Why does my Teenage daughter rebel against everything i do?

Question

If I say black she say's white if she doesn't want anything she would never speak to me.
If I say be in at 11 she comes in at half past.
Are they all the same. she has just turned 16 and wants to sleep at her boyfriends all weekend.

Answer 1

mm. i thought ours was a typical 16yr old..obviously not... jessica stamps her feet, screams at her younger sister, harrumphs around like evrything it too much trouble..and shes a slave... oh yeah, like put your plates in the dishwasher is hard labour...

mind you, were we, their parents, looking at life thru rose specs... at 16 i was a real sod, and do i suspect were you... in fact all our parents thought we were monsters...

we all push boundaries.. and sleeping with her boyfriend.. be a responsible parent, or do you like babysitting?

Answer 2

Hello,
Stand fast ,hold your ground and be the BOSS , do not let her WAlk all over you , I was the same as teen and boy my parents let me do anything because they did not want the headach , even though she seems grown up she is not and still needs guidance, trust me when I say this ,because I was pregnant at 16 ,,,,So do not let her walk on you and say no and ground her ! You have to be strong and ALL KIDS go through This . In one way or another. I wished at that time my parents cared enough to put foot down and the more i rebel ed the more I got away with , and really deep inside I wanted them to put foot down and show me that they did care. Good luck oh im 31 now

Answer 3

If you give me some more specific problems I could probably help you but for starters did you leave her any space when she was younger. The reason I'm asking you is because supresed emotions always come out more intense the longer they stay in so if you didn't let her, let's say go over to friends' huoses when she was younger teenage is the most propable time to want to. Take this under concideration and don't be hard on her.
By somebody who as wierd as it sounds, knows what both of you are going through.

Answer 4

She is no longer a child and is beginning to assert her independence. The sooner parents realize a young man/woman are no longer a child at this age and approach them as such the easier things will be. You must listen to her views and what she has to say more than talking yourself. Time to establish adult communication and some things you may stand firm on but others you must allow her to do her own thing. By now you should have insured she has access to birth control and reproductive info.

Answer 5

Don't you remember what it was like when you were her age? Didn't you rebel against your parents? It is a part of growing up. Keep your cool. Turn off the TV and the cell phone. Sit her down and talk to her calmly about it. Ask her about it. Pay attention and try to remember what you went through when you were a teen. Things haven't changed much.

Good luck!

Answer 6

I go through this as well and mine are 11 and 12 yrs old.

the best is to set consequences if she isnt back home at 11.
If she doesnt want to speak to you ... well leave her alone for awhile.

and last but not least.. a roleplay helped me..
lets her be in your pair of shoes for a day! and you jump into hers..

and be exactly how she behaves towards u then.

IE. when you want to go out and she sets a time .. be late!
IF she wants to speak to you dont answer or answer how she would reply...Invite her boyfriend without telling her.. tell him you want to surprise her! be friendly as anything ... ask him if he fancies a IE. a pint in a pub or a round of pool or snooker or darts or whatever crosses your mind.. He needs to see how she reacts towards you... her boyfriend as most probly a better influence on her as you might think
Good luck

Answer 7

Teenagers are testing their independence and they are really just trying to find who they are. It's a time a self discovery. Harmones make them stupid and angry don't take it personal. She is also testing her limits. It is your job to make her stick to those limits.. you say 11 and she comes in a half past she doens't get next weekend it now belongs to you. Bet she won't do that to many times... As far as sleeping at her boyfriends? Why is she sleeping at his house at all? Here's what you tell her NO...

Answer 8

Mostly Hormones, but keep a watch out for depression
The world is a terrifiying place at that age although they
would never admit it!! Dont worry keep talking find her being
good dont dwell on the bad things, All this will pass.
Good luck.

Answer 9

you need to put your foot down and start to show her who's the mother in the house but you also have to see if there is something that you are doing wrong to give the impression of wrong is right but she just turned 16 and she also thinks she is now a big gal but try by all means to sit down with her and try to talk to her about life and what happens to other teens who don't want ato listen to their parents show her the consequences i have just turned seventeen(17) last month and my mother or my father would never allow me to be out later than 8 o'clock in the evening i obey them because they know more about life than i do, there are lots of guys who will need her as time goes by but the one who is with her now he doesn't love her he is just using her and strongly disagree with the choice she made you believe she made her boyfriend pressured her to do it and maybe some day i'll meet her but now i'm just giving her the advice that she needs to take into consideration and those advices will hell her in the near future. if she needs advice you or she can contact me via e-mail at [e-mail] and it is a free service from me to you.

Answer 10

gosh, this must be really difficult. I understand becuase I was like your daughter and....my poor mother!!! :-) Anyway, the thing is how you respond to her requests. It's difficult but can be done. Try using 'I' in your conversations instead of 'You'. When you use 'you', it sounds like you're accusing her of things and teens HATE THAT. (e.g., Instead of 'You are not listening to me', say 'I'd like you to listen to me'...or someting like that. Get cracking and practising) If her requests are not life threatening, let her get on with it. But advice her that she is a big girl now, and she ought to know where the boundaries are. She SHOULD know what to do. And tell her that if she doesn't, you'd be more than happy to help.

Answer 11

She's a teenage daughter. That's reason enough I believe. There is a famous quote saying something along the lines of, when you are fifteen, it is amazing how little your parents know, when you are twenty five it is amazing how much they learnt in ten years.