what would you do ?

Question

what would you do if you 9yr old tells you that her father raped her? yoursisters daughter tell you that it happened and she told her mother and she does not believe her?(in a case that this realy happened)

i meant or if it happened to your sister's daughter and your sister does not believe

remember we are talking about in a case that this realy happened and the child is telling the truth

Answer 1

She has picked you to be her saviour so please dont disappoint her do everything in you power both legally and medically to see to it that child gets all the help and support she needs she will be forever grateful to you as would I to know she is okay,I write this with a heavy heart please let us know how it turned out.

Answer 2

Take her immediately to the doctor, try to keep her calm and discuss with her what happened to her. If this is your 9 year old, you are a better mother than I, because by now he would be dead (personal interjection) and I would be in jail. But it is best to keep a level head, don't jump to conclusions, for your daughter's sake, don't confront him on this. You need to bring this someone in authority's attention ASAP. Don't sit on this, if it really happened, this is very serious. The scars that will follow this child are horrendous and the father should be prosecuted. This will sit on your conscience for the rest of your life, if nothing is done. And if this is really happening, it more than likely was not the first time this man has done this, and you can believe, this will not be his last. Please be a blessing to this child and deliver her from the hell that is not what was meant for her. And also please be a blessing to all his future victims, there will be more. God Bless.

Answer 3

You believe her and report it to the police. You yourself don't take her to the doc or hospital. The accusation is all you need to verify your course of action. The authorities, unfortunately, have a lot of experience dealing with this sort of thing. Even if you take her to a doctor to have her examined yourself, the health care professional is obligated by law to report it to police.
Much of the time the wives of these perverts do not believe the truth when they hear it. They are hiding from reality. Nine year olds DO NOT lie about things like this. Why in heaven's name would anyone think otherwise? It is vital that you get the child out of the home no matter what it takes. The ball is in your court now that you know the truth. I hope and pray you act on it and show her there are adults who care.
Best wishes

Answer 4

Report it to the police. The woman who does not belive it may be just in denial. Perhaps she really belives this couldn't possibly happen. In this case I would choose the victims over my husband because I know that most molestations and rape happen within the family.

Perhaps the mother is afraid to report it. Just report it and get that child out of that home. The abuse could go on for years causing all kinds of psychological problems. Nobody deserves to go through something like that.

I would also report it because I wouldn't want the responsibilty knowing that this happend and is continueing to happen and I did nothing about it.

Good luck

Answer 5

My heart goes out to you, but Don't confront your husband or your daughter immediately!! Put aside your feelings of anger or denial.

Consider this suggestion, it's your choice to make. But it will definitely affect your loved ones, and other's loved ones forever in their lives.

Probably you can tell her you are bringing her to see a doctor for a normal/wellness checkup. Talk to the doctor, preferably your family doctor, and ask for her help to keep the real reason of checkup from your daughter first. Then let you have the proof (DNA or whether is necessary) of whether what you've heard is true.

If it is true that her father had abused her, talk to her first. Probably during a leisure walk, assure her that she has your understanding and support. Let her know that she is a victim and what he is doing is wrong. She is not to be blamed.

Then make a report to police, it's tough. Be brave and make a stand for your daughter. If he can do this to your daughter, what about your other kids (if it's relevant), be it girl or boy, what about those kids in your neighbour, your relatives, your country???

Also, you are helping him not to commit further crimes, probably worse ones are to come.

If it's not true, then you have to talk to your daughter too. If necessary, bring her to a psychologist. Help her before it's too late.

In any case, tough love is tough but it lasts @>-

Answer 6

I believe that someone needs to report him. She is the victim and she will never forget what happened. This will affect her mentally for the rest of her life. Someone like that needs to be stopped, If he is doing this to her How many other little girls will he rape if he keeps getting away with it.

Answer 7

If this really happened, you must contact the authority's.
Take the child to the hospital & have a rape kit done.
No child should have to indure such a thing and the rapist should have to spend lots of time in jail.
Good luck.

Answer 8

Since that 9 yr old cannot be setting up conspiracies behind her dad, I would believe her. But the personality of the father and the kid is also very important in thi situation.. If the father is really a good guy and the kid is such a really demon and smart kid ( yes, even to say " my daddy raped me" just because she is angry with her dad ) maybe you should not believe her...
But in anycase you can take her to a doctor...

Answer 9

you need to take the child for exam a.s.a.p! notice what the child has been watching on t.v. as well , it may have happened an chances are it did. but now you need to take that child for an exam and ask the doc. to see if she has been penitrated down there. what was the child's routine , before she claimed this?

Answer 10

Take her to a doctor right away--a female doctor. She will be able to tell in two seconds if it happened.