Basically ive been with this bloke for nearly two years... he's 29 got a 5 yr old son and so far things have been peachy... although at times i feel like he's being naughty!!! as in either seeing other women or texting / meeting them!!!
I do trust my bloke but to be honest im starting to wonder if i REALLY do!!! he hardly communicates to me any more and im sure that his evil ex is sniffing around !!
I would be absolutely devistated if he is playing around behind my back as ive done nothing but love him and his son.
I need to know if i should bite the bullet and be direct... Ask him straight if hes seeing anyone else or even if he's met up with someone for a drink without me knowing... orrrrrrrrrrr be crafty and find out by other means!!!
2006-10-10 02:45:39 · 24 answers · asked by Cat ( " , ) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So hard to tell you what to do in this situation. Go with your gut. Why not do a little sniffing around and then IF there is something suspect, bite the bullet. If you approach him with nothing but paranoid suspicions you may ruin your relationship for no reason.
2006-10-10 02:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out by other means, but clever subtle means...
Don't risk direct confrontation as this may lead to an emotional torrent for the two of you.
I had a similar dilemma, although what was at stake was pretty minor in comparison. I found out a deception - my instincts were right all along, so go with them. That's all I can say.
2006-10-10 02:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go looking in his phone most men are very crafty and have another girls name under a lads name anyway belive me,and you would only feel **** spying on him,if you have the"gut feeling" its usually right but us woman don't belive it most times,if you ask him he will only deny it anyway and tell you everything you want to hear just keep an eye on him watch his daily routine see if things are changing dont question him dont let him know yr onto anything most men get caught out in the end anyway there never as good at this game as they like to think they are,but i do hope you find nothing out hunni there's nothing worse then a break up were kids r involved good luck x
2006-10-10 03:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by robertboozychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is cheating in any way he wont be honest with you and I have found that when you get a gut instinct then it is usually founded so be crafty and be sure before you hit him with the accusations as most of these guys believe their own lies so get copies of your evidence then you will know for sure and not have the wool pulled over your eyes for years
2006-10-10 02:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you been cheated on before if you have maybe this is why you feel insecure if not then perhaps you should try to find out take a look at his phone or email? If there is nothing on them then perhaps you guys need to chat about why it is you feel this way and how you can change it. Good luck.
2006-10-10 03:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being crafty never works out well, then, if nothing is going on, then you look like an *** for snooping. You should be direct with him... talk to him, tell him how you feel. and if you still cant shake that feeling, then maybe you should snoop. but be prepared for whatever you may find out. good luck!
2006-10-10 02:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by whaaatthe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother making accusations, it doesn't matter what he says. If it comes to that you don't trust him enough to keep being with him. Either you're right and he's a horrible person or you're wrong and you are.
Decide here and how to trust him intil you get unequivical evidence of his innocence or guilt or else move on with your life without him.
2006-10-10 02:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my own bitter experience, I would say trust your instincts. If something doesn't seem quite right, it probably isn't. Find out the facts, by fair means or foul, but don't go digging around if you can't cope with what you might find out.
2006-10-10 03:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by jasmine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah blokes have thoughts.you already know you harm me so undesirable with this remark of yours i'm crying appropriate now.:-(.bahhhhaaahhhabaahhhhhaabbbaaahhh... kidding.On a extra severe word sure we've thoughts and varies from guy or woman to guy or woman.some have extra.
2016-10-16 01:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by kigar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be crafty by other means (mobile) or you could be direct and ask him outright , but first weigh up the odds , 1) Do you think he's capable of cheating on you 2) would he risk it ? , if you think yes then let the bastard have it !
2006-10-13 12:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by naturist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋