How do you turn acquantance to friendship??

Question

I have been talking to the same guy for over a month and he seem to never open up to me. I really want to learn how to make new friends. How do you do it? I ask personal questions and all but, still, he never open up to me.

Answer 1

Make it a point to spend time together. Take the inititive and put yourself into situations where you see each other more. If you are interested in being more than just friends, keep that in mind while talking to him and he will probably get the idea...this would pretty much be flirting.

He may be shy for some reason...lots of us are terminally shy...especially the "nice" guys. We never wish to offend and many times we are just afraid. If you think this might be the case find something inoffensive to do together...coffee or ice cream is always good. In this day and age there is nothing wrong with a woman being the initiator. Ask him out for dinner or lunch. It would be the fast track to your probable goal. He will not be shocked or think you are foolish. Even if he doesn't care to be "friends" he will be flattered by your attention.

Good luck!

Answer 2

If you have been talking to the same guy for over a month and he is not opening up to you, it could be that there is not a connection there and you may not have anything more with him than an aquaintance.
Watch for cues when you are talking to someone. If you feel that the person you are talking to is not opening up to your questions, it could be that the questions are too personal or that the person is not comfortable with the subject you are persuing. When approaching anyone new, sometimes to you have to try different subjects until you find some common ground. You might start off by telling something about yourself to break the ice. You might, for example, tell someone about a recent trip you took or about a movie you recently saw and enjoyed. From there, then you could ask..."Have you seen a good movie lately...or have you been travelling lately?"
If you are just hitting dead ends every time you try to talk with this person, it could be that they are not interested or that they are overly shy or that you need to give it more time. Good luck.

Answer 3

Okay, the answer is fairly simple.

If you are a guy who entered the "friendship zone" then it's nearly impossible to leave the "friendship zone" without the woman making a bold and daring move. For one, if the woman was really interested to begin with then you would have never entered the "friendship zone".

Now, if you are a girl and want a guy who is in the "friendship zone" then the ball is in your court. You have the power here. I can guarantee you that a guy who is "just a friend" is actuallly a "friend who wants you secretly and is holding out until you come around and want him back" so just go for it and I betcha the response will be mind blowing. Just remember that he will be very hesitant because he won't want to lose the friendship. What this means is that he doesn't want to say something wrong or stupid that will lose him the change to get with you in the future. Guys who are friends are, and deny it how many times you want but it is true, actually guys who want more than a friendship. So, you have to be bold and speak up. You have to be to the point and straightforward. Don't think you are sending signals. I bet if you sat on his lap and said "how do you feel about taking this friendship to a new level" that he would first pass out and then, once he is brought back to a state of conscious, you would have him for sure.

So that's a way to turn a dull and boring friendship into something more interesting.

Now, if you want this acquaintance to become a friendship then just start spending more time together. Over time, and as he gets to know you, he will start to open up more. Most men do not open up because they don't want you to think they have problems. They are afraid that if you think they have problems then you will not be interested anymore and they want to keep their chances of getting with you as open as possible. So, just remember that. Besides, lets face it, women always say they want a sensitive and emotional and talkative man, but give me a break. What they really want is a man who can handle anything, build a mini mall out of toothpicks, who can protect the woman, and who is pretty easy going about problems that come up because he doesn't want her to worry - he prefers to leave that up to him. You want to know more about him personally? Have sex with him. Men drop their guard down big time before, during and after sex.

Keep in mind that having sex is for adults so if you are not older or of age then pleeeeease do NOT have sex. It leads to a ton of other problems and you'll probably lose the guy anyway.

Answer 4

There isnt an exact moment when u become friends with an acquantance. It just happens. because u can talk more deeply and comfortably with any subject. Talking on the phone after work, And going on friend dates, Like the movies

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Try to have the same interests as him. Wait for sometime and then after 1 more month, ask him face to face.
If he still is not open, then maybe he has found someone else.
Then you should move on.

Answer 7

sounds like he is not your type..i suggest give it another month and be done with it. maybe he needs more time? if you are the open minded type.try to go for someone lik eyou..or it will drive you crazy!

Answer 8

This guy in in a shell, it may take time to crack this shell, keep trying.

Answer 9

Ask him out to lunch or for coffee.

Answer 10

give it time maybe he is just the hard rock kind of a person.