2006-10-10 01:45:48 · 17 answers · asked by ^-^ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's ok. Perfectly normal reaction. Be patient, as you go through puberty you will run into more problems besides whether or not you have a boyfriend. But take comfort in the fact that we have all gone through this. Every young woman goes through this. Every young man goes through it too. There is probably a boy who likes you and is just as afraid of talking to you as you are to talk to him. It will be okay. It's just as scarey for us grown ups too. Besides, it really is okay to not have a boyfriend. Just don't rate your own self worth on whether or not you have a boyfriend. I see grown women like that and they live a very sad, pathetic life. So many of them end up with men who are abusive because the just want a man in their lives. Hang in there and wait for the right one to come along. And when you do get a boyfriend, don't believe him when he says, "If you love me, you will have sex with me." Love yourself first. It's ok, and even something to be proud of, the longer you are innocent.
2006-10-10 02:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok, nothing wrong with you. It's natural to fear love, it is a scary thing, you leave yourself open & vunerable to things.... Theres the scary chance you may become attached then hurt, or that you'll loose your freedom... Maybe your not ready for a full on relationship? Or maybe your frightened of being burned..,
Maybe one day when the right man comes along, you'll become more trusting, but just stay true to yourself, & keep your independance, don't loose yourself in a relationship. Still do your own thing, see your own friends don't become totally absorbed in this guy. It's ok I get it too, it's like being claustrophibic, usually it goes away with me after about 2 weeks....
2006-10-10 02:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by idk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but to me it seems you're afraid of getting hurt. maybe possibly letting some one in for the first time. you're nervous of what you might think could be expected out of you, like a kiss cuz if you haven't had a b/f b-4 chances are you haven't been kissed. stuff like that gives you a little anxiety. Just try to be ok with hanging out with the next guy that comes around. do things that you feel are nuetral, like if he's into video games or watching tv shows, something that will releave some pressure. you get more used to that person and spending time with them you'll get more comfortable and it could evolve into a relationship. another choice is to date him with a few of his friends that are couples or whatever, group dating.
2006-10-10 01:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by dabluschmosprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its only natural to be scared especially when its about its about breaking your heart. i had that experience but today am a very happy girl being loved and loving.i think u should just be real and yourself, the right guy will come along and u will definitely see it and feel it in your heart of hearts. u might be scared at first but i'll advice that u take the bull by the horn.life's full of risk u know infact everything you do in this world is all risk. i wish u all the best and luck. u definitely will find your heart, someone who will make u happy.
2006-10-10 02:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by maize 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself was in your shoes except for I'm a guy ( AND NO I'M NOT GAY) Your probably putting to much thought into weather the guys gonna be interested or not; or just what he thinks in general. That needs to stop. Once you stop caring what other guys (or girls wahaha) think you will be well on your way to healthy successful dating. Once your older though you ll realize dating is just a game and being your a female you will always be the winner cause there's always some poor smock of a guy waiting for someones leftovers myself included.
2006-10-10 02:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by CamaroCarr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like none of those guys you had met was really an understanding type. I wish you'll soon meet an understanding guy who'll really stir up the potentials in you. The fact that you want a guy for yourself suggests that you've got potentials for loving and caring. If it is ok by you, lets have a chat - you and I. You may contact me through my profile if you can. Cheers!
2006-10-10 01:56:25 · answer #6 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe sense you have never had one that you are in fear of the un-known. if you really like some one get to know them and as you feel comfortable let him know that he is your first . i don't know how old you are so I'm not sure if the intimacy thing is some thing for you to be concerned with/if so don't give out too much info. for awhile. the reason i say that is because most guys will tell a virgin what ever she wants to hear in order to get in her panties. never ever do any thing you feel un-comfortable about- no guy is worth that. good luck!!!
2006-10-10 02:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? it sound like u not ready for a bf cause if u want a bf u will know .
2006-10-10 01:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you are inexperienced.
Perhaps if you were to give one of those guys an indicator that you are interested [a gentle smile] things might change for you.
2006-10-10 02:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by enirgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll change in the next few years... Wait till you are a bit older...
2006-10-10 01:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋