I dated a guy who was substantially younger (not giving details, just a little over a decade) and we came to a conclusion that we would just be friends with benefits cuz I am older and moving out of state and he is younger and moving out of state! Well, anyhow, we had a great night... and then he thought it was weird that I ACTUALLY CALLED him afterward! We had been talking for over a month and had discussed what we both wanted - basically fun times...etc.... and then he told me that I basically bugged him too much! This is after the guy said, TEXT ME TOMORROW.... of which I did at like 10 p.m. cuz when I sign off, my cell phone goes off!! Anyhow, I think it is SO WEIRD!! He emailed me and said he doesn't want a relationship.... DUH... like I do! I'm sorry, but for you younger peeps, sex does imply some kind of relationship!! Maybe not "I love you" or " You love me" but it does imply that maybe you should be able to talk the person again without feeling like a retard!!
2006-10-09 18:03:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have to say that I agree with you there... Goldengal.... I STILL HAVE BRUISES!! Granted, I was pretty kronked up at the time, but I can tell you, it was majorly clumsy on his part!!! I would have to say if he wasn't so physically HOT and almost intellectually there, it would have been a total waste!! lol!! Where do you find single guys in their thirties??? They seem to have disappeared off of the face of the earth in Detroit?? ha ha
2006-10-09 18:26:09 · update #1
Have to say that I agree with you there... Goldengal.... I STILL HAVE BRUISES!! Granted, I was pretty kronked up at the time, but I can tell you, it was majorly clumsy on his part!!! I would have to say if he wasn't so physically HOT and almost intellectually there, it would have been a total waste!! lol!! Where do you find single guys in their thirties??? They seem to have disappeared off of the face of the earth in Detroit?? ha ha
2006-10-09 18:26:20 · update #2
yeah friends w/ bennies can sometimes go wrong .
let him get back to you maybe he's just got a lot going on .......
have fun :)
2006-10-09 18:06:33 · answer #1 · answered by rx8 slotcar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you and most everyone on the planet need to realize that most men don't have the same emotional ties to sex that women do. You see, young men see sex as an accomplishment and if they can get sex without any type of work or effort they will. And all most all men, even the married ones see it as the animal instinct savage beast kinda sex. Only the few see it as a way to grow or share love with someone. The real goal for a young horney guy is just sex, the relationship is crap you have to put up with. Whether it is friends or a fiance, he would rather just bend you over then connect with you. He is simply feeding his ego, he is taking. So, he knows that you don't want a relationship, but you do want to be open friends and I'm sorry to say this but he probably just doesn't want to put in the effort. He wants the physical and that is it, when it seems like he wants to talk or be the friend he is just going threw the motions to get some more, almost out of obligation. That is why it seems like he can change his attitude so fast. The 'text me tomorrow' is the minimal effort he is willing to put in, and the ' you are just bugging me too much' is the I don't want to "work" for it. Seriously, that is why guys don't call girls back when they give it up on the first date. They got the prize and they said everything to make you think he was so into you, but he really just wanted the sugar and once he got it he asks himself this question, 'Do I go through the trouble of seeing her again and putting up this front of liking her or do I just kick her to the curb and cutt all ties?'
Unfortunately some guys have to go through this stage before they realize that sex is not everything. The young ones are fun but very unreliable.
2006-10-10 01:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive never had sex with out the hit it and quit it part and I am ashamed of myself for this. (Last time i have had sex is back in April). I was drunk and had sex with a female i had no attraction too and left without saying goodbye in the morning. I know dick.
Although deep down for once I would just like to find a girl I could love and wake up in the morning next to. It all depends on the type of person you are.
2006-10-10 01:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mike J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you agreed before hand that it was merely fun, then he might have been in the mindset that he would not need to talk afterwards. In a situation like that I'd make sure all the ground rules were laid out, and since that usually ruins the F-W-benefits, it makes more sense that that is a hard thing to come by.
2006-10-10 01:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by Julian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Younger guys are not mature enough with women, not let alone to understand them or their needs. They just look for a quick f*uck & to score. That is why i only go out with older guys (35 & up) cuz they have the whole package, know how to s*ex u, respect u, understand u,..etc.
2006-10-10 01:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am with ya Leilani........but I haven't had that problem. They have always known it goes both ways....I don't care how old they are, I have dated ones 18 years younger.....bed buddies are bed buddies, when and if feelings develope, then it goes further. And when I want somebody.....there aren't any bed buddies. I don't see one of those buddies if I am dating someone.....I dont' date multiple guys either...
Good luck though, hopefully when you move you will meet someone that is more stable!
2006-10-10 01:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT A P@$^ - FORGET ABOUT HIM
2006-10-10 01:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋