I have begged her to come back, but she won't. All this advice I'm getting to focus on my work, go out and meet friends, etc. isn't working...I think about her every day...I hold imaginary conversations with her in my head.....I come home and when I am alone at night, it hits me. What can I do?
2006-10-09 17:39:53 · 26 answers · asked by Nikhil O 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
breakups are tough... a heart doesn't heal within two months- the plain and honest truth is that it will take a long time for you to get over this special girl of yours. Chances are you probably won't get over her until you find someone else you find yourself caring about even more than you did for her ( it is possible). I find myself dating a lot after a breakup. Whether it be an ex or a new beau.. I never let the intimacy go far because that's just filling a void instead of filling in the time you spent your nights with her. If you just don't feel up to dating then go make a whole lot of new friends. If you're older, then join a bowling league or something. This breakup time should be spent with other people who make you smile. Smiling is the best medicine for a breakup, it can make you realize that she leaving you was not the end of your world.. heck it could be the start of it. And what the other answers have mentioned about if she was meant to be with you she'll come back is true. But it won't be right away.. and you shouldn't want it to be. Obviously she needs some time and space and she's not wanting a relationship with you right now and the best thing you can do is leave her alone and let her have her time. Especially if you really care for her. This begging you say you're doing will only drive her futher away and only shows that you're selfish. You're not thinking about her needs, only your own. Hope everything works out for the best for you! And chin up! :O)
2006-10-09 17:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by moonshadow385 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
2 months isn't long babe. On average, it takes half the time of a relationship for you to be over the person who hurts you. It takes longer if you maintain a relationship, even a friendship with the person who hurt you.
There are 4 stages of grief
1) denial and shock.
You cannot accept that it is over, you think of her, dream of her, the what ifs and if onlys haunt your dreams and mind. I think you are stuck here sweetie.
2) anger
How could that **** **** hurt me this bad when she knows damn well how much I love her? (6 beers later) i should call her and tell her just what i think of her, then throw a rock threw her front window!
3) sadness
You wallow in memories and take comfort in sappy movies and every single song on the radio relates to you and her. Photos and cards hurt bad too look at.
4) acceptance. letting go, finally accepting that she chose this and she ain't coming back.
My advice? Pack up all her **** or anything that reminds you of her. Put it in a box, out in the shed, or into the bin if you have the balls.
Delete her number. And her email address. Only go out with your mates to places she woudn't be caught dead. Flirt with girls that are nothing like her. meet new people, rollerblade naked, enjoy your hobbies and sports.
Use this time to spoil yourself rotten. Shes gone, she isn't coming back. Put yourself first, for the sake of your mental health.
2006-10-09 17:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man i know what you are talking about. that happened to me before i got married. i cried for months i had imaginary conversations too it was hell and then i met someone who i have to admit i didn't like but it turned into a friendship. my point meet people. you may be doing that then realise you are comparing your ex to people you meet that is normal just continue to go out. you will meet someone you are interested in a before you know it you will get over her. she loved you right? and you loved her? so why are you not together? she is not perfect if she was for you then you would not break up and if she is for you then she will return until then you owe it to yourself to gain new experiences so that you will be more experienced at handling relationships and better able to deal with break ups. go to a bar the loud music is a great distraction get drunk and go home. you will be fine before you know it. don't rush it and don't focus on it some people take years and some people take months but you will get over her
2006-10-09 17:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by sexylousleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well buddy, this is normal, I went through the same a long time ago. Fortunately for me there was this cute young girl who saw my sorrow and helped me come out of it. She was so helpful she was my emotinal and moral support and she was my rebound girlfriend for a year or so. Later I bounced from one girl to another. Now I'm fine and I still remember the first love once in a while and boy is he ugly today and I thnak my stars for not being hitched to her.
2006-10-09 21:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by nice guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Begging isn't attractive for anyone. Do you really want to have her take you back because you have begged? It is much better to have someone want you for you not because of begging.
We all love and lose. There will be more loves in your life.
Love isn't really true love unless it flows from both people. So....hang on you will find true love.
Time to move on.
2006-10-09 17:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Common Niks, wake up from ur dream. It's a ralistic world and competetion is stiff. U just cant afford to sit and sob all thru out your life jst because a gal left you. Think that may be she was not worth of you. you really deserve something more. Think about your paernts who have grown you to this level. You have got some responsibility towards them. This world is really beautiful and life is too short. So enjoy every moment. Ladkiyon ka kya hai. Ek jaayegi dusri aayegi; dusri jaayegi teesri ayegi. Alright. Now Cheer up and give me best answer.
2006-10-09 17:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by Bunty Rocks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so so sorry, i know the feeling and it sucks. The best thing i can tell you is that time heals all wounds. What makes you happiest? Your fav music, or movies. I know it sounds cliche but do whatever it takes to keep your mind off of her. Remember, if you love someone let them go, and if they come back, they were always yours, if they don't, they never were. Hope this helps hun.
2006-10-09 17:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT'S TAKE A MINUTE TO KNOW ABOUT SOMEONE,IT TAKES A HOUR TO LOVE SOMEONE AND TAKE LIFE LONG TO FORGET SOMEONE!!!!!people willl say that you may forget that girl coz she don't want you any more but only you know that feeling when she is not by your side!!!i know u will remember the time and memories with her!!!i will not say to you that u must forget her but i want you to kepp her memories and make your life happy!!!soon you will know you can get another girl that better than her to be your life partner!!!let's time decide all!!!be happy!!!!!
2006-10-09 17:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by someone!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The power is within you Sweet heart. Your heart and all your love belongs to you. So go get it back and move on because your real true love is yet to come!!!
2006-10-09 17:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that no matter how bad things get they will get better. People lose the love of their lives everyday, but you will still wake up in the morning and still be breathing, and before you know it, things are just ok.
2006-10-09 17:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by captain weems 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋