Ok so this guy that i have been meeting for almost a month now...we have hung out quite a few times..talking..laughed..and even got physical..kissed and also did some sexual stuff..so as a girl i got attached to him and realy started to like him..but hes not a commitment type so i guess he just saw me as a friend..but i have feelings for him and today he told me that he is going new jersey for a Job...so hes leaving...IM SOOOOOO SAD AND DEPRESSED..i am shocked and i cant take this...how will i handle it if he leaves? i seriously like him ..and i dont want to tell him bcuz he wont take it seriously since he dusnt wanna relationship..and he wil think i am too clingy..and probably wen he goes to new jersy hes gona find other girls..and i cant handle that..what shud i do...JUST FORGET ABT HIm? and the prob is that i have a bf...I knw what ur thinkin..that i shud forget this fool and concentrate on my bf but my feelings went out of control...:(..please help me...advise me..
2006-10-09 22:58:26 · 9 answers · asked by mani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
owwww bless ya mate. ive been there done that got the hat.... its a very hard thing to forget, if you really like someone. If it was me, i would tell him that i wish he didnt have to go and that i have strong feelings for him, but i understand that he has got an opportunity he cant afford to miss and wish him all the luck in the world. Then he will be thinking wowwww what a grown up person, she has told me how she feels and he will keep that in his mind. you may find that he does have feelings aswell, and if he does go then you will have to bite the bullet and get on with it. what is meant to be will be. you can not force what is not suppose to happend. your life is already mapped out for you, you will look back in time to come and think what if i stayed with this bloke, i would have never met my husband, etc etc etc. you will be upset, low and depressed but pull your self out of it. get some girls together and go out and let your hair down. i hope this advise helps. take care keep your chin up
2006-10-09 23:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by chicken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was once in a relationship sorta blended with the fact's your talking about.Except I didn't have a boyfriend.Seem's as if your boyfriend treat's you bad or doesn't please you to me.But as far as the dude goes that your really likeing,Well all i can say about the matter is.The same thing happen to me.I was in a "FRIENDSHIP" for a very long time off and on.And about a year ago we got close like that.And me being a female my feeling's got stronger for him.But he eventually went with my bestfriend sexual.And didn't think it would hurt me.But i found it disrespectful even though we was just friend's.I wanted more but didn't know how to tell him,And i ended up loseing.So if you really like this dude You should do one of the two thing's.Either move on,Or be smart about it and tell him the truth.Tell him what's bothering you.You'll either get the push off the shoulder.Or you could end up on the road to happiness.He could be feeling the same way.Try to explain thing's,But if you really liked him that much, "WHAT ABOUT THE BOYFRIEND THING".Get rid of him once you know that you and Jersey dude hit's it off swell.
2006-10-09 23:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by mizz_tooshort 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u dont need to hurry love u might just have a crush on the guy may be its not love but f u r sure its love then let him no how u feel and c may b he feels the same way or may b he does not but is shy to tell u so but f he is what u want then i think u should let both him and ur bf no what u feel about both of them its only fair that ur bf also knows that u dont feel 4 him anymore otherwise its like stabbing ur bf in the back
2006-10-09 23:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by frank w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl i know how you feel....it seems like where in the same sinking boat with out lifesavers..... well look you can do two things... 1. tell him how you feel... see what he says.... and take it from there..... i know.. you may not get the answer you want but you need to know the truth or do you want to live with the what if?... 2. keep your feelings to yourself.. and cry and wallow about it for the next couple of mths.. cause you miss him and wish you could have told him how you felt before he left.....but in my opinion its best to let it out.... and don't' blame yourself for falling for the guy it happens to all of us girls... and trust me you weren't the first to fall and you won't be the last... k...so cheer up.. k...its normal for us girls to get attached even when we try so hard not to..... and look at it this way at least your guy is not leaving the country the guy i messed around with and fell for left to Iraq.. god knows...if ill ever see him again..but we must stay positive...k on the boyfriend thing.. girl you swimming with the sharks....you should stay true and faithful to your bf... maybe you should see the move as a sign.. to only stay true to your boyfriend......well... i wish you the best of luck... chrys:-)
2006-10-09 23:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no , i dun think u shld "forget this fool and concentrate on ur bf"
I think you dun deserve ur bf. You cheat.
and this jersey fella isn;t ur fren either, u r naive. He was just looking for a free ride and u were more than willing.
Wake up and stop being depressed. U shld be ashamed and learn from this
2006-10-09 23:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably isn't going to turn down this job to stay with you & a long distance relationship isn't going to work if he doesn't love you.
I would say you need to move on & possibly move on from your boyfriend also. You will meet another that will probably take the place of both of those guys.
2006-10-09 23:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by skymastergolfpro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur might not be having sexual satisfaction with ur bf.
2006-10-09 23:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by The_Rebel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he's not the commited type right? Are you? Cheating on your boyfriend...?
2006-10-09 23:06:50 · answer #8 · answered by mellymoo000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have any choice but to forget him
2006-10-09 23:09:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋