i have helped out my long distance gf for ages with livin expenses but she expects even more, and if i say anything like i have given u this much doesnt that show i care she gets offended, would u get offended ladies if i brought that up in a relationship
2006-10-10 02:02:10 · 21 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry honey, but I think she's taking you for a ride!!
You are under no obligation to keep funding her lifestyle, you're not married or signed into any binding contract? If she can't live within her means then she should ask her parents; who've most probably already stopped dishing out money, hence her constantly asking you!!
Tell her you've got to save for you're future together (i.e. deposit for home, etc) and that if she keeps spending it now you won't have a future!!
I was once in a relationship where I financially helped out my partner, but then they took it that I always would, so needless to say he got the boot!!
Say goodbye to your money leech and find some-one who'll not bleed you dry.
p.s. I wouldn't get offend because my partner wouldn't have to remind me how much he's given me!!
2006-10-10 02:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetcakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she expect you to be a sugardaddy? If you're like my man, you have your own expenses that need to be taken care of. Have you been clear just how much you can help her? Set up a budget or set amount. If its not enough I would start to wonder if she's using you just to get money.
2006-10-10 02:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. And you have a big problem here. This does not sound like a reciprocal relationship, but a use. Think it over. Maybe it is time to wake up and smell the coffee.
2006-10-10 02:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your bein taken for a ride give it up before its to late.my ex wife left me with 28 grand o debt although it a little different.woman use us soft hearted men to get wot they want and then bang there away with not a care in the world.tell her shes gettin no more and see wot happens my guess will be shell be gone good luck
2006-10-10 02:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by adrian c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MMM....we don't really know the whole picture!! Maybe she's taken it for granted that you've paid for soo much that she just assumes you'll help her out even more. You can't blame her totally if she sounds as tho she's gotten away with it for long enough!!
2006-10-10 02:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by dudet_Jude: ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
draw her up a repayment plan, say a fiver a week...then you can tell her that you're giving her this plan so she can face up the fact that she doesn't deserve you because you are way to good to have trusted her for so long. some women are horrible like that....but it can also happen to us chicks....a nice nature is smelt a mile off honey....as is money xx
2006-10-10 02:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by lil missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never ask a boyfriend to help with my living expenses! And I wouldn't take it if it was offered. Sharing the bills is for marriage... she isn't being fair...
2006-10-10 02:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gf is only finding ways to prolong the fact that she is using you. She has no respect... probably no trust... no love. Spend your energy (and money) on yourself in positive ways.
2006-10-10 02:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by Stitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise you to consult a private investigator. When you see how many other men she is living off of, you won't even want her.
2006-10-10 02:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by lifeloom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Users are Losers, been there done that. Get out while the gettin is good!!
2006-10-10 02:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by KB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋