the thing is he goes to church alot and live his life by the bible i on the other hand can be a bit outgoing and not so conservative and somewhat freeky in the bedroom i feel that our personalities will clash but he keeps pursuing me will it work out if i date him or not?
2006-10-10 01:29:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I see lots of arguments. A best friend of mines for the past 20 year has gotten EXTREMLY religious in the past year and now our friendship is just about over. She WILL NOT respect MY beliefs and keeps trying to impose HER ways on me and I am NOT having it (I am a non-believer) We just had a text message huge arguement Friday. Texting is how she communicates with me now. BUT I have had enough and our paths are toooo different. I do not know her anymore. I 'm not saying this will happen to you. BUT she and I always respected the other until this past year. She has turned fanatic and I don't have the time or patience to be bothered. IF he can respect the fact that you guys are different and if he can NOT judge you I would say give it a try BUT I really think its gonna be probmatic.
2006-10-10 01:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to decide not to date him for religious reasons. He sounds like a great guy, but your differences in values and beliefs will probably cause problems. If you get involved with him, you'll most likely break up and both end up hurt. It's possible you'll work out as a couple, but only if you can respect each other as you are and not try to change each other. Also, a willingness to adapt to the other person's lifestyle and compromise is helpful. If you want to date him, be willing to involve yourself in the things that are important to him and don't try to make him be someone he's not. Hopefully he'll do the same for you. If you don't date, he still might be a good friend that you can trust. You might be able to learn from each other.
2006-10-10 08:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ashana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I as a woman did like you do and I find that I had a choice to make,invest in a serious long-term relationship where I can realize a safe haven for my emotions or just find fleeting relationships that amount to just vanities for the short term.I was at first apprehensive about our relationship but found out that with some discipline I can be able to curb some of my freaky side and reserve them for someone that is much more deserving of them,learn what makes him so attracted to you and build on it at the same time complement his beliefs and position it will give you the stability you need as a woman,and love will find a way,as I have done,good luck
2006-10-10 08:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by delmy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're views, especially that of religion is that spread apart, then it may be a bit difficult. If your personalities are that of night and day, it could still work. It may even be quite passionate, but it could also be very turbulent.
If you're looking long term, I'd say find someone with more in common. If you're just looking for some fun, then you may want to try something a little different....just remember, it's all fun and games until someone gets hurt.
2006-10-10 08:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep dating him unless clashing religious beliefs start to become a problem. Don't try to hide your differences from him. If it looks like it is about to become a problem, head it off at the pass. The best thing you can do is tell him how you feel. Most people can tell if you aren't being open.
2006-10-10 08:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, let me say that he isn't living strictly by the Bible because God says to reserve sex for the married life. As far as dating a religious guy, if you have no desire to share in his beliefs, you may be able to make it work now, but if some day you decide to get married and have kids, it's the kids that will have a real problem. By whose belief system are you going to raise them?
2006-10-10 08:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by Youth Pastor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way to know if you two would work out or not. He obviously likes you, and it sounds like you have feelings for him too. What intrigues you about him, what personality traits does he have that you enjoy?
If you like him you should give it a shot. If he is pushy about his beliefs, then stand your ground. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work, and that's okay. Some of my good friends and I have different fundamental beliefs, but we still get along famously.
Just do what feels right, and try not to analyze it too much! :)
2006-10-10 08:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by aireekah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might both learn a lot from each other. Seeing different perspectives on life makes us think more, be more open to other's thoughts and not close off their thinking. Try it.
2006-10-10 08:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by [B] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dunno you or this guy... but I think normally its not a problem dating a religious person as long as they don't start preaching me.
What I don't like is people telling me what to do? girls can be like that sometimes.. n I always put them in their place. Because thats not how I've decided to live my life. So I'll date someone who is religious as long as she doens't try to convert me.
2006-10-10 08:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by direct2leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. The religion things will come back to haunt you and make your life a living hell.
2006-10-10 10:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋