I wanted to do that as well but i couldnt .As a result of that i began to get very depressed.Extremely depressed.
One night i rang my mum, crying , begging her to come and get my sons as i was so scared i was going to hurt them, they wouldnt stop crying.(i lived in my own council house on my own with my twin sons)

She did that, i had a break from them for a while.Went out for a few weeks and socialiased with my mates.It was great.

I didnt want to go back to being a full time mother.I loved them but i was still a child.I could barely look after my self.

My children who are nearly 7 still live with my mother.Selfish i know.But i couldnt do it ,i couldnt be a mother to them.

Being a teenage mother has destroyed me, only now im old enough to realise what a mistake i have made, not in having my sons but how young and foolish i was .I am gonna regret the rest of my life as my mother brings my sons up as her own.

Answer 10

Well, I'm 38 weeks pregnant and i just went on homebound which means until they get me a teacher I'm getting behind in school. Im a senior this year and can graduate early if i ever get that teacher. All i can say is if i wasnt a senior this year i would have never been able to finish school. But i live with my fiance and we already have the babyroom set up, i mean i guess it depends on who you are how difficult it would be or not be.