like for instance take a few days ago, he pushed into a wall cause i asked him if he took some money from me and then he went upstairs and then a few minutes later he comes down and acts like he didnt just push me just moments ago and i'm thinking in mind like um hello didnt he just push me a few minutes ago so why is he being nice and talking about coupons and whatever you know cause hes cheap too and he was like do you have the coupons cause i was clipping coupons and he's talking about what he wants to buy and get at the store later like nothing happened
2006-10-09 17:59:59 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Have him arrested, get a court order to have his stuff removed and get a restraining order against him.
2006-10-09 18:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by wife of Ali Pasha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from him right away, because he is PHYSICALLY ABUSING you. The more you stay with this guy, the more abuse you will have to endure, and let me remind you, you do not have to tolerate his abuse. If someone pushed me into a wall because I asked them if they took my money it means that something shifty is going on. He's hiding things from you, which is not good because it means he could lie to you anytime. The reason why he acts as if nothing happened is because he doesn't want to remember what happened, and he is afraid that because of what he did you will leave him. That is what you should do. Leave him. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment. He should be locked up. Forgotten about. Until he gains some sense. Even then I wouldn't recommend going near him, because it could trigger the past. What kind of a person cares for and lives with a person and then hits them?? What kind of love and compassion is that? You are the victim here. Not him. He might feel guilty, and he should. But that doesn't mean what he did was acceptable. I don't know what else to say. I expect things to worsen as time goes by. Therefore, you have to act soon. Right now, in fact. If you are afraid he is going to hunt you down don't be afraid. God will protect you. Just keep your mind on the objective. Run. Run away. As fast as you can...
2006-10-09 18:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by burak_23b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistics say that pushing soon becomes shoving, then slapping and hitting, then slugging that causes unconsciousness, then the weapons come out, then you are dead, or wishing you were. . And sometimes, boyfriends skip some steps, and go straight to I will kill the girlfriend.
My advice is to get out now before you really get hurt, or dead. In answer to your question, He may be lacking a conscience. Most BF start the "I'm sorry baby" routine, then hit you again. This one did not do that. The behavior is suspicious.
You are better than this, no one ever deserves abuse. There are so many nice men out there, you can find one!
2006-10-09 18:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of that house and out of that relationship. He is a bully and he acts that way because he can. He has someone to push around that doesn't fight back so he feels like a MAN. It is really a power thing. He is trying to feel like he is more than he really is and pushing others around is a way to feel powerful and in control. And by acting like nothing happened, he never has to say he's sorry. In his mind it was someone elses fault. Very childish behavior, but possibly very dangerous as well. You need to go to your nearest domestic violence shelter. They can help you with anything you need and get information to help you end this. I would also recommend that you see a counselor before getting involved in another relationship so you don't get into another situation like this.
2006-10-09 18:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by jigsawinc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, "Why do you act like nothing happened?" If he's pushing you into a wall, your next move should be to leave him!
2006-10-10 03:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by Brian D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He acted as if nothing happened simply because he could. If you want to avoid a violent domestic realationship in the future, you should think about leaving. His behaviour will not change.
I've been there and know from personal experience.
2006-10-09 18:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
men have selective memories. Sometimes when they do certian things they don't remember them. My ex-husband wasn't abusive but he pushed me one time when we were having problems. We have a son who is 12 so we have contact with each other. To this day he doesn't remember pushing me and denies that he did. Makes you wonder. Are they just justifying the behavior or do they really forget.
2006-10-09 18:11:57 · answer #7 · answered by lita ozzy bear 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Darlin', he's an asshole and a bully. Drop him, tell your mother and your father. He's not going to change and that's a fact. If nothing else tell the law but get away and stay away from him. Good luck and think better of yourself.
2006-10-09 18:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by James C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this crazy beast as fast as you can and never let on your are going or where you are going... and if he finds you tell him you never want to see him again. If he persists or stalks you...get a restraining order on him. Sounds like a future jail bird to me...so don't wait! No conversation, nothing. Just Go!
Your life depends on it girl.
2006-10-09 18:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just gotta love it when a woman says, "what can I do after he hits me?" LOL I've seen it so many times, they "love" them and won't leave them but then complain about getting beat.
If they aren't smart enough to leave then:
THOSE WOMAN DESERVE IT.
Women, if you would stop basing who you "love" off of looks, money and such and start basing it on who the person is it will be much better.
2006-10-09 18:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but I've been curiously fascinated by you & your questions..... I keep checking in on you because I was once you.... but you keep posting the same questions...they are all about your looser abusive boyfriend....... haven't (pretty much all of us) given you the same advice to run, get out, leave, etc....?? So do you not like or believe our answers or advice?? he's not going to change....... he's going to end up killing you!!!!
FOR THE HUNDRETH TIME
LEAVE HIM, RUN LIKE HELL & DONT LOOK BACK!!!
YOU DESERVE BETTER........even if you dont think so.... YOU DO!!!!
2006-10-09 20:37:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋