I love my bf and care alot for his mother. I get on great with her. But they kiss on the lips everytime they see each other and everytime they are leaving each other. But he calls to see her everyday for a few hours. There are times then when she'll just approach him mid conversation or visit and catch him by the cheeks and kiss him on the lips. It does make me very uncomfortable. I love that they have such a great relationship and think that affection should be shown as much as possible. But i think parents and children over a certain age should confine affection to cheek kisses and hugs. Am I very wrong??! :-/
2006-10-10 00:45:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He doesn't phone her for a few hours everyday. He actually calls to visit her for a few hours a day, she lives on her own nearby. They do phone each other alot though too.
2006-10-10 00:53:10 · update #1
I do have a child. We show great affection toward each other. But she is still only 8. My own family are very affectionate toward each other but not with lip kisses. I also wonder how my bf would feel if I kissed my father on the lips every time we met and also if he approached me as she does him with kisses on the lips mid conversation.
2006-10-10 02:31:48 · update #2
I see nothing wrong with your boy friend and his mothers behavior and show closeness where it should be. we live in a world where people push away from their parents once they reach adulthood does not make it right. a kiss is a greeting like a very friendly handshake. I think your own mind wont allow you to grasp this as normal loving family matters that harms no one but instead shows the affection we all should have to those parents that not only brought us into the world but tried hard for many years to shield us from harm. acceptance is a big thing and if this is a problem for you to deal with perhaps this is not the man for you. because of issues we all have that tend to overwhelm us, just becomes another reason to have a bad break-up in the future.
2006-10-10 01:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, are you talking pecks or passionate embraces? If it were a peck, I wouldn't worry about it. If they liplocked each time they see each other I would be concerned. I have a feeling you are talking about pecks, though, yes?
One thing I have found that holds true is if you want to see how a man will treat you when you are together, look at how he treats his Mom. Works almost every time.
I think it is great they have such a wonderful relationship. Judging by the way you say they are together, it looks like he is probably a great guy. Of course, you don't want a momma's boy, but if he is able to live his life away from Mom, and put you first in the relationship, then I say don't sweat loving pecks when they see each other.
Hope this helped.
2006-10-10 03:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My bf kisses his mom on the lips too, it is actually part of their heritage traditions. I have to say not as often, but really I am not phased by it because it is not passionate and I know that all members of his family are very lovey. If it really bothers you, you need to talk to him and ask him about it. There are nice ways to approach tricky matters like this. If you can not tell or ask him 99% of things then, I hate to say it, the relationship may not be going anywhere. Maybe he can talk to his mom or just cut down a little. Every little boy has to let go of his mommy at some point as the mommy has to let him go to. This does not mean that he should completely stop, but cutting back seems like it may help. I'd look at it as another way that he can show how much love he can offer, more then what he can offer to his mom and you will know that it is true and genuine.
2006-10-11 08:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
All I can say is yuck; but I also know this is the case in many families and you proabably shouldn't read too much into it. People show affection in many different ways and its completely harmless. They are obviously very close (is he a mamas boy?) If this is how they have always shown affection to each other ....I dont see it changing. You either have to deal or bounce.
2006-10-10 01:28:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
A lot of families kiss on the lips! SO WHAT! quit making such a big deal over nothing....GROW UP! You are the sick-o who tries to make something bad out of something good!
2006-10-10 00:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Yes you are wrong. A man who loves his mother is a great catch for a girl.
2006-10-10 01:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This does sound a little odd. Especially when you said he talks to her every day for a few hours. When you get involved with a man who has never really cut the apron strings, you take on the mother as part of the baggage for as long as she lives. Aside from their unusual behavior, ask yourself if you want to have her deeply in your life forever.
2006-10-10 00:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I did not read everything that you wrote because it is too long, but was enough to say that this is not normal, you are going to have much trouble with this relationship all the time, if it does not change, leave him is not good for you, imagine your future with dealing with that.
2006-10-10 02:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by pelancha 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hmmmm - sounds like they have the hots for each other! Dump him and get a boyfriend of your own.
2006-10-10 01:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by Sabi 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
he sounds like a mommas boy. why would you want a mommas boy? I couldn't care less about the kissing, it is the phone calls for a few hours..... yeck. You didn't say how old you were so I am guessing young like twenties. Now go find a man to date and leave this one for his mommy.
2006-10-10 00:49:29 · answer #10 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋