I have a girlfriend, but I dont love her. Actually I dont know whether I love her or not. She is commited but not I am. She is crazy for me but not I am. In short, She is ready for everything, but not I am. She wants to marry me but I dont know about me. I am just confused whether to marry her or not. But one think is that I always think of her, dont say I love her, the fact is that she is a very good girl and a very good friend of mine and I know her nature and each and everything. What to do is question in front of me. Please help.....
2006-10-10 03:17:33 · 27 answers · asked by dvishwas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you are matured earning person, you can marry her.
2006-10-10 05:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't really feel love for this girl, it would be a mistake to marry. It's true that a person can learn to love another after marriage, but why take the chance.
You just might be better off continuing to be "close good Friends" and see if true love will develop in the future.
Too many men and women today rush into marriage because of the fact that it's easy to get a divorce now. Also did you know that of the high percentage divorce of couples who live together before marriage when they do marry?
It's the fear and fact of commitment! So if you are not ready to commit, then don't.
2006-10-10 03:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Dale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is not whether you love her or not, the question is whether you are IN love with her or not. If you can't live without her then you are in love with her. If you can picture you life without her and you are still happy then you should not marry her. You should not even somewhat consider marriage if you have these huge doubts. Sometimes only time will tell. Other times a short separation will help you to take a step back and get a better idea of your feelings. It seems like you are too suffocated right now to even breathe much less evaluate your true feelings.
2006-10-10 03:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Laura D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, U r afraid of accepting the fact that U love her. Had U not been in love with her, U wouldn't have thought of her all the time.
U wouldn't have felt confused.
Another thing is, her craziness, her over-interest & her easily availability r putting u in doubt, or giving u a negative feeling. Once she goes out of ur sight ot touch, U will feel the pain.
And then R u sure, that U will be able to know anybody else like her in ur life ?
Or take it this way, that u might be wanting to have a normal relationship with a normal girl who is not that much committed to U as U don't like commitments as such.
2006-10-10 03:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by trapped_tigress 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need time away from her to think things through about how you feel about her. Take time out to work through your emotions and to see if you really love her. If you don't then tell her instead of stringing her along as that is the worst thing that you can do to a girl. Only you are able to answer this question. Best of luck amigo and be sure to check me out if you should need any more advice.
2006-10-10 03:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on a thin bridge now. Move a little forward, you are in love, move a little bckward, its just friendship!!!The feeling you have for her is only the beginning of great love!!! On one side your inner self is prohibiting you to say otherwise, but your true self is longing for her love. Your adult ego is analysing the whole situation but I am sure it will be towards love and not just friendship. Think calmly, weigh the Strengths, weaknesseses, d oppurtunities & threats on this matter (SWOT analysis, it is called) and go ahead with the maximum score!!!
2006-10-10 03:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simply either you want to be with her or you don't. But most importantly if your feelings aren't mutual then tell her. Cause there is nothing worse for a girl than being with a guy that you think feels the same way you do but find out later that he really doesn't. Tell her and allow her to find happiness some where else.
2006-10-10 03:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time for every time don't rush into life.I think you like her as a friend or like a sister because you know her to well.My advised is take time to think about marriage that is something big and allot of responsibility if you are not ready or sure do not do anything that you might regret in the future.
2006-10-10 03:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by SMILEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have only been in this relationship, you need to go experience some before making this decision. If you are not fully committed to her, DO NOT marry her. If you are ever unsure of something, you need to fix your questions that you have by experiencing things that you are questioning. I really hope this helps.
2006-10-10 03:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by pits_me1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth tell her that your not ready for that knd of commitment. and ask yourself do you love this girl? If you do marry her or if you do love her, but you ain't ready to get married just tell her you ain't ready, but if you don't love her then don't marry her. Tell her the truth have a talk with her.
2006-10-10 03:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont love her. you need to move on before you both get really hurt. if you were in love with her, you would know and you would be sure about it. the fact that you dont even know if you love her is a sure sign you dont. you sure as hell shouldnt be thinking about marrying her. just break it off and move on.
2006-10-10 03:20:19 · answer #11 · answered by mickey g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋