I have had this problem since highschool (Im a senior in college now). Guys that want to date me always say rude things to me out of the blue when I least expect it. I think that it's a way for them to try to lower my self esteem so that they feel better about themselves and I think it's an attempt to make me feel desperate like I NEED them or feel like I'm not as worthy. I think that these guys do it to try to manipulate me into settling for less than I'm worth. I know all the reasons why they do it. But what do I need to do when guys do this. They usually catch me off guard. What to say? Do I just walk away?
2006-10-10 02:19:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A guy I was chatting with yesterday just out of the blue, looked down at my purse (which is kinda cute I think) and said "You need to throw that away". How rude is that!? O.K. What do you do when they come up with things like that to say?
2006-10-10 02:21:41 · update #1
I`m sorry you`re experiencing this sort of thing my dear. I honestly have no defense for the bone heads that respond as they do to you. You first must consider the source of the rudeness. Is it worth saying anything and engaing in an unarmed guy in a battle of wits, "Probably not"
School / college is a mixture of every sort of characyer you can possibly find so perhaps develope a one liner response to a couple of common bone head blurps and just keep on track as you come across these guys.
You are obviously a classy young woman, stay focused on your school work and get it behind you and try not to let the guys side track you and slow you down for their own amusemnet, OKAY!!!!!
Hugs
Jim
2006-10-10 02:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy has to say insulting, rude things to you, that indicates he has to put you down to raise himself up. With that kind of issue, you're wasting your time with a guy like that. Do not let a guy manipulate you in any way. Tell them very plainly that you do not appreciate that behavior and then MOVE ON till you find someone who cares for the person you are, not the person they would like to become.
2006-10-10 02:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time, when guys say rude things to a female, it's a way of them trying to be a bad boy or trying to be tough but, they are really making an idiot of themselves. But, the best thing for you to do is just ignore them and tell them go to F off. LOL
2006-10-10 02:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be shelter of what a eye-catching, stable individual you're and be pleased with what you ought to furnish in a dating. i don't understand your dating different than what you wrote on right here yet no one merits any abuse or any disrespect in any style of dating. His abuse is verbal and it is not tolerated. It sounds to me the unfavorable and hurtful issues he has mentioned to you have would come from his very own insecurities. adult males are so diverse from women human beings so he won't be conscious that whether he's joking, what he's asserting is very hurtful. i might recommend be honest and open to him concerning the hurtful comments using fact if he cares he will sympathetic and strengthen on his habit. no one merits to be bullied and there is mostly a effect for a bully. He does not strengthen, you ought to circulate on and locate somebody that relish each and every thing approximately you.
2016-10-19 03:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not say anything because you will be stooping to THEIR level. You do not want to be around anyone like that anyhow would you? Chill out and go on with your life, and if someone like that comes in contact with you, maybe you need to find somewhere else to "hang" at. If it is everyone you meet, maybe you need to do some soul searching and find out why. You may have someone for a "friend" that is not really a "friend", get it?
2006-10-10 02:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a control thing with them. If they can keep you in a box so to say, then they have better control over you and can feel more secure. They need to be put in their place and let know that women aren't going to stand for being mistreated in anyway. I wish you good luck.
2006-10-10 02:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay let me tell you something about guys some of them they are not mature enough to realize what they say. I am 5 months pregnant and my husband to be left me 4 days ago because he needs time. He told me that he doesn't love me anymore..after almost 2years together. He is really mean and it hurts me. Don't` pay attention to them, be yourself you know yourself and that's all it matters. YOU AND ONLY you nobody else. Good luck
2006-10-10 02:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by Raluca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should have told him call me when your mama buy me a new purse! You gotta let males know that you are strong person and you do not take a lot of crap from them. Start thinking on your feet.
2006-10-10 02:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask why they are saying that maybe they are seeing something you are . not defend your self then say thank you for being so concerned but...... ill decide what and when and how i take care of myself and my property if you are not saying something nice please keep your comments to yourself. the guy might be trolling for a woman with esteem problems .assert yourself. and if that is the type of woman they are looking for they will walk away. good luck
2006-10-10 02:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by i can help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually try to come back with a wise @ss comment ! I hate it when men act that way....I believe they are trying to make themselves feel better by be-littling women.
2006-10-10 02:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋