When a guy says that he doesnt like to make plans/arrange things eg dates, because he never knows whats going to happen, what does he really mean???
2006-10-09 22:06:29 · 35 answers · asked by XCuteX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He prefers last minute arrangements
2006-10-09 22:07:12 · update #1
hes not interested
2006-10-09 22:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by JOHN jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's rude and means he probably is waiting for the best deal.
He doesn't want to commit to a date because a party may come up, a girl he likes better might become available. He's Just Not That Into You! You are his last minute option.
When a guy is wild about you he makes plans ahead and keeps dates always arriving on time.
2006-10-09 22:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by easinclair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is like me and is double booked or triple booked.
They way I deal with this is that I go out with the first person that calls me that day. Nothing is booked in advance that way I dont let anyone down.
But he is thinking that he might be doing something more interesting than going out with you and that is wrong, He should make time for you and should not fit you into his diary like a dental appointment.
I had a dose of this medicine from my EX not nice had me running around after her.( clever but I had enough in the end and ended it ).
Some people just like the idea of having a g/f or b/f but actually want to spent all their time doing other things. I dont think that this is a relationship.
Just ask him if he has something better to do than see you?
2006-10-09 22:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he doesnt want to commit to an early arrangement in case a better offer comes along.
unless of course he has some high flying super job where he never knows where and when he'll be needed - something along the lines of a mission impossible agent.....
Id play it very cool with this guy - dont put yourself out for him - let him know you're not gona stand around waiting at his beck and call. xx
2006-10-09 22:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he is expecting something better (better than you) to come along. It means that you are not high on his list of priorities.
It means that a date with you is *OK*, but there are a lot of things that he could be doing, which are better/ more exciting/ more fulfilling, and he doesn't want to spoil his chances of being able to choose one of them.
Or it could mean he has another relationship on the go, and cant give a definite answer until he checks with the other woman
2006-10-09 22:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by Vinni and beer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it can mean all the negative things all the other poster have said but it can also mean that he's rather spontaneous and realistic... when you plan on things... set specific times, dates, locations... you want it to happen you EXPECT it 2 happen...accordin to planned... but we know that in life... you can't plan on everything "you can plan the perfect picnic but you can't predict the weather" it's good to have a schedule and things to look forward to but if your life is on a schedule... you don't have time for the little joys of life... a walk throu a park on a rainy evening... a stop at the coffee shop for a 5 min break... a surpise getaway to a secluded beach just for the afternoon... it's hard enough to live life now... let alone planning life in the future... w/ so much expectations are great... but if what ever happens doesn't meet your expectations... it'll bug you... make you sad, piss you off... it makes a lot of sense 2 me...
i believe in "everything in moderation" it's good to have plans but its good to be spontaneous 2... mayb you should advise him on that... but open up your perspective 2 and be a little understandin 2 his reasonings...
all you gotta do is ask him y?
2006-10-09 22:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be many things, in-security probably comes into the equation here. Some just like to say that for the attention they might get in response to their answer or otherwise you've just found yourself another typical bloke who doesn't like the though of commitment. Not all us blokes are like that of course, but the majority are
2006-10-09 22:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but possibly not interested, however my man is a bit like that at times, ive been with him 2 years and live with him and he still wont committ in case something changes, i live by plans and love plans! i wouldnt worry too much if hes good in every other way. if hes loving, attentive and clearly adores you and does take you out and doesnt let you down then i wouldnt worry about it too much as long as hes not ditching you for other women or his mates every time!!!xxx
2006-10-09 22:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by caroline17nov 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesnt want to make any commited plans with you incase he gets a betta offer!!If he liked you he would be more than happy to make plans with you in advance x
2006-10-09 22:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking maybe he wants it to be a surprise when you two finally hook up. There's nothing more exciting than sneaking up behind someone and putting your hand over her mouth, then dragging her into an alley kicking and mumbling incoherently.
Man.. does that bring back memories..
Everyday is an adventure.
2006-10-10 02:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by thatoneguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you not top of his list for dates, he likes to keep you on a string and pull you in if nothing else is happening, does this explain things for you?
2006-10-09 22:24:20 · answer #11 · answered by SADGIT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋