my son is very obsessive over some things is it normall at the age of 2?

Question

hiya all
i asked earlyer is it healthy for my son to eat bread because thats all he want he will eat other things but he wants the bread 1st anyway my son is very obsessive over some things he has to have all his cars in a bag and next to him before going to sleep and when he wakes up is it the same he wont go anywhere without the big bag of cars he gets a bit obsessive over me wont let anyone (hubby) go near me hes been like this for a year will it pass? is this normal?

Answer 1

Vey normal. My middle son ALWAYS had to have his blanket with him. Just a security thing and every child had a different thing. Even at 5 he still takes it to bed with him and carries it around if he's not feeling well, although the 'dependancy' on it is dwindling.

As for being clingy to you - this is very normal as well. At this age (my youngest is 2 as well) they are learning to be independant and it is a big scary world as they are learning new things the whole time, but in order to be independant, they have to know they have a safe place for security and assurance. Even as adults we all need to have knowledge that we have a get out clause when things get tough. However, your son has to learn that you are a wife as well as a mother and that your husband is no threat - just the opposite. How much time does your son spend with your husband alone? He needs to know that his daddy is a safe place too. My son prefers me for lots of things but sometimes I insist on my husband to do things even if my son kicks up a fuss about it. The fuss soon passes when he realises that he is still safe without you and he is able to do things with others. It would be a real pity if the family unit was constantly being torn apart from your son not wanting your husband near you. It must put a lot of strain on you being torn in two different directions. Try spending more time together as 3 and getting your husband to spend more time alone with him too. Even if it is sitting watching a video together and you and your husband can sit and hold hands while your son sits on a lap is always a start! At 2 verbal reasoning isn't always easy so consistant behaviour that he learns from will be a better lesson for him. Makes sure you and your husband agree on rules before they spend time together.This way your son will learn that another adult thinks the same way as you and he will feel more secure without you.

Answer 2

Everything's normal:)


The Bread
Toddlers have favorites. AS to food, their taste buds develop in preference to a certain food. If his favorite food is bread, give it to him but don't forget about other crucial foods. And no, don't hide a pea under:).

Cars in a Bag
Toddlers need a transitional object. It gives them comfort, it is their friend. Most toddlers have a pillow or a stuff toy as a transitional object, that way, when the lights turn dark, the dresser won't open up and eat them while they sleep.

Obsession?
At this age, kids are at the height of separation anxiety. They couldn't last a day without seeing their mommy or caregiver. To let you understand deeper, babies are born to the concept that what only exist are the things they see. So if they can't find the familiar face of their mom, they cry..."waaah". you don't exist anymore.:) At age two, they are developing that concept of permanence wherein they know you still exist even when they can't see you.

At 1 to 3 years, kids are in the stage Erik Erikson would term as Autonomy versus Shame and Doubt. As such, they want to do many things without your help but at the same time, they want to be close to you. They are quite ego-centric at this point. But don't worry, at around 3, he will understand the meaning of sharing. Be it sharing toys with his siblings, or sharing attention with his dad.


So there, I hope this helps

Answer 3

I agree, the cars are more of a comfort item.

As for the bread, I had this problem with my son. Only it was grilled cheese. Please take some advice from me....break this cycle now! My son is 8 years old and he is so picky about what he will eat. Our doctor told us that if he only wants a grilled cheese sandwich to give him the grilled cheese. We did that and now my son will NOT try anything new, anything he thinks he won't like. He eats pizza, grilled cheese, cereal and pop tarts.

Not a healthy lifestyle...and it's too hard to break as they get older like this.

Good Luck, I know how challenging it can be!

Answer 4

The cars are probably like a child would find comfort in a dummy or teddy bear ,my son had a bunny that he needed with him all the time and would be upset if he misplaced it or anyone else had it.
As for the food they do get quirky about it as well as long as he's eating i'd not worry if the bread is annoying you i'd lie and say you had none see if he start eating without it.

Answer 5

yes I'm afraid to say this is so normal my daughter was the same but she was only wanting to drink juice all day we had this problem for months it was driving us round the bend until we tried everything in the world to get her to eat the best way is to get loads of salad or what ever he likes the look of and cut it up and make a picture on his bread with the food and I'm sure he will love it and wanna have it all the time and also when they go to nursery or playschool they see the other kids eating I'm sure he will copy now that my baby's not a baby anymore she's nearly 4 she eats now so well but she's still naughty ;)

Answer 6

yes that's very normal. when my son was 2 he used to freak out if all the kitchen draws weren't closed properly. He's 4 in a few days and not as worried about it but some things he still obsesses about like anyone hugging or kissing me especially my other 2 daughters but i find if we ignore it its okay and has gotten a lot better. don't panic it will pass...

Answer 7

my son is also 2 he will only eat bread to i just glad he eats something he also has a thing about his cars he has to have them lined up and if they get out of place he screams until they are right. he has them next to him when he sleeps to.GREAT QUESTION I also cant leave the room without him showing off i even go to the toilet and he is there you are not alone

Answer 8

At about the age of 2 kids instinctively go off food which they have always eaten before, especially things like veg, fruit etc. Apparently this instinct is there from 1000's and 1000's of years to prevent them from being tempted by poisonious berries and fruit off bushes. So little ones do go through these food fads, but do still keep introducing them and start by getting him to lick it, and eventually (it may be weeks, or months!) he will eat it. But do keep with it.

Kids do get obsessive its like marking territory, try to wean him off by like taking a few cars (or one) car out every morning or few mornings. I wouldnt do it at night though as you dont want a tantrum before bedtime!!

2 year olds are funny things!!

Answer 9

everything u metioned is very normal with a child that age, d are obsessive with toys, their parent , especially d one d spend more time with, u are lucky, he will eat anything, but it has to be with bread, as long as he is eating that's fine, just give him half a slice of bread with each meal, thatz better than him refusing food altogether. good luck.

Answer 10

it is normal, but if it carries on i would speak to ur health visitor, i ahve 2 autistic children and one of the first signs was obsessive behavier, one of my sons for example at the age of 1 would watch the jungle book over and over again, sreaming when it finished, and he also had toys he had 2 take everywhere, doea he line things up, if you require any further info or have any questions, email me direct