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2006-10-09 17:32:35 · 21 answers · asked by Sabina C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Now I'm really upset.
2006-10-09 17:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally, you do not announce that you will have a money tree. Things like money trees, passing the bride's shoe or groom's boot or hat, bride's purse or anything such as those are just little extras to help out the newlyweds. Most people will give a wedding gift, whether it is an item of choice or money. Then during the reception, they will also participate in one of the other traditions as well. If you want people to acknowledge the money tree, have a family member be the first one to attach the first bill. During the reception, a groomsman or bridesmaid, DJ, leader of the band, or whomever can make an announcement to encourage participation. Best wishes!
2006-10-10 00:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by txsweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't WORD it at all. Things like that shouldn't be written down, neither should you word in your invitation where you are registered. You can however have your Maid of Honor or Mother of the bride gently hint to guests that there will be a money tree at the wedding or where you are registered. Most people go to weddings with some cash anyway because money dances are still fairly popular. Just don't be upset if some people prefer to give a gift of housewares instead of a gift of cash.
2006-10-10 00:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Honestly, there really isn't a tactful way to include anything at all concerning money, in your engagement or wedding invitations. If guests were to call either your parents or the grooms' parents, looking for gift suggestions, then they can be told that you are saving for a _____, and would probably appreciate a cash gift. Anything else is in very bad taste and extremely tacky.
Although weddings have become more "free" over the years in terms of not adhering to some of the older, more mundane traditions or etiquette, the one that should never change should be the inclusion of requests for cash at all.
Please, please think about it and how you would feel it you received an invitation like that?
P.S. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Best of wishes to you for a glorious day.
2006-10-10 00:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by Goddess Kitty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention the wedding tree in your invitations!
Information about gifts and registries should never be included in your wedding invitation. The invitation is to invite guests to be there for your marriage, not to invite them to bring you a gift.
The money tree counts as a gift, and so it also shouldn't be mentioned.
I mean, have you ever seen a wedding invitation that says "We'll also be having a dollar dance?" It's the same thing, only you aren't dancing with the guests to get the money.
2006-10-10 11:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no polite way to word that.
Asking for money gifts, regardless of wording or method of collection, is very offensive and rude. Weddings are not fundraisers.
People who choose to give you a money gift for your wedding will simply do so-- probably enclosed with a wedding card. Please do not have a money tree or anything else like that.
2006-10-11 19:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Telling people you will have a money tree via the wedding invites would be SUPER TACKY. Just let people know via word of mouth that you will have a money tree instead of a traditional registry.
2006-10-10 00:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by Smart_ca_latina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i suggest if you have a dj instead of doing a money tree that the dj announces the dollar dance . if you dont know what that is it is a chance for everyone to dance with the bride and groom and they pin the cash to the tux or the wedding gown that way you wont offend anyone and it is traditional.
2006-10-10 00:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same as for gifts, word of mouth. You don't put this info on the invitation, in an enclosure, etc. It's considered rude to do it that way. You tell parents and members of the wedding party, and you can even put it on a website (if you have one), and let the word spread that way. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-10 01:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of having a money tree, why don't you say you are having a wishing well reception and everyone pretty much knows what that is, then you can decorate a white wishing well and people will drop their wedding cards and hopefully their full of money/checks!!! Congrats on your wedding!!!
2006-10-10 00:43:16 · answer #10 · answered by DSPARKLE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not bad to have a Money tree at a wedding just simply have or say that you will be taking voluntary donations for your honey moon funds that if they can it would be greatly appreciate it.
2006-10-10 00:56:04 · answer #11 · answered by Carolina Vargas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋