Your mom couldn't control the situation of her sister having died, so instead of trying to deal with her feelings about that and her grief, she found it easier to try to control the things that she could deal with. It's sad, it's rude and it's upsetting, but she did suffer a big loss, too, one that brings sudden clarity to her own mortality, so you're going to have to either give her a pass on this one and excuse her behavior or try to help her cope in a more constructive manor. Your aunt's family, however, has every right to be mad at your mom, though. That was grossly inconsiderate of her. All you can do for them is apologize and try to explain to them that your mom was just projecting --albeit inappropriately-- her feelings of hurt and inadequacy on them. At my mother-in-laws funeral, my father-in-law announced to everyone that I kill everything I touch, which is completely untrue and unfounded, but he's manic-depressive and when he's down he goes out of his way to be hurtful, so that's a little different. Your mom wasn't trying to be hurtful, she was just being selfish and the hurtfulness was a byproduct and not the goal.
2006-10-09 18:35:16
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answered by Anonymous
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Your mom was probably hurting. But she was also trying to take control of the situation. Does she do this all the time? Your mom needs to realize that other people are hurting and they don't give a crap about her opinion. You need to say to your mom... "yeah know mom, your attitude wasn't really right, you need to understand the grief that other people were going through. I know that you were hurting too, but to throw your opions at everybody wasn't the right way to go." She had no right telling people how to dress or what to say. That was way out of line. Your aunt's husband was right in telling your mom how it should be.
2006-10-10 01:22:16
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answered by jack russell girl 5
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well for one she may have just been completely overwhelmed so therefore everything anyone may have done would be wrong to her even if was completely perfect.
or may be this was her chance ( not in a bad way) to get attention and shine and making something go perfect and get the thanx and rememberance of it.
2006-10-10 01:19:40
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answered by fani 1
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dealt with that kind of thing when my grandmothers died and my mother n law.......horrible thing to deal with, but, I am sure your mom was just trying to handle the death in her own way. so do not be so hard on her..... we each have to deal with a lose such as this in our own way... maybe keeping busy and being bossy was the only way she could keep from falling apart ?? God bless
2006-10-10 01:19:29
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answered by Annie 7
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Dont' disrespect your dear mom!
You can't spell at all, and can't complete a sentence.
For shame.
Stay in school and get an education, and clean that mouth out with Zote Soap.
2006-10-10 01:29:26
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answered by Born Valentine's Day 5
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I can't understand ur question, ur english is very well......... - to put it mildly- confusing
2006-10-10 01:32:19
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answered by virgodoll 4
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