I have talked to sisters and other brothers , plus Mom . I just can't handle it some times .
2006-10-09 23:17:50 · 16 answers · asked by Cecilia S 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Please pray to the Lord, our Father in Heaven, through His beautiful Son, Jesus Christ to help you with the mourning...time is a great healer...and although you will never get over it..you will in time learn how to deal with it better...start trying to tell yourself that your brother wouldn't want you to go on through your life miserable, ...just as you wouldn't wish that for him...The Lord will carry you through little one...try to remember the fun things you and your brother did and laughed at...try to honor his memory by being successful and if there were any dreams he didn' get to fulfill,...fill them for him, if you can...And Pray my little one...the Lord our Father will carry the weight for you...put your faith in Him and know that if you worship our Father and try to live for Him and His Son, our Saviour, Jesus Christ..you will see your brother again...My little love,...I am crying for you right now...for your pain reminds me of how much pain i was in when my dad was taken away from me....and the only thing that got me through it, was my Love and Faith in Our Father and His Son, Jesus......i don't want the ten points for this one love,...I just want to share my peace through our Father and His Son...God Bless you sweetie,....my prayers are with you..
2006-10-10 01:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I have been fortunate in that I have not lost any siblings yet. I did lose my Mother the same way to a car accident and it hurts way deep inside. I know you don't feel like you can handle it sometimes and sometimes you get so angry at your brother for dieing. That is the part that hurts because in your head you know he did not choose to die but you are still mad at him for doing so. This is all a part of getting better. It will take time I don't know how long. But little by little you will stop being sad and stop being angry and will start to remember the fun times you had with your brother. You will never forget him or the fact that he is gone but the pain will go away. You might try to find a group in your area that deals with grief or maybe get some counseling from a professional. This might help. Good luck and Take care of yourself.
2006-10-10 06:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry for your loss, I cant even imagine. Ive never lost a brother or sister, or even a parent. But I do know that time will help. They say time heals all wounds, and I do believe its true. Time is a big help in many areas. Getting off drugs, stopping smoking, or even losing a loved one. Time is the key word here. The pain never goes away, but it does get easier to deal with.
2006-10-10 11:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss, but just give yourself some time and you will get through it. I know that right now you honestly don't believe that you can cope, but you can, your brother would definently want you to go on for him and do the things that he can no longer do.
People say that time heals everything and maybe it does, but I think that we just learn to deal with the pain and accept the loss of a loved one a little more each day.
The pain you are feeling will never leave you, but it will get better, I promise.
Keep talking to your family about how you are feeling and maybe a professional, or just someon neutral that can give you coping skills.
Best of luck and my sincere sympathies to you and your family.
2006-10-10 06:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by li li 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how awful for you. There is no easy to get past such sorrow and he will always be on your mind. All you can do is talk to people, try to keep busy, pray, --this may sound weird, but talk to him. I used to go to the grave and talk to my loved one. I believe the can hear you and also maybe can contact you in little ways. Listen to those two psychics - wish I could think of their names but both have books out-- they are always saying that your loved one is contacting you in dreams and little things that happen around the house.-- Perhaps reading their books will help you.The woman is often om the Montel show. If that isn't a way you accept, try talking to your minister or priest, You could start a fund or charity in his name - something that was of interest to him like supporting a kid's baseball team. I will say a prayer for you and hope the sorrow will soon ease up.
2006-10-10 06:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by casey54 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be quite closed to your brother. I have a method I learned from NLP. This will erase your feeling while keeping only the memories.
1) Relax yourself on a chair. Find a quiet environment.
2) Close your eyes and imagine a large mvie screen in front of you
3) On the screen, imagine it is showing events about your brother. Make sure you see the movie in color and try to heard all the sound.
4) After seeing it once, rewind the movie backwards.... people walking backwards, people swallowing their words ..... rewind fast for 5-10 times. Make sure the movie is in black and white.
5) Try to watch the movie in color again and see f it still affect you. If it does, repeat step 4 again.
I have used this method to erase the anger arises from my boss' scolding and it works.
Wish you the best.
2006-10-10 07:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the things straight in your mind, look so many peoples came in this world and are gone this world is not the place for permanent living once u enter in it then one day you have to leave it and your brother has died in accident it was not natural thats why u can't forget about it but you have to realize oneday every one has to go and so the only thing u can do for your brother is that pray.God may put mercy on his soul and provide him with all his blessings.
2006-10-10 06:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by pearl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my brother 10 years ago. You never get over it, but over time, the pain is much less. Seek help through a religious councilor or other groups that are experienced in loss of a loved one.
2006-10-10 06:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by No-ni-nu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Losing a loved one is one of the hardest things you will ever experience. Keep talking with your friends and loved ones. Swap stories, remember the good times, laugh at the memories. By talking you will keep him alive and close to your heart, I lost my mom, quite a few years ago, but I still talk to her. Sometimes I will smell a certain scent, and it reminds me so much of her, I am almost positive it is her, and she is right there with me. It is very comforting.
2006-10-10 06:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by Qusan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to start off i am sorry about you losing your brother, i haven't lost my brother but i have lost a friend who was so close to me he was like a brother and i found one of the best ways to cope with losing someone who is close to you is to write letters to them like they were still here. i know it sounds silly but it helps you to get over the lost. it helps you say what you want to them and helps you remember what the good time you spent together. i have about 80 letters i wrote to my friend tell him how i felt and tellin him that he will always be in my heart and no one can take that away from me.try it and see if it help. sorry again about your lost
2006-10-10 06:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by tiffany s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋