I am having a renissance wedding in april and my soon to be hubby doesnt seem to be helping! I have asked my for ideas and opinons but I dont get any answers! Help! Its a lot of work for just me!
2006-10-09 18:44:23 · 17 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well first off kudos for the cool theme idea. Heres what I'm doing:
Instead of asking for his ideas I will narrow down the choices so he only has to look at a few things. For example, pick out 5 different favors that you like and ask him to make the final decision.
Also try scheduling some time with him specifically for wedding planning. Maybe you are just asking him questions at the wrong time.
Try also giving him jobs that he finds interesting like the music or the limo or the honeymoon.
If all that fails try enlisting the help of your maid of honor, bridesmaids, sister (or sister in law) and/or mother (in-law). If you end up doing this remember that you have final say don't let them take over your wedding.
Most importantly have fun with the planning it's your day!!!
2006-10-09 20:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weddings are usually a lot of work. Trust me I know how you feel I just got married 3 months ago but my husband was a big help. Usually men don't like to help a lot with wedding stuff. Sometimes a good way to get them to help out is to talk to them and explain to them that you need help and you can't do this on your own. I can tell you right now that around February and March your gonna want some help. Just talk to him.
2006-10-10 13:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by Val 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it is his wedding too.
What kind of wedding does he want?
I have had two weddings. My advice, make them simple, simple, simple: ceremony, reception, honeymoon.
Something always goes wrong - my first ceremony was in the dark with candles and a guitar because of hurricane force winds - and the second ceremony had a last minute stand-in best man who didn't even own a suit.
Chill the details. Make sure your guests get a good view, some hot food, and not too much champagne. Happy nuptials!
2006-10-10 01:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by soxrcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How frustrating for you! I am married going on 17 years now and all the women I talked with say the same thing. Although it is not what you want to hear, he really may not care. Do what you would like to do and plan your beautiful wedding. Tell him what he will be wearing, doing, and when to be all the appointments/events. Take charge and if he is really opposed to something that you have chosen, tell him lovingly that if he chooses to help plan this and wants to be involved, he is welcome to come up with a better alternative.
Good luck to you and congrats! Sounds like it will be a wonderful ceremony!
2006-10-10 01:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by my2cents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't care about weddings, it's just a big show to make women feel good. If you want to him to help, you'll have to compromise a lot. Specifically have him make a chunk of it about him and what he wants. Yes I am saying he has to design and have control over part of the show. Yes I know that's dangerous and scary, but that's the same way he feels about the part of the wedding that you've planned.
2006-10-10 01:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jake Lockley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only wish my soon to be husband would shut up. He's trying out this 'I'll try and be annoying and helpful without actually doing anything' thing, lol. He wants to be actively involved, yet does not understand how things work. He even suggested that we have streamers yesterday! If I left it up to him, we'd have dollar store party plates and mcdonalds for dinner. So pleaseeeeeeeeeee be happy that he doesn't want to get too much in your hair about it, lol. That's what all your girlfriends are for, chat it over with them! Make it a great day, and enjoy it! :)
2006-10-10 07:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by Kass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So now... You have already a hint Yah!!! Getting married is making your relationship legal, a step ahead... You and " your man" as you've said decided to move forward therefore you want to a have a so called "FAMILY". If you get married because you love him as he is "not his" you should accept it, some guys are actually like that... In my personal point of view, its already the beginning that once you got married you will be carrying a big cross... If you love each other both must work for your up-coming wedding... because once you're in... both couples must help each other, because the simple thing is.... the two of you will be bind as "ONE" in te name of GOD!!!
2006-10-10 02:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by BOBOYCARR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already have a theme and a vision of what you want the wedding to be, count your blessings that he isn't involved. Men are genetically unable to grasp these kind of concepts *however* you should be able to delegate small tasks and one at a time to him
2006-10-10 05:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by webby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend is wanting a medieval wedding so if you need some help figuring things out email me and i can help. give up on the men she is having the same problem and i am renewing my vows and cant get my hubby to help either.. its a man thing trust me.
2006-10-10 15:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by atthean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I m like u, I m getting married next mth, and all these mths I been doing, my husband is the kinda person u nd to pull along. jus last wk, its a final straw, i pretend to thrw a temper, n tells him tat i no longer do all the preparations, and I tell the restaurants, bridal etc all the contact him directly. And he is calling for help nw!! Hahaha, he learns to appreciate me and do it along with me w/o me asking anymore!
2006-10-10 02:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by gargar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋