My grandma died about 15 years ago and my father kept the dresser to use in his house after my parent's divorce. About 7 years ago my father died, and I inheirited the belongings in his house, I tried to give away the dresser, but my mom freaked out on me. She thinks since it is the only thing I have of my grandma's, that I need to keep it.
My problem is that I don't want it, its ugly, it smells and my wife and I are starting a family and it is not a kid's furniture.Right now it is taking up the entire closet in the room we are converting to a nursery. And I want to tell my mom she can take it and have it take up her closet or she needs to shut up about it.
Should I get rid of it? I don't care about an old dresser that isn't worth anything. I don't need it to remind me of my grandma, what should I do?
2006-10-09 19:25:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its not an antique, its only 15-20 years old. Also, I have been storing it for 7 years now and I really need the room for kids. My mother doesn't want it, she just wants me to hold on to it because I "should have sentimental feelings for it" because it belonged to my grandma. WTF???
2006-10-09 19:33:49 · update #1
Offer to give it to your mother. She just might appreciate it.
2006-10-09 19:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you dont love your grandma much. If you dont want to keep the momento of your grandma put it in a storage. Your mom is not agree with you coz she loved your dad and it was his decision to keep that dresser in his home so it will always remind your dad about his mom who he loved too much. Now you want to get rid of it. Give the specific reason to your mom that you dont care about the Dresser and she should not interrupt your business.
2006-10-09 19:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by pesific_boy_curious_2_no 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur mom that u dont need the dresser to remind u of grandma.if possible try hanging a picture of ur grandma or all of u 2gether on the wall to compensate.ur mom may feel better.do give away the dresser if its causing u so much inconvenience.
2006-10-09 19:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by archie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it, make room for it, repair it, and make it like new..It will be great in a baby's room..Believe me, this is the best solution..
Besides after you have gave it a good go over, it will not only mean a lot to you because you made it the way you wanted, it will always be a
keep sake..Just because it is old and smells bad, does not mean you can't make it beautiful!
2006-10-09 20:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by shea_harriet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being selfish. That is a memory of your deceased grandmother. I have my deceased grandmothers dresser and I appreciate it with all my heart. Give it to someone else in the family. Who knows in the long run it just might bring them good luck. Your loss!
You can always fix it, but sounds like it's not worth it to you so to bad for you!
If no one in your family wants it give it to the poor they will appreciate it and be happy to have it!
2006-10-09 19:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom to come get the dresser if it means so much to her. Tell her you have no place to store it and you are forced to give it away if she will not come and get it. Then stick by your guns. Don't let her put a guilt trip on you.
2006-10-09 19:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by Just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would sand it down and refinish it, but if you dont want to do that then tell her your getting a storage unit to make extra space and your putting the dresser in there and you want to refinish it when you have free time. but in reality you can throw it away or whatever and when she brings it up tell her you still have it in the storage and just went there to cover it up with a blanket to make sure it doesnt get dusty. more than likely shell never ask to go to the storage.
2006-10-09 19:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by michael_phillips73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if someone else in the family would like to have it. If no one else wants it, have someone who knows furniture look it over to see if it's valuable. If it is, sell it, if you can. If it's not, have Goodwill come and get it. You need the space for the baby.
2006-10-09 19:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by KIT J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
frankly, you need to just tell your mother what you wrote here...You don't have the room for it, it smells and she can either take it or you are donating it to the salvation army....old furniture does smell old sometimes and I wouldn't want it in my kids room either..You aren't a non sentimental bastard like that idiot wrote, you have something of your grandmother, YOU, without her your mother wouldn't be here, and you wouldn't be you, having a child of your own...
2006-10-09 20:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If noone in your family wants it just get rid of it you have grandma's memories thats all a man needs.
2006-10-09 19:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You unsentimentalistic bastard. It is obviously an important family heirloom and has signifigance to you family. Go on, throw it away, along with any type of family heritage you have left.
2006-10-09 19:27:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋