i had a baby about 2 weeks ago and she was 2 months premature....she is doing fine now but it was neck and neck there for a while the only thing is now my boyfriend the father of the child has run out on me and left me to do the whole deal on my own...i was kicked out of home and was living with him but now that he has left me i am living at home again the only thing how can i cope without him and his support he was so good through the whole pregnancy up until now what do i do without him how can i cope??
2006-10-09 22:05:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok hunny , I just had a baby 4 weeks ago and her father is in jail and doesnt get out for another 6 months . You have to convince yourself that that you are a strong women and dont need a mans help. This is all easier said then done though . This is going to take alot of time to get through, Good luck and god bless . Just enjoy every moment you have with that little one , remember you created that . =)
2006-10-09 22:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by Giselle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling,I hate to tell you this,but if he stayed until after the baby was born,he did more than my Oldest child's father. As soon as he found out I was pregnant he took off,got transferred out of the state,leaving he holding the baby bag. He insisted that I get an abortion. I refused flatly,that baby should not be murdered just because a shiftless (good for nothing man) does not want to take responsibility for bringing a life into this world. Also abortion is totally against my beliefs and my faith.
I had my child,by myself,and did quite well without his father. You do not need a (man) is is less mature than your child . I am sure you will do just fine without him. You will do better without (a shiftless father) than you would having the dead beat mooching off of you,and the baby.
The best advice I can give you is this.
Either talk to the red cross or the Salvation army or your local welfare office about helping you take care of your baby. If you go to the welfare office, apply for help. It is called AFDC (aid for dependent children),they can help you until,you are on your feet enough to find a job.
2006-10-09 22:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by starfish50 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the hardest moment of ur life. You have to refocus ur mind concerate on ur baby and get on with life. Cause u can't be weak show him u can do it without him. Being a woman today u have to be strong and face the fact that ur child is the most important thing. Come on if he really loves u and the child why is he leaving u at this time. Let some1 professional to help u along the way.
2006-10-09 22:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will make it! You are a strong person, just look what you have already been through. It will be tough, but you have that child who needs you wether he is there or not. The real question would be, what would your child do if you were to walk out and not be by her side. Keep on trucking honey, your idiot BF will wake up eventually, when, who knows, but you don't waste time thinking about that right now. He will answer to a higher power.
God Bless and take care.
2006-10-09 22:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he is your boyfriend. That means you have not married him and now landed into trouble. You have relied on some one who is not worth that. How can he run away after giving you his child. Your judgement about him was very incorrect. You gained the displeasure of your people at home for his sake. Now that you are again at your home, you can count on their support. Forget him for the moment. If he needs you let him come again. Do not spend sleepless nights on such a mean person. Learn to stand up on your own and be bold. Best wishes.
2006-10-09 22:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by SGraja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put ur baby in the baby care centre and hunt for a job which will give u a decent living. Be an independent woman
2006-10-09 22:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need the bum in your life to take of your baby. you need only think about her and how you are gonna take care of her. she needs you more than her father does so stop thinking about him and put all of your efforts into taking care of baby. if your family is supportive of you then you have all you need to raise your daughter right. i am single mom of three living at home and my family is absolutely wonderful. i wish you and your daughter all the luck in the world.
2006-10-09 22:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Forever Looking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a paternity test if you havent' already and then rack his butt up for child support.. if he's not gonna help, he should PAY to help.
2006-10-10 01:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by mernieinc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋