My mom and dad want grandchildren already i just got engaged 2 months ago even though we have been together for 5 years i am only 22 how do i explain to them i want kids but in the future not now!!!
2006-10-09 17:57:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh my gosh! I am a grandmother now as my son and daughter in law had their first baby last year at age 22. That was their choice..100%. I accept and support that choice, of course, because they have to live their own lives. It is not up to me to tell them what I want!! I had my chance a long time ago.
You can do one of two things here. You can very firmly tell your parents that having children is a very personal choice that you won't discuss with any other person other than your husband, or you can just laugh off their comments and don't reply.
I can't imagine how their comments would make you feel. It is none of their business and whatever you have decided is perfectly fine. You owe no one an explanation for when you want children.
Best of luck to you my dear. (I'll pray that you can be firm with them and tell them to back off of your personal life..I know it will be hard to do)
2006-10-09 18:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with them.
Don't do anything you will regret just to please your parents! Tell them exactly what you have said here, that you would love to give them hundreds of ankle-biters. Over the course of the next few years!
hey I'm 22 as well and dying to have kids with my man. Everyone is different, each to their own.
Your lucky in one way, at least your parents wont freak out if you do fall preggers. A lot of girls our age aren't that lucky.
Good luck!
xoxoxo
2006-10-09 18:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask them this....... do you want grands that I am not ready for ? did you not teach me to be more grown up than that ?? are kids just something to have because *other* ppl want me have them ??? I suggest the questions to you because my sons had kids before they were ready and now the kids are paying the price... divorced parents and no money to properly take care of them...... I do NOT suggest having kids until YOU are ready and able to take care of them as they deserve... and your parents should feel the same way... they should be proud of you for waiting until the time is right and not pushing you...... just my humble opinion tho......... God bless
2006-10-09 18:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had the same problem when I was first married. I told them if they wanted kids running around their house, they had better get busy in the bedroom. It was the last I heard about it. We waited until we were ready to have kids.
2006-10-09 18:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with them, they should have respect for your wishes, if not then they are only thinking about their own wants and needs...you are the one that will have to care for this child and be there 24/7...you need to make sure that is what you and you furture husband are ready for...because trust grandparents love the grandkids, but when they have had too much, it is back to the parents they go....
2006-10-09 18:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol get them on aim and send them a link to this question?
seriously though: just be blunt. tell the flat out that your not ready but they should just calm down untill you are. if they seem disapointed remind them its your own life to live and that you still want to enjoy yourself for some time or whatever reasons you have for prolonging this
2006-10-09 18:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by sined 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard. but explain to them how you feel tell them your not ready yet. do whats important to you. assure them that grandkids will come later and that when they do that they can spoil them like anyother granparent would but you just want to finish somethings or do whatever ya got to do before hand. if anything tell them you want to enjoy your spouse for awhile first then have kids.
2006-10-09 18:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by kitty45342 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them straight out"we are not ready" when we have a home, better pay and established, then we'll plan on it, or the ever reliable, when it happens, it happens.
2006-10-09 18:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by puertoricanhusker85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them straight its not them that have to care for them 24/24,have them when you are ready.
2006-10-09 17:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by staffie lover from Aussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they will have to wait till YOUR ready, not when THEY are.
2006-10-09 17:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋