Ladies - stay at home mum/houswife or a career lady when you get married?
Guys - which would you prefer as a wife?
Dont ask me where this thought came from!!!!
2006-10-09 23:29:57 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A stay at home wife would be best, but for financial reasons it isn't possible nowadays. But I do think that kids should go to nursery at a fairly young age (1ish) part-time to give the wife some of her life back.
As a bloke I would love to be a house husband.
2006-10-09 23:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
When I am married, I will continue to work until I have children. When my children start school, I wouldn't return to work straight away, unless I could work at home.
I think it affects children in a way you do not see until they are lot older. When they get to about 11 I would return to full time work, but would still like to be there for the children when they leave for school and when they arrive home. I believe it is important that you are there when they come home, so they can share their day with you, instead of waiting until you arrive 3 hours later.
My boyfriend and I have discussed this, there are many disadvantages of being a stay at home, such as less income and chance of a decent pension in the future, but also agrees that it is healthier for children to have a parent around for them.
2006-10-09 23:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by natasha * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women have been created to compliment one anothers role in their day-to-day lives. This is the natural disposition.
In general it is well known and was accepted in any culture in the world, that man is the bread winner and the woman is the one who looks after the children and looks after the house.
But, now if you say this, you will be regarded as being unjust, backward and discriminating. Since the end of the World War 2, this trend of women working and leaving their role of House wife/mother/wife, delaying marriage, delaying pregnancy has been widely propogated. Being a wife/mother/House wife has been and is being propogated in a negative way through the media, Governments, feminist organisations etc.etc.
To be a wife and a mother, is a job in it self. The satisfaction that you get is that you are looking after your family, working for your family and not a man that demands you to get to work at certain time and finish at certain time, to wear certain clothes, to keep up with your appearance as you are in a competition in terms of fashion, looks, salary with friends, work colleagues and other women on the street. The intelligent women out there will realise this.
So why play two roles? Why burden yourself? Why stress yourself out and getting depressed? Why kill yourself studying and working? since the Husband is the one who is to provide, protect and maintain you and your children. Or is it because of just a few pounds extra in your pocket?????
If one can, is it not better to work from home? Also, why wives should stress about money, finance, paying morgages off etc.etc. the Husband should. Just be a good companion to the Husband when he comes home from work, tired and exausted, you don't want both as who will look after and pay attention to the children??
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2006-10-10 00:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Abu J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I was young I always wanted to be a career women, now I'm older and have a career, my ideal life would be to have a family and work part time. I've realised (for me personally) that a career isn't everything and that a family life is the ultimate experience.
2006-10-09 23:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Bodieann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if i had kids i'd stay working as i would have to like the bills and that now compared to when we were kids you cant really be a stay at home wife unless your husband is making approx 800 Euro a week
2006-10-09 23:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by Blonde_o2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm definitely not a career lady but i'm married and still working,
i'll probably still work (but just part time) when we have children. it's more a matter of necessity rather than want though - when you've got a mortgage etc it's not always practical to give up work.
i wouldn't want to give up work now that i'm married but if things were different i'd like to be a full time mum rather than continue working.
2006-10-10 00:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by Kerri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very easy to only have one person working in the marriage, but you have to give up some of the luxury to do it. i personally want to find a girl that has a good job and wants to keep it this time. it just makes everything so much easier with 2 incomes. if only one of you were to work however the one staying home would have to do the whole house thing. my ex-wife didn't work, but she was also lazy
2006-10-09 23:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a housewife/mum and I also work from home (just doing paperwork for my employer) so I have the best of both world I can do the school run lookafter the toddler work and be here for my kids whilst earning money.
2006-10-09 23:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by carla s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Career lady when married..all women should listen to Destinys Childs song " Independent Woman" and learn from it.
2006-10-10 00:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on my husbands status. If he's a trash man I will for sure be a career woman. If he's a successful Doctor or Lawyer I'll stay at home and cook,clean, and take care of our kids.
2006-10-09 23:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by kiki87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋