i am a mother of 3 yrs old baby girl, the guy fathering my baby came into my life a year b4 i had my baby. then he showed me love and care and he promise us getting married not until when i bcame prgnant and then he had a new girlfriend of which he abadon me in my condition. when the prgnancy was 5 months he came up to me in the presence of his girlfriend to give money 2 abort the it of which i rfused nd there he beat me up seriously and with the help of my parents i was medically attend to until the day i put to bed. now he is back 4 continuation of the reletionship but whenver i or my parents ask him if he will marry me , all he has 2 tell them is that if it is the will of God. presently am going back 2 sch and he is financially down.
2006-10-10 01:01:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The will of God? That has got to be the funniest thing I have read on here yet. Listen girl, and listen well, because here comes your wake-up call. This louse that you call the father of your child has never intended and will never intend to marry you. He banged you, he got you pregnant, he dumped you (and his unborn child) for someone else, he physically assaulted you. And now he is back in your life? Have you no pride? Get rid of him as quickly as possible, and build a life for yourself and your child. Do not wait for this scum to marry you - no. 1, he never will, and no. 2, even if he did, it would be the worst thing that could ever happen to you.
2006-10-10 01:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this loser he beat you while you were pregnant . You should have called the authorities and had him locked away for good . Stay away from, him he is a loser and a coward. any man(and I use that term loosely) that would beat a woman is a loser in the biggest way. No hell no do not continue this relationship and you need to get an order of protection against him. He will try to beat you again if you let him. Nope do not go back to him and for lord's sake do not marry him or he will continue to beat you and then he will start beating your daughter. And are your parents mentally distrubed ?, why in god's name would they let you or want you to marry this beast. NO NO No
Run as far and as fast as you can away from this person.
2006-10-10 01:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you like to put up with this kind of guy for the rest of your life? living in fear and burdens? no matter if he's the father of the child or not, that should not be a decision factor to be with him or not. one can still be very poor but live happily, richness cannot buy one a happy life but with his behavior are you going to drag yourself though the rest of your life with him? firstly, thank God you are not even marry to him yet so there are still time to really think what you want for yourself and your child. would you want your child to grow up in an unhealty family environment. remember old habits die hard. no matter what could be promissing now it would never happen cause people normally will only regret for that second but not many people are determine to change for the better. his life will proof more than words all these years so it's time that you do a good evalution on this. remember you will be able to live even without him if you want too unless you choose to mess up your life too it will definately be hurting and will take time but you won't die without him!
2006-10-10 02:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm hun, there is this thing we call work. I mean danm it look for a job and live with your folks until you find a place to live.
i am pretty sure they are a lot of great guys out there who help you with the kid. And by the way, did he get jail time for this? he better because i dont know where you are but we are not in China baby girl.
2006-10-10 01:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by hutdast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broke is temporary.
Poor is a state of mind.
If he beat you once, what makes you think he won't do it again??
Kick him to the curb, find a better man.
Good Luck
2006-10-10 01:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by usaf.primebeef 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly if he's beating you then you need to leave him alone. If he says he's so much into God then he wouldn't have abandoned you in the first place. Just think about the safety of your child!!
2006-10-10 01:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by hotchick5195 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your self these questions, why do i want to be with a man who beats me, why do i want to raise my children with a man who will teach them abuse? Thats what they will learn, if you have little girls, and they see mommy getting beat by a man, they are gonna think "thats ok" to be treated that way, and its not! Your son is gonna think, "its ok" to beat a woman because that is what you have shown them. He will have your self eseem so low you will think you are worthless, and your not, your worth more than that! Love your self and your children enought to get out and stay out of that kind of relationship!
2006-10-10 01:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by Lace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love him hmmmmm but dont get your self into trouble again. He is only disguising due to the present situation.
2006-10-10 01:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by Maximux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he came vt his ex girl frnd......told u to finish of that kid...which god d almighty made.....now came back................WHEN HE IS OUT OF MONEY....................do u thing that he really came 4 u...or 4 d money......wen talking abt marriage.....y he says god's wish.......y he told u to abort that precious thing...........hw can a man have 1 another affair when he is already engaged.....yes a man has.....when he cheats is real luv...[not ex girl]. marriage life is not a footbal game...........its real life..........till our end...............
2006-10-10 01:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is obviously a jerk.dont waste your time with a
broke jerk!
2006-10-10 01:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by d game guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋