How do people know when things are going stale and is their a peaceful and amicable way of splitting up, without the 2 people involved hurting each other too much? Should They Stay Friends Afterwards or Cease Contact?
Your views...............
2006-10-09 20:26:25 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if you guys don't have the same chemistry anymore, are fighting more often then before and you have no sexual or romantic feelings for each other, I'd say those are definite signs that your relationship is not working out. There are other signs, but they all are dependant on the type of relationship you have.
In my opinion, you should just go out for a late dinner or coffee, or somewhere nice and calm, and tell her that you don't feel the same about the relationship as you did when it first started but you still would like to be friends (or go your seperate ways peacefully). However, before saying that, ask her what she thinks about the relationship. It will hurt to break up, believe me, but in the end, if it is done in a peaceful way, it won't be bad. It will be up to you two if you want to stay in touch. There are many people who don't like to stay friends because of emotional issues i.e., she may still have feelings for you or vice versa. It's hard for people to move on and be friends with the person they just broke up with. But I do know some people who are best friends with their ex's and have no feelings for each other whatsoever. It really depends on you two and your issues and feelings for each other.
2006-10-09 20:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by Asia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first sign is probably your thought that the relationship is going down hill.
The split is delicate, and mostly depends on the situation and the person being split with. But I think most people can't blame the other person if the split was because you simply are at different points in your life. The worst way is to leave them for someone else, probably.
Staying friends afterwards is tricky. Probably not for at least a month after - let wounds heal a bit. After that, it depends on how attached everyone involved was.
2006-10-09 20:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't honestly believe you've asked this question. Surely everyone can tell, unless of course they've got their head buried in the sand! You just feel it inside of you - empty. In my last relationship one day I was looking out of my office window without really knowing what I was thinking about - all of a sudden I could see my life stretching out like a long black empty tunnel- is this what I want for the rest of my life a little voice said - NO so that evening we had a talk and agree to end it there and then. Yes we are still friends but I think each person handles that side of things differently, there are no hard and fast rules.
2006-10-09 21:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several signs just to name a few , irritability of any and everthing you or your mate does. Lack of interest on the intimacy side touching , kissing, etc. always busy when it comes time to spend quality time...Staying friends depends on how well the both of you can handle seeing other people.. I personally don't recommend staying friends, maybe calling each other on the holidays or sending cards on birthday's but being friends and communicating frequently is just like dating... You don't have to cease contact, just limited it to a bare minimum !!!
2006-10-09 20:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when there is no communication, you are in big trouble... but that does not always mean it is over..... dont base your decision on just that...... how do you really feel inside about your partner ? is there nothing you can do to change it ? have you or the other even tried ?? as for the no hurt thing, well, only if you both want out and there is no big problem can there be good come out of it all....... and as for friends, yes, it can happen, may take time and a little space..... but make sure this is what you truely want before going down the break up road..... God bless
2006-10-09 20:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your questions, first things first here are some signs and symptoms of a deteriorating health of a relationship: (1) lack of concern (e.g. you don't seem to care what she does anymore, you don't seem to notice that she hasn't been with you for a week or so, it doesn't matter if you are with her or not, you want your space, you like being away from her, etc.) (2) lack of communication (e.g. you do not talk anymore, you seem distant, you are not interested in how she feels, you are not interested in knowing more about her, you dont want to call or keep in touch with her, etc. (3) lack of commitment (e.g. you miss dates, its a drag having to meet her instead of being excited, you are not thinking about a future with her, etc.)
How to split up?
It depends how would you like it to: (1) Just walk away (2) Talk to her and tell her honestly how you feel about her and both your situation
If you were to ask me if I would stay in contact after we are through, personally speaking, I do not recommend that. For me, it will be harder to move on if I will still see you or there will still be contact whether by mail, IM, text or whatever. It will be a lot ...lot difficult to forget if there is still contact between us.
2006-10-09 20:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by yunesa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont think u can stay friends to be honest, i know its never worked for me.......its so hard breaking up with someone if u have been together for years coz its like losing a part of u even if the relationship is stale x
2006-10-09 20:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by devine_gem22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me its when trust has flown out the window. This can be because the person has done something and you feel you cant trust them any more or maybe that you just dont care enough anymore to trust them or not. Whichever way - without it the relationship is over.
2006-10-09 20:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you will always know when things are not going right, Listen to your head and also your heart. When you stop talking and more to the point when you don't laugh anymore, When you sleep but back to back, And you see one another less and less, You don't go out anymore, There is lots of situations to detect that there is something is going wrong with your partner.
2006-10-09 22:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If neither of you have become something out of the courting anymore then yeah, it's time to %. up and pass. perhaps if it quite is basically to take a injury - 4 years is a protracted time. additionally, in spite of ways long you have been in a courting i do no longer think of it is ever suited to threaten and swear at your companion...
2016-10-16 00:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋