I've been talking to this guy that I meet over the internet. It's been about 2 months and we've really hit it off over the phone. Neither one of use know what the other looks like but I've been asking around and have found several people who knew him in high school they have all said the same thing, that he was quite, and shy. Not one person has said anything bad about him. He seems very nice and family orientated. Would you think it would be safe to let him pick me up or should I suggest that we meet somewhere. I'm a divorcee and don't really know the rules about this these days. Please help!
2006-10-09 21:45:45 · 20 answers · asked by MereBear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been on lots of blind dates, I use an internet dating service.
The others are right - meet for a short time (coffee/lunch) in a public place (like a shopping mall). After that, you can make your own mind up about where you'd like to meet him again.
Some other tips - let people know who you're going out with, what his name/address/phone number is. Tell them where you're going and what time you're going to be home. Call them when you get home.
I know you think you know this guy but there's no harm in being careful. If you don't feel safe when you're with him tell him that other people have his details - and walk out.
But....having said that....relax and enjoy your date. Hope it goes well for you.
2006-10-09 21:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by TonyB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you meet him somewhere. Just to be on the safe side. Meet him in a place that you know will be a lot of people. Tell a friend where you are going, in case something goes wrong (which I doubt) there will be someone that knows where you are. If you should feel uncomfortable and awkward, make an excuse and get out of there. Always trust your gut instinct. You also have success internet dating stories, where they end up marrying each other. My story was also a success but we were not on the same page when it came to where the relationship was going.
Best of luck and remember, it is all about having fun and meeting new people.
2006-10-09 21:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what I ve aways been taught you should never ever be picked up by someone you dont know! Just incase you decide you dont like him, then he cant find you again if you leave and stop replying to his e mails!
You should always meet someone new in a busy place like a pub I know I'm probably sounding a bit like your mother but its so true . And always let someone know where you are, people might say he's great but you need to make your own judgement without feeling uncomfortable!
On a lighter note a really good friend of mine has been going out with a woman he met on the internet for over a year now and they re madly in love!
Good Luck!
2006-10-09 21:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by s4pb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's NEVER safe to invite someone you've never met to your home. Even if you've known that person for weeks, I wouldn't do it. In this day and age, you never know what your dealing with.
Make sure you are in a controlled environment or you pick a public place where people know you. Always have your own money for backup, and please be careful. As soon as you feel something is off about this person, make an excuse to the restroom then EXIT stage left. Who cares about him, he'll survive. It's you who's most important.
2006-10-09 21:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never, ever, have a blind date pick you up....never! Someone I know very well was fixed up on a blind date by a trusted friend of hers, and the blind date raped her in her own apartment when he allegedly came to "pick her up" for the date.
Cardinal rule number one: Until you REALLY KNOW someone, ALWAYS meet them in very public places!!!
2006-10-09 21:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey girl.... k its normal.. to be scared....and he sounds like a nice guy..... but i think its best to... meet him somewhere public.... that way if the date doesn't go the way you were hoping for you can go home in your own car.. and end the fling there....and of course tell a friend where your going.. now a days you can trust most people you meet off the Internet ..........i wish you the best of luck.... and don't' be nervous remember he's just as scared as you...:-) chrys:-)
2006-10-10 00:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be on the safe side, I would meet him somewhere until you get to know him and his friends and family very well.
2006-10-09 21:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice situation, it sounds promising. but then, why take any risk...
Meet him somewhere and if he turns out as nice as you hope he is you have all the time in the world to show him your place and get as close as you want.
Good luck !!
2006-10-09 21:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by Vage Centurian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not meet him at Starbucks, or somewher? Then, after meeting him you will know if you feel comfortable enough to let him know where you live. I had a really fun relationship that started out this way. The moment I met him, I trusted him and then everything was all relaxed after that. Meet him first and then trust your gut instinct.
2006-10-09 21:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by oinksatme 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Meet him somewhere!
If you are a bit iffy, dont let him pick you up! If something happens, you have your own ride, and you wont have to rely on him for anything!
good luck!
2006-10-09 21:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by volcomrocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋