I proposed a girl as I felt tilted towards her but as she wanted to remain unmarried she denied and I married another girl of my parents choice. I have 2 kids now, if I want to talk to that girl or want to know about that girl's well being and share light talk with her without telling my wife as my wife may not understand me will I be wrong. Is it wrong that after so many years my feelings could not die out completely. Though I am a family man and will take care of my family always yet if I feel light by simply talking to that girl on general topics like acquitance is wrong or right.
2006-10-09 22:56:53 · 12 answers · asked by query1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It's probably not a good idea because you feel a need to keep secrets from your wife about a woman who you care about. There is nothing wrong with talking to someone from the opposite sex. However, you have a history with this woman. Good luck and follow your heart.
2006-10-09 23:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by black orchid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you cannot tell your wife, then it is wrong. You know deep down that it is not because your wife would not undersand, but because you still have feelings for that girl.
Even more important than wrong, it is very dangerous. Do not refresh old feelings. Keep her as a memory. You obviuosly are still weak towards her. Do not open a door only Allah knows where it would lead you.
Whenever you think of her and feel weak, look at the cute faces of your kids and your trustful wife and be contented with your life. Allah will rewarded and you will get over her by time.
2006-10-09 23:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by daliaadel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong. The main deciding reason is motive, and from your statement you still have feelings for her, that makes your motives wrong and to do it a sin. It is because your wife does undertand you that you shouldn't do it, not because she doesn't. Women have an incredible ability to see through things particularily when another women is involved. It may appear innocent to you, but if there is still a little flame there it could be blown into a whole hearted fire over night. Save your marriage, stay away, the cost to your family isn't worth the risk.
2006-10-09 23:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by oldguy63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question already, You still have some feelings for this girl and you are a married man. Forget about her. To contact her now will only lead to trouble and maybe the destruction of your marriage, Let sleeping dog's lay, Concentrate on your wife and family and move on with your life
2006-10-09 23:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that doing something without the knowledge of your spouse is wrong.If she gets to know about your indulgence she will feel somehow incomplete,or cheated.That is she is not being able to fulfill the gap created by your girlfriend.
Let her know your desire,if you truly want to just talk to your ex and there is not any other desire remaining in your heart,she will accept it.
But at first ask yourself do you really want to just talk,nothing else is there?
I think you still have the void created by your ex.Discuss clearly with your wife she will take time to understand but if she really loves you she will try to feel it.
2006-10-09 23:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by rima200697 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to talk to her and that's it, it's OK, but if you are going to go see her just to see if there is a spark between the two of you then that is wrong. I believe men should be able to have a little privacy and not have to share every little thing they do as I believe the same for women, but as I said if it's a friendly meeting OK, anything else is deception...
2006-10-09 23:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did not want to marry you then.so why would you even want to contact her now?
Now your married,you have a wife,and children. Do not dig up old bones,that are better off left in the past. It will only hurt your wife,and children if you do. Are you willing to loose your wife and children,for a woman who did not love you enough to marry you????????Think before you act.
2006-10-09 23:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by starfish50 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong in talking to a long last friend or girlfriend. if u are true to your family and can control your self only to talking then go ahead if you have anything else in mind then please think about how you will be able to face your family if they find it out afterwards and if you are confident with your feelings and control then do anything without guilt.
2006-10-09 23:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by rohan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is nothing wrong intention in your heart then why do u have to hide? also it is always better to tell ur better-half about this girl. also if there is a clean slate in ur heart, then u shouldnt be afraid to share info about this other girl to your wife.
2006-10-09 23:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by marissa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is only wrong if you can't tell your wife. By the sounds of it you can't, so I would try to stay out of troubles way.
2006-10-09 22:59:32 · answer #10 · answered by kllr.queen 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋