We had plans, he has been txting, ringing, IMing, etc. He says he is in love with me. we both said we feel like soulmates. we like the same things and think the same way. it is incredible, we couldn't believe it ourselfs how much alike we are. He is the most kind gentle romantic man ever and honourable. Then he rang me and said he had gotta phone call from his ex telling him she pregnant. she is 3 months, he wants to know if it is his, and has told me he cannot continue with me cause he needs to resolve this issue. I cannot get over him and last night i sent him a txt. i didnot think he would respond but he did. He says he owes me an appology for dumping me and says i shouldn't appologise for the way i feel about him.He sadi i am kind, caringtrue, genuine and honest lady. He said that when he got my E-mail he cried his eyes out, cause i said i understood even though it broke my heart.But he says at the mo he needs to resolve this, & can't be with me. It would not be fair2 us both.Help?
2006-10-09 21:19:11 · 12 answers · asked by Susie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Surely he can work through this both ways - why cant he be with you and get a paternity test or whatever done?
His ex is and ex for a reason and is he saying that hes going to get back with her if the child is his?
It sounds like he really loves you - give him time and space and hopefully he'll realise this and miss you like crazy and realise that he wants to be with you. xx
2006-10-09 23:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be a really good and caring person. Relationships all go through trials. Relationships with soulmates have trials too. This is a great test to see how strong you and his love is for one another and whether you and him are truly soulmates. Soulmates are meant to be so nothing can change u and his fate right? So take it easy then and tell him you'll be sure to be supportive of him and that he's doing the right thing.
2006-10-09 21:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by thedaybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't believe in soul mates.. Relationships come because they have to come.. Life have their own curves and bumps wherein one can fall but it depends on you if you wanna cry and self-pity or stand up and move on.. Your relationship, for example, is one of the so-called obstacle.
I really admire your BF (or ex as you can say it).. He stood up for his responsibility and didn't ran away from it.. If the child is really his and if the girl is really pregnant.. If he really loves you, he would wait for the baby and go back to you and if you really love him, you would accept him with all his flaws.. Take time and see what will turn out.. I'm not saying for you to continue to hang on to him.. If you are not ready to let go (I mean accept the fact) yet, then there's no sense in sobbing over somethign done.. Live your life! Go out more! There are a lot of good things in life which are waiting for you..
YOU GO GIRL!
2006-10-09 21:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be somebody which you spent time with on the different side...in case you felt which you mustn't carry close out with him in the initiating, there is in all possibility a reason. perhaps, he and you had unfavorable subjects from yet another existence. This existence may be a time which you would be able to interrupt the circle with him and be free of him. perhaps yo the two have diverse training to income, independently of another. in case you have been soul friends, i think of which you will possibly have known him stunning from the initiating.
2016-10-19 03:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by carrera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need to take one thing at a time. First on the agenda is yes, he should find out if the child is his. If it is, you need to step aside, and he needs to decide what he's gonna do. If it's not his, the field is wide open for you both.
2006-10-09 21:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW that is hectic, well all i can say is to be patient and see where things go, maybe the child is not his. maybe you will still be together, but i think for the moment that you shouldn't be moping over him, get out there and make new friends, keep yourself busy, it will help you get distracted from the issue.
2006-10-09 21:26:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are meant to be it will happen, give him some space and let him resolve the situation and if hes feelings are true then he will come back.
Bless you x
2006-10-09 22:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect his feelings & yours...When someone asks for space you gotta give it to them. Remember, if it's meant to be on some level--he will be back. And you go from there.
If you never hear from him...you will cry, grieve, and never forget.
Fact is, it may not be fair to both of you.
I'm sorry....
2006-10-09 21:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by Polly S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion he is not your soulmate. Had he your soulmate he would not have gone to his ex g/f and fucked her. He was playing double game. One with his ex and the other with you. You must have got sexual intercourse with him. Ask him if you become pregnant , will he quit his relation with the ex g/f?. I therefore think that he is neiether sincere with you nor with his ex.
2006-10-09 21:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should give him space to sort out this issue first, then he can decide whether he wants to be with this woman or just help raise his baby.
if its meant to be with you and him it will be.
2006-10-09 21:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by kirsty b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋