You're dating someone who you are into.....YET...they come up to you one day & say....
I just want to be friends
We are better off friends
or
I am just not commited to this relationship like I need to be....
OR
The best one of them all........
It isnt you....it's me....
How does it make you feel to hear these....IF you have heard them before...
If you havent heard them...but have said them....how do you think you made the person feel?
Just curious...I know I have felt kind of like I was lost on the fact that we were having problems....but I later found it was because he cheated & got her pregnant....lol...
2006-10-09 22:05:59 · 15 answers · asked by mysticfairy74 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not in a relationship like this....I am asking a question about feelings toward these words
2006-10-09 22:12:17 · update #1
Have you like ever sat in the bath tub and the water is a bit cold and you turn the hot water on and now your uncomfortable. You don't want to hurt the feelings of the hot water tap so you just sit there miserable until you get 1st degree burns on your body, but that is OK cause you didn't hurt the feelings of the hot water tap. Yeah right, you are going to make what ever changes to make you feel comfortable and cause you the less pain. The same works in a relationship, but unfortunately, other feelings are involved.
Sorry, relationships are funny things, the deeper you get into them the better they feel, or not feel. Not every relationship decision is the best one and it is difficult to go backwards once you start forward. Each step you learn something new, some good things and some bad things. Once you get to the point that you feel the bad out weighs the good, you have to step back. If you would like a long lasting relationship, but you have discovered that the relationship you are in does not merit a long lasting relationship, then you got to cut your losses and move on. If you don't, the longer you sit in, the worse you get burned and the deeper the hurt all the way around. How would you break up with someone if you discovered you were in a dead end relationship?
2006-10-09 22:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know it's hard to hear something like that but if you take a minute to think about it wouldn't you prefer to know where you stand rather than live a lie.
So he's not into you,
So he's not ready for you,
So he doesn't know what he wants,
SO BE IT!
You deserve to be with someone who will treat you like you need to be treated and who will share your feelings.
It's pointless to pine over someone who is not going to be part of the relationship.
Pick yourself up, say it's been great and walk away.
If he happens to be a good friend, and simply sucks at the boyfriend part, then you can stick around for the friendship....but it sounds like he is bad all round. The fact that he cheated on you makes him a coward and you don't need any part of that.
Love yourself, respect yourself and when you know exactly what it is you want and need then things will fall into place.
Good luck!
2006-10-10 05:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by G S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been told that--- and it was like being truck by lightning. I was able to hold myself until I got home then I cried a bucket every night for almost a month. I have no other option though but to pick up myself & get on with my life. It was difficult at first but little by little I was able to overcome the pain & started building my confidence again. I am now happily married with a beautiful daughter. The experience taught me more than just being careful with feelings.
2006-10-10 05:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by lette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep it hurts but count your blessings, you had a lucky escape. It def is him, not you but, i do hate it when someone trys to palm of the truth with feeble excuses. Guys should be open and honest, the truth hurts but its better that way so you can get over it once, not get over it and then find out a whole different story, dragging it up again and opening old wounds that are still fresh in your heart.
He never showed you the respect of honesty, never mind not being loyal! He is so not worth any tears or heartache, so dont show him any respect either, your bigger than he is and be thankfull your not one of his victims. Dont be his friend, he doesn't have any decent qualities a friend should have, tell him to f**k himself!!!! your worth 100x more!!!!
2006-10-10 05:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by lucy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
like l just got dumped the nice way. made a fool of.l would feel alot better if she just told the truth like we are through l never felt anything for you to relationship was a waste of time.
2006-10-10 05:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when guys say these things that usually means that they are guilty of something or that they have moved onto someone else. it hurts but what can ya do? you just got to get back up and move on!
2006-10-10 05:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by volcomrocks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I l feel hurt, angry and used when those words are directed at me. When I need to say them, I feel sorry, bad and scared.
2006-10-10 05:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it made my feel like i wasn't good enough and was push down to the ground....but you know what i learn that life is a learning experience and the best way to get over it... is to dust yourself right off and try again..... :-)chrys
2006-10-10 07:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would just take it be his friend and imagin nothing more... then move on Lol.
2006-10-10 05:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by kiss me. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it makes you feel awful because you know they are just making excuses to break up with you.
2006-10-10 05:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by stariei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋