how you keep it successful? Just curious.
2006-10-10 02:02:57 · 16 answers · asked by ♥ lavender baby ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Married my high school sweetheart. We've been married 3 years, together 10.
Patience is the key to a good relationship. Respect is also high up there. I think love without mutual respect is not true love.
Respect each others opinions, never belittle the other person and be exceedingly patient with each other's faults and you'll have happiness.
And it doesn't hurt to be able to laugh at yourself.
My wedding photographer said he could tell which couples were going to last by how much they laughed in stressful situations. If the flowers got all wrong and the bride flipped out, then he said they usually don't last long, but if the bride has the composure to laugh it off and realize it's just flowers and not the end of the world, then those couples usually last.
Laughter is the best medicine.
2006-10-10 03:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by Rainy Days and Mondays 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First love - met when I was 16, he was 19 - we've dated off and on for 12 years and are getting married next year - bottom line is that we're best friends, and at the end of the day, there's no one else that either of us wants to come home to or share everything with. It's hard, and it took us the first almost 10 years to grow up enough to figure it out, but if we've made it this far, I'm not worried about the rest of it.
2006-10-11 01:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First love. Together nine years, married six. The old cliche, "Never go to bed angry," has worked for us. If you're angry about something, talk it out. Try not to nag about things. When arguing, absolutely no name-calling or bringing up the past. Stay on the subject. Say "I love you" with hugs everyday and mean it. I never realized how much work a relationship can be even when you're very much in love. We've had some major ups and downs these past nine years, but we're still strong. We're trying to do everything our parents didn't do! :)
2006-10-10 09:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by GSDoxie3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My First love turned out to be a loser, addicted and wont work, so he's not in the picture. (14 years ago)
My second "love" decided his hands were not for hugging, but for hitting- so hes not in the picture (10 years ago)
My 3rd (and final!!) love of my life is here with me and we are engaged to be married! (been together 4.5 years, with a toddler). He is my everything and I am glad to have waited to get married until God sent me the right person.
We keep it together through communication. It is the key to everything. We dont fight about anything, and never have. Anything that we need to talk about, we sit down and talk, and we dont let it fester until it is out of control.
It is a lot of give and take, like watching a football game with him instead of the movie i have been dying to see and then have him turn around and watch the movie with me later.
I make sure he is fed (a happy man is a fed man! lol), we make sure te remind each other all the time just how important we are to each other, and we support each others dreams (no matter how far fetched sometimes they can be). I am his backbone to keep him straight and he is my legs to hold me up. Its all about love. Trust, honesty, compassion and care are the glues that hold us together.
2006-10-10 09:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by mixedchick4blkguys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in love before but never like this, although I am my husband's first love. We have been married for nearly two years, together for nearly four. Our marriage is easy, he asks me for something, I say no. I ask him for something, he says yes :)
No seriously... love, laughter, communication and understanding. You will not always agree on everything. Finding a middle ground is important. One of our secrets is my husband and I try to go out on a "date" every week - this time is really important to us - quality time together. During the week, we get really tired from work etc. and may not have good talks every night so we came up with 'date night' as a way of catching up with anything we might have missed.
2006-10-10 09:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by Bliss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first love, we've been together for 8 years, since we were 15, we are now married and pregnant with our first child.
the key is Dont Sweat the Small Stuff! Focus on whats really important, not who didnt rinse the dishes, or leave the toilet seat up, in the end it doesn't even matter! Compromise is key.
make sure you do fun things together, go for a hike, go to the movies, to the park, ect. try new things together.
2006-10-10 10:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by TN girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because when I met him I realised I had never experienced anything like this before, and anything else I felt paled into insignificance. We have been together for 2 years and plan to marry next year
2006-10-10 10:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First love decided he liked his mom better.
Second love decided he wanted to hit me.
Third time's a charm and I have been married to him almost 10 years and we have 3 kids.
2006-10-10 09:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First love, two kids, together for 8 years, slpit up one and back together, will be married soon, talk often and be open, don't fight just talk things through
2006-10-10 11:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by charmz21lucky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am with my 1st love & we've been together since 2002... But I don't know whether if our relationship is going to be successful or not...
2006-10-11 12:38:24 · answer #10 · answered by nurfarizah1979 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋