i need ur advice so plzzz answer it very seriously?

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in june my bf quarreled with me coz he saw me doing salsa with another guy. he mesd me instantly that i should be in his arms and that the other guy is me bf. i kept tellin him that he's jus a dance partner. then he kept sending irritatin nmesgs to me that im a bad gal etc tht he feels like slapping me, i shouldnt wear certain kinda clothes etc.but then in august he kept the frnshipband i had gifted him on his birthday on my car n went. i kept silent. then he dropped a mesg with only my cell no written on it in my dad's cell. after remaining silent for 3 months, i replied him tht he shouldnt mesg on my dad's cell. then he told me tht he has come to know tht i hav been other boy's gf, im a bad gal then i told him tht its wrong n i only know him but then he said tht he will observe me for 2 months then he will becom mesg frnd. i told him not to mesg me coz he was jus blaming me. now in september, he keeps mesgin me tht y am i not gettin married, people r rejecting me etc. then i told him

never to mesg me even then he keeps mesgin me. i then sent a mesg tht this no isnt with me anymore but with my frnd even then he mesgs.NOW MY QUES IS- ON 1 SIDE HE TOLD ME ITS ALL OVER , HE DOESNT CARE ABOUT ME. THE OTHER SIDE HE KEEPS MESGIN ME, ASKIN ME TO LISTEN TO CERTAIN SONG ON TV, COMES TO SEE ME IN MALL ETC, ASKS ME BY MESGIN WHERE AM I GOING?, YESTDAY HE CAME TO SEE ME N THEN MESGS THT IM A BAD GURL N I MESGD GUDBYE. HE SENT A 4WARD MESG EVEN THEN . BUT WHEN I MESGD THT DONT U KNOW THE MEANING OF GUDBYE...HE MESGD WHO CARED N BECAME SILENT. DOES HE LOVE ME ?? COZ HE ONLY CONTACTS ME I NEVER CONTACT BUT JUS REPLY SOME OF HIS MESGS. WHY DOES HE SEND BAD GURL MESG DOES HE REALLY THINK IM BAD, THEN Y HE CONTACTS ME AFTER MY RUDE MESGS NOT TO CONTACT ME...HE CONTACTS, THEN AFTER 2-3 MESGS HE WRITES SOMTHING DISTURBING N THEN V BECOME SILENT ALL THE TIME THIS THING HAPPENS. WHAT SHOULD I DO ? WILL HE B NORMAL??

BUT HE HASNT CALLED IN THESE 3-4 MONTHS BUT MESGS

Answer 1

Please use better English words, No short hand or shortin words.Use spelling check. and Redo your question so we can help you out better.Thank you

Answer 2

You are not texting now, please, even if you spell the words wrong, use the normal wording.
As far as I can tell, he has a few definite problems that could turn into your problems should you continue this relationship.
1) He's controlling, as in a control freak
2) He's jealous and don't understand the difference between a 'dance partner' and a 'boyfriend'.
3) He's trying to upset you with his messages of your being a bad girlfriend.
4) He's playing head games with you and that's not good.
Dump his irrigating azz like a hot potato and tell him to hit the street running and don't bother to look back. You've had your fill of his crap and he should leave you alone from this point forward. Change your number if you have to so he can't text or call you.

Answer 3

He doesn't love you, he's just obsessed with you. He's insecure and jealous and taking it out on you. He's calling you a bad girl because he wants to manipulate you by making you feel guilty. Don't believe what he says about you. It doesn't matter what he thinks about you. He has no right to tell you what to wear or say that he feels like slapping you. He needs some serious mental help from a counselor so he doesn't end up being an abuser. Stay away from him and let your parents know about everything he's been doing and saying to you. They can get a restraining order if needed. Don't talk to him except to cut off the relationship. Get someone who can protect you to go with you if you do it in person. Don't respond to any further messages, you'll only encourage him if you do. You'll probably need to change your number and only give it to people you can trust not to give it to him, unless you can somehow block his calls and messages. Unfortunately, I don't think he'll be normal, as you say, until he gets a lot (years worth) of professional help. You need to only go out with guys who trust and respect you.

Answer 4

Sounds like very obssesive relationship ... (On his part).

First of all, you should deside whether you want to be with him or not (Although I see no flicker of intention in your question).

If you're not, then you should meet him (in case that's possible, because the more personal it is the more effective it will be) and confront him with this ... 'revelation': that he's no longer your guy and has no right to judge you. Should that fail to keep him away, you should report harassment.

Even if you like him, you should really think whether you want to be with a guy who has such high standarts of loyalty towards you and tries to control your every action. I would advice: don't.

I wish you best luck in resolving this matter :).

On the matter of additional information:

Seems like he pushed you away with his 'behavior', then realized it. Now he's afraid of contacting you (due to the history you have together) but still wants to keep you close.

My personal advice is to:
- First, consider whether you want this relation, this friend by your side.
- Second, if you you don't ... cut the connection off completely! Threw phone call, personal meeting, court house, or mobile phone company (changing numbers). Whichever suits you more.

Answer 5

There are 2 factors of high school the academic section and the social section the two are significant yet no one cares approximately your love existence while it comprises stepping into college or getting a job. i've got informed my little ones that the 2d you step onto the HS campus,it truly is a race. people who get distracted (reference the story appropriate to the tortoise and the hare) at an identical time as racing finally end up sitting on the floor of the commencement ceremony staring at somebody else giving the speeches and getting the scholarships. you nonetheless desire me to cost you? You get a 0 in case you do no longer stability the social and academic factors of high school and come out the winner on the tip. seems such as you're becoming distracted already.......

Answer 6

I say remain silent, ignore him.
Go as far as changing your phone number, do not give him the satisfaction of responding to him.
As for him watching you, that's called stalking. That's against the law, get a restraining order, make life hard on him, most important keep safe, he sounds like a wacko.
Good luck.

Answer 7

To me it seems that you are living a confusing life. If you have a boyfriend who really loves you it should understand with confidence that you are his. And second, IF you tell someone no they should listen and stop the blaming the other party without geting the story str8. with that said try to get another boyfriend or stay lonely for awhile maybe you need to calibrate yourself.

Answer 8

Possesive or jealous guys can be dangerous to have around. He wants to wind you around his finger. If you allow him, you'd never have any initiative again in the relationship; why would you allow him?

Answer 9

dump him...if he's not happy with the fact that ur not cheating its time for him to go...if he doesn't trust u its not gonna work...besides he's probablly feeling insecure and blaming u for things that he may be doing...he shouldn't treat u this way..all it's doing is putting u down...it hurts...i noe...but he gots 2 go!...

Answer 10

if the guy don't trust you, why waste your time? ask for your dance partner to accompany you to your bf and tell him everything and afetr that forget about him. he should have trust you form the very beginning. bot of you should be honest with each other.

Answer 11

it doesnt quite look as if youre quite ready to go fully steady with a boy at the moment, so id just give him the flick.