I'm a little confused here. I'm decently attractive, very kind, intelligent, perhaps a bit forward but aren't we all. So wy is it I can never find a girl for a relationship? I mean, why are they always not interested, or looking for something else. And the few girls who would always have boyfriends, more then likely saying these things to not hurt my feelings. It's like I;m good enough to be a girls frined but not her boyfriend is the best way to descirbe it. What gives?
2006-10-09 19:43:53 · 17 answers · asked by Michael M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I;m 19 years old, in college going for computer inforamtion systems, I play football and rugby
2006-10-09 19:48:27 · update #1
I'm confused, too (a whole lot). That's another story, though....If you don't have anything special or outstanding about you (Money, Machismo, or Muscles), a lady's not going to want to be with you. If you want a girl badly enough, you can sell your soul to Satan for one. The only problem is that you'll have to pay your dues when the fun is over. Personally, I'd rather just be who I am and have no woman in my life. I refuse to compromise myself for anything or anyone. I'd rather die of loneliness than go against who I am (and, from the looks of it, it probably will turn out that way). I suggest that you be who you are and not try to conform to what you think a woman wants. They aren't worth the loss of who you are.
2006-10-09 19:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you have to keep in mind when dealing with women is you will always have that feeling of confusion. Some key words stand out in your question, "very kind" and "a bit forward". Some might take this as being too pushy, and maybe a little on the desperate side. You sound a bit needy. Perhaps you should just go out with people for the hell of it. Don't just limit yourself to just one type. Expand your horizons. There are so many people out there. Have fun and just date. Don't get caught up in a relationship.
2006-10-09 19:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by acme123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really tell you what every girl wants because every girl is different but I can tell you what I look for. I love a guy who can make me laugh. Someone I can talk to and trust, the type of guy that can find humor in almost anything. As far as looking for a girl, I would start with friendships. Not only do you get to find out all of her important information such as personality, family, likes and dislikes, relationship history, and her current status but you have the chance to earn her trust and in some cases, her heart.
2006-10-09 21:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by Secrets are best for one... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 19 I would say girls are looking for fun and a good time. Some one who takes chances and breaks the rules.
Being very kind and intelligent for most girls are boring for relationships but as a friend its ok.
Try looking for more your type and not the ones you have currently been interested in.
2006-10-09 20:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can answer this question because every girl wants something different. If you want a girlfriend try asking a crush on a date before getting to know her first,this way she will see you as a possible boyfriend . Then when you get to know her while dating be yourself. You will find someone. Trust me there are 10 women to every man in the world.
2006-10-09 19:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by teiamaria115 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like guys like the thrill of the chase. Girls don't like it when the guy put himself out there my being a bit forward. I may make some girls feel like you are only out for one thing. You should get to know the person and if it ends up in a relationship let it happen naturally
2006-10-09 19:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be a good boyfrriend, u will have to learn to be her friend first. Gilrs often like their boyz to be their close friends n sometimes be like a father to understand, a brother to share secrets, a mother to confide in... in whole I will tell u not to be hasty to find a g/f. U make friends n wen the right time comes, u propose the one friend u feel more love for n who cares more for u. U can also try changing ur attitudes, or be calmer wen ur around girls n try to ignore them at reare times, this will make them get interested in u. Hope it helps... good luck
2006-10-09 20:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lovlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are just one of those guys that will get chicks when you are older. But that is just because "little girls" are into the "bad boys" whereas women like dependable "good men". You may just be a little ahead of your time Mike, but if that is so don't sweat it. You don't need those immature little girls anyway. Since you are over 18 you could consider dating older women.
2006-10-09 19:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by DidoDeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's just not your time to be in a relationship right now. that's why you can't find the right girl. if you really stop looking all the time and just enjoy the single life, something unexpected will happen. trust me i feel i can't get any guys either. and at the one time i stop thinking about it all the time i find someone, it may have been a short fling but it was nice. just enjoy life as it is and she will find you, or you her. good luck.
2006-10-09 19:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by mink_kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really am just as confused as you are, but here is all I understand.
Girls don't really, really, know what exactly they want in a man. But girls already know what they don't want. There must be something wrong in the way you present yourself, I don't recommend changing yourself anything drastically, just think of it as showing your self in a more honest manner, your public self being a better representation of you true self at home.
good luck. and me too.
2006-10-09 19:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by recentlyconfirmedagnosticofminds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋