My son is 2.5 years old and he's a wild one it seems like im always telling him of and I have tried all the sorts of dissinplary action, well what the experts say including a smack on the bum. He just dosen't listen My mum keeps saying its just terrible two's, but he used to be so placid and now he has gone feral? and he has had a hearing test so thats not the answer any tips out there on how to control him. I did suffer PND for 18 months of his life so whether Im getting it back but he does the same thing with my husband . I give up Help me???
2006-10-10 01:29:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Your son is expressing his independence, and he's taking you all down with him. It's the terrible twos.. and you have nothing to worry about. Up until he started acting out, he was a baby.. and had no need to be independant from you. He was given everything he needed, and what he needed, he got. Now, he's growing up, and he's decided that he doesn't want people doing things. He's testing the limits, he's asserting his independence.. and it's going to be tough on everyone. A child's only way to tell people that he's ' a big boy' is to act out. He's only 2.5.. so he doesn't have the words to say these things.. the only thing he has is his behavior.
Make sure that you have clearly stated limits, and repeat them. Don't sweat the small stuff...
Some experts recommend making 'baskets'. It's not real baskets, just imaginary one, but it goes like this..
Basket A - Things that just don't matter - Is he repeating what you say, is he crying because he can't have something, is he playing with something noisy? These things just don't matter. You should just leave him alone, and let him do what he's going to do. Disciplining for things that just don't matter in the long run is going to make things harder on everyone.
Basket B - Things that you don't want him to do, but isn't going to hurt anyone - is he jumping on the bed, playing with pots and pans, yelling while he's having fun? Let him know that there are times and places for certain things.. But basically.. let the kid be a kid.. you'd want to jump on the bed if you could.. so let him.
Basket C - Things that are NON-negotiable - is he trying to run on the road, playing with knives, touching heaters? Those things are NO-NO's and they should NEVER be negotiated. He should have clear boundaries of the things that are always off limits. And you should never waver on them. Think of the things that he will NEVER be allowed to do, and make sure he knows ( even if you have to tell him 300 times) that he is not, and will never be able to do those things.
If his running wild is just annoying you.. let it alone. If he's hurting himself or others, make sure that he knows the things that are hurting people are off limits. All kids go a little wild.. what makes it a fun time, or a horrible time is how their parents choose to deal with it.
2006-10-10 01:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like the terrible two's! But you may also have a very sensitive little boy who picks up how you feel. I have suffered PND for 3 years and it has only be recently that I have medication to treat it which means I am calmer which my boy who is 5 and my daughter who is 3. My son can be extremely difficult at times and I have found that he picks up on how i am. We have to use a total different technique for discipline with him then our daughter, he is quite happy to have a negative response then nothing at all. So know we try and ignore the bad behavior and really praise the good behavior which is very difficult at times but he has improved. I hope this helps?
2006-10-10 01:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lookie here ma'm i have 5 kids ages 13,9,6,3 and 2 days all of them are boys except for the 3 year old 2 year old kids are hyper and excited my kids with my wife were fine they threw the most tantrums when they were 2 and even now the 3 year old girl is the daddy's girl i was the extra hand for my wife so the 3 year old was the one she given me to handle 2 yera old kids are babies turning big toddlers os enjoy this part of life a little thing to help i've done this with my 13 year old when he was 4:when you are in the car and he is naughty and hyper leave him on the side of the road then drive away and hide the car count to ten and come back try it it was effective but this may cause him to cry and to cling to you it's normal dont worry
2006-10-10 01:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by 5kidsdad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hugs - it is the terrible twos, and him seeking his independance. But it also might be things like, additives in his food. I have heard amazing things about behaviour that is linked to this.
Also, when my DD was 3 we went and saw a toddler counsellor about her behaviour. She was so independant and determined.
The counsellor suggested allowing a time, each day, of about 5 mins where my DD was the boss. She got to choose the game etc and I was just the passive one, not allowed to have an opinion as such, just do as I was told.
THEN, during the day, when she was getting naughty or stubborn i coudl then say 'no, it's mummys turn now to be the boss, it was your turn when we were playing 'blah blah'.
ANyway -goodluck with it all!!!
2006-10-10 01:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by zuj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all don't blame yourself, his behaviour is probably a normal stage of his development, they all put up for boss at some point and test the boundaries then push them! You need to be consistant and try and be calm. It helps to understand why your son is being like this. There are some good parenting sites like bbc.co.uk/parenting which are really helpfull. You wont feel as stressed when you realize that this will pass.
2006-10-10 01:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing that my son couldn't stand was the corner. At that young age 2 minutes should work. The hate the isolation when there is still so much going on around them. I would just make him, stand or sit there and it took a while but eventually all you had to do was warn him you were going to put him there and he would stop.
2006-10-10 01:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Tonya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time for a parenting class for you and your husband. You are obviously not disciplining him properly (that is not the same as punishing), and you need to learn how. Watch Supernanny for hints - she is absolutely marvelous., and try to get some help for the two of you to learn how to handle things. Remember that positive reinforcement is a much better motivator than negative. (that goes for adults, too.)
2006-10-10 04:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be consistant with punishment. make him sit some where in [time out] where he does not normally sit. 1 minute each time he is dir-respectful. if he gets up or screams let him know he will get another minute added on. some times it may help if you remind him that if he is a good boy that he can get up . always hug and tell him that you love him after punishment and explain to him that every one loves nice kids and that bad behavior is un-exceptable.
2006-10-10 01:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try just holding him and talking and or singing to him. and your mom is right. for some reason the 2s can be a hand full my children are grown and out but one has a 18 mon. hand full for sure, you might try books too. that is what seems to help. our little one likes them plus childrens shows, elmo, big comfy couch just a few.good luck and give him lots of hugs
2006-10-10 01:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by mamma bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋