Recently I met a guy in class and we really clicked. Long story short, we slept together. We discussed it and agreed that we both weren't ready for a relationship and so we stopped having sex. We decided to remain friends (ie: go out to places together) and remain open to the possibility of a relationship in the future. Well, we've seen each other a couple of times since our decision and all was fine. Last night in class, he starts telling me how much he misses me and when he walked me home -we both live on campus- he tries to kiss me. I reminded him of our agreement and stated that we should adhere to it. His recent behavior is confusing to me. We agreed to stop having sex and remain friends. Now what's his deal? Why is he trying to kiss me and take it there again?
2006-10-10 02:06:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to say, "I just want to be friends, not sexual partners" and remind him that was the agreement. If he cannot be content with that, you unfortunately should stop seeing him even as a friend, at least for some period of time. Maybe after he moves on, you could then be friends.
2006-10-10 02:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by derrtrichard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will now talk to you about dating in the fifties.
Dating is when you go out, hold hands, get to know each others likes and dislikes, if you agree or disagree on the important things in life. You DO kiss a bunch, but you DO NOT have sex until you feel this relationship is truly serious and you know each other so well that is the only logical next step.
Dating is when you must learn how to handle boundaries. We grew up knowing "in fear" that sex caused babies and we did not want the shame that went with babies out of wedlock.
Fear, shame and embarrassment are good things that yell BOUNDARIES.
Date, go out, have fun, get to know each other (and I don't mean what kind of sex you like).
Do you want a serious relationship? If not stay apart, sex in a non serious relationship can lead to pregnancy then you will be tied together for life through a child that neither of you planned for.
Date and have fun, just know how to say NO.
2006-10-10 02:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only YOU Can answer that. If you slept with him. u surely like him. You spoke of dating in the future? maybe the future is now. Hoever, if you are really not ready 4 a relationship tell him, but dont go crazy when he falls 4 someone else and you are finnaly ready. If you think you can do without him, be frank with him.. about his behaviour
2006-10-10 02:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to kiss you becaus he wants you.
He was probably horny, and he surely trusts you, and obviousely likes you. He may have agreed with you that niether of you were ready for a relationship, but that could have been weeks ago.
If you NEVER want to have a relationship with this guy, you definately have to let him know that... he might be waiting for you.
2006-10-10 02:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kren777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a result of engaging in sex before you should. Apparently, he is not ready for a mature relationship. My advice, break it off completely.
2006-10-10 02:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, here is what I think. it's not right for you to give him a bite of a nice, juicy, and tasty steak, and than try to feed him ramen noodles and expect him to be happy/satified? Or, maybe he is just desperate/needy. I think he is just looking for a little somethign something.
2006-10-10 02:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY ADVICE IS ---JUST HAVE SEX AND ENJOY IT. YOUR IN SCHOOL AND HAVE A HEAVY WORK LOAD TO BEGIN WITH, DON'T ADD PRESSURE TO A ALREADY HARD SITUATION. LIVE AND ENJOY----LIFE IS TO SHORT FOR GAME JUST BE TRUTH FULL BY LETTING HIM KNOW THAT HE HAS NO TRUE CLAIM TO YOU IF YOU SHOULD FIND A PERSON THAT YOU ARE READY TO TRY A RELATIONSHIP WITH....GOOD LUCK
2006-10-10 02:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by calvcanto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hMMM... I would say that hes tring to get laid...i think that you should continue to agree to just being friends and see where it goes...be friends go out places do things together....but remember thuis people want what they cant have or what they think they cant have and then once they get it they throw it away.
2006-10-10 02:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by kristyn m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why have sex with a stranger and then wonder why you can't turn the clock back to just being friends? Hormones don't work that way.
2006-10-10 02:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because just like a cat,once you feed it,they keep coming back for more.
2006-10-10 02:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋