all my life i have taken care of other people and not myself. i am 36yrs old and never lived my life for me. how do i start to live for me. i moved into my own apartment and now what do i do?
2006-10-10 01:57:59 · 9 answers · asked by muggy1970 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Now's the moment for you to follow your dream. I'm 65 and have only been alone for five years and finally able to focus on the things I love to do. I'm writing a book, crocheting, sewing, meeting friends for dinner, taking long drives on back roads looking for wildlife, re-connecting with friends I haven't heard from in 40 years, and having a great time. I was always someone's daughter, wife, mother, teacher, counselor, health care provider, grandmother.....and now I have time for me! It's so liberating. I sleep when I'm tired; I stay up late when I'm not; I eat when I'm hungry; I feel so free!
At your age, if you can dream it, you can do it! Find your passion and go for it! Decorate your apartment the way YOU like it! Find a job that gives you enough money to pay for your needs and a few "wants"
In my life as it is now I am alone but never lonely.
2006-10-10 03:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you like to do? Go golfing, bowling, join the Y, take a class, have the guys over for the game, sleep in late on weekends. Go on a camping trip with a friend. Visit your family. Have someone over for dinner. Volunteer to coach or be involved with kids, great way to meet single parents.....
Find out what makes you tick. Know what good things you have to share in a relationship. Make wise decisions. Have a ball.
Right now work and home is probably going to be it. Learn to cook. Keep the place up. Do things that will attract a partner who is responsible and respectful of you. Give it some time. The whole situation will become more comfortable as you learn to live with yourself. It's grand.
I loved the little apartment I lived in alone. I worked and went to school (I was 26). I hung out with friends and family and had my own space. I did what I wanted when I wanted. It was a very good time in my life.
2006-10-10 09:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really not enough detail in you question to give you an appropriate answer. I guess it depends on what you mean by living for yourself. It sound very self centered to me. Which seems to be the down fall to our society. You know Mother Tressa live her whole life for others. How would she answer this question. It is all how you look at it. I wake up everyday with a list of things to do that involves taking caring care others. In in a round about way it is taking care of me. When others around me are happy it makes me happy with no stress. I just by asking this question are you really living for yourself like yo think you want. Or are you just wanting us to tell you how to live.
2006-10-10 09:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by khaines_98 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make over your physical self. Get a great new (high quality) hair cut and style. Buy a few new pieces of clothing and fabulous high heels that will make you feel very sexy.
Go places and show yourself off. Where there are lots of people and music and activities. Movies, art shows, theater, a busy local cafe or cocktail lounge or your church or a new church that fits your age group. Get out and meet people in a place that fits the new you.
Throw yourself into life.
2006-10-10 09:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good move, getting your own place. Now all you have to do is to do anything and everything you like to do. Get a part time job or join a charity group or something like that and meet people and in no time you will be happy and living for yourself.
2006-10-10 09:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have a job, work, try to have fun in your spare time, doing thing that you enjoyed, it is not necessary to do great things to be happy, just what you like. Maintain your apartment in good conditions, decorating it with your own taste and things, that's really nice to be on your own. Star thinking in yourself.
2006-10-10 09:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by pelancha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a part time job as a real estate agent in a large corporate firm, Lots of people with lots of different agendas. Some like to socialize a lot.
2006-10-10 09:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by zocko 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Join a social club and meet new people.
Pamper yourself.
Join a health spa.
Have at least one guilty pleasure event per day.
2006-10-10 10:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get involved in activities YOU love .... clubs, churuch, whatever ... and when you least expect it someone will come along and want to join you .... being you!
2006-10-10 08:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by life_unreal125 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋