Hear is my story I am a 21 year old woman who was involved with a 32 year old friend of mine. I have know my friend for a year know and was involved in a intamite relationship with him for 3 1/2 months then ended our relationship about a month and a half ago and he has been dating this girl for about a month and we had decided just to remain friends. When we were involved with each other we used to hang out all the time and I would spend the night at his house and hang out with his faimly about 4 times a week and he said he really cared for me but was scared to get into a relationship with me and then about I found out I was pregant and I had a miscariage about 2 weeks ago.I tired to get over him but it sucks seeing him almost every single day I work in a restruant at a retail store were they both work at Well a week ago he offered to drive me home from work and we ended up talking and I ended up have sex with him and now I feel really guilty and don't know what to do about it.
2006-10-09 18:59:52 · 9 answers · asked by lovelyaquariusfairy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have not slept with him since i still am in love with him it sucks.
2006-10-09 19:05:56 · update #1
I have not slept with him since i still am in love with him it sucks. I asked him why chouldn't have a relationship with me when we were toghther that long but after knowing her for 2 weeks he could date her and he told me I was insecure does that make me sound insecure?
2006-10-09 19:10:40 · update #2
honey, you walked right into that snare... he sounds like he is having his cake and eating it too..... you are just a worm on the string..... and until you let him go, that is how you will be for him... a stand in for the real thing..... change jobs, move on with your life....... YOU deserve better than that !!!!!!!! you are worth more than that !!!!!!!!!! God bless
2006-10-09 19:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure where your guilt comes from, but it apparent that you never had or wanted closure with this guy. Your life situation puts you and he in close proximity and that makes it hard. It is easy for him to be in a casual relationship as it doesn't have or require the level of intimacy and caring that he has for you or that you have for him. You need to talk to him about this. How long are the two of you going to go on like this? Does he still not want a relationship with you? If he does, he is singing a different tune. If he doesn't, than having sex with him is going to make you crazy. I think you are really stuck on this guy as conversations ultimately end up with you having sex with him. Another consideration is that he is 11 years older than you. I don't know if that is a factor or not.
2006-10-09 19:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all never get your pizza where you make your dough. Thats why it hurts to see him with the other girl at work. I think you let your emotions get the best of you so that is the reason for your little slip on the ride home. If you were pregnant 2 weeks ago then you should be practicing safe sex, especially if he has a new girl. Don't put yourself in the position to be used and played. Get a new job and forget about him.
2006-10-09 19:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by kamsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what happens when you end things on good behavior....my ex-girl and I don't see each other for months and when we do its usually sexual? I am a guy and almost embarassed to say I don't really care to have just that kind of relationship with her...I really like her but I know she just does that to spark up more than things will ever be....You both have given it a go...and it didn't go the distance...I think if your going to be friends be friends but if sex is going to enter the pic then keep your distance or meetings public, until its understood your friendship is more important than sex....I only say this because your connection may end with him if you were to get pregnant again.
2006-10-09 19:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Lovely
Look you need to put him in the past tense. Sure it's nice to keep up as frens but your relationship is over.
Unless you're into casual sex too, I serious suggest you leave the frisky activities for your next boyfren / husband.
2006-10-09 19:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by Hang Tough 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you feeling guilty...because you felt like you were being used?? if i were you i would forget it ever happened....but if you still have some strong feelings for him then maybe thats why you feel that way....however if i were you i wouldnt sleep with him no more...because your the one who's gonna end up feeling used everytime...because if you think he caught feelings behind it...you better think twice, because men will be men and if you allow them to play games with you....then they will be more then happy to get the ball game rolling.
2006-10-09 19:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know u dont lik my ans but he is not ur friend he kept relation wiyh u just for doing sex. if u r indian thedn mail me at ronit_shushant@yahoo.co.in
2006-10-09 19:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by ronit s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats done is done. There is nothing to do now but move on.
2006-10-09 19:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by rainbowbright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit screwing him ... or if you like to be abused just keep screwing him
2006-10-09 19:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋