I am 38 Weeks Preg w/ my first baby , I have no clue on what to do with a baby , how they are , I have a wonderfull hub , who feels competent in caring for a baby , He is never home though. I n the otherhand have more of an idea of how to survive on a desserted island than how to raise a baby ?
How do you raise a baby / kid?
What do you do ?
Did you feel like this ?
What do I do
PS. I have no Parents or Family to look for and live in an area where I don;t know anyone.
2006-10-09 17:17:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you ask at the hospital or a child birth class, you should be able to find a mom group that would offer you a wonderful source of support and information. It's a great way to meet and befriend people who understand what you're going through.
After you give birth, your hormones will help kick in your maternal instincts. You should also breast feed. Aside from the nutritional benefits for baby, it's a wonderful bonding experience. When baby nurses, your brain will release chemicals that jump start your maternal feelings. The more you nurse, the more motherly and relaxed you will feel. There are lots of breast feeding organizations out there, too. The hospital will help you get started and can direct you to local groups. If you don't have anything close to home, start your own group! You can print fliers on the computer and post at the local grocer's or put an ad in your local penny saver or news bulletin inviting new and expecting moms looking for new friendships and support.
I really feel for you. All this anxiety isn't good for you or your baby. If you ever need a friend, please feel free to e-mail me any time. I've got three great kids and would be more than happy to answer any of your questions that I can. I've been blessed with a wonderful support system of friends and family and would gladly share the benefit of their knowledge and experience with you. Good luck!
2006-10-09 18:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many many parenting magazines and books and anything you could ask for. But believe me, it will come to you, and if you need help you can always call your dr. and ask. But let me tell you one thing, PATIENCE is the one thing you need alot of, babies are very demanding. Let your husband help whenever he can, be thankful that he wants to help you. Every mom feels scared before the baby comes it is natural so don't worry you are not the only one. Sleep when the baby sleeps, naps and all, believe me you will need it. Try not to hold it all the time or else it will get spoiled...every baby is spoiled insome way but this way makes for a long night. Try to make the bottles and have them ready in the fridge for the nighttime feedings, so you won't be fumbling aroung making a mess half asleep. Also , drs say not to give babies under 4 months cereal, but if your baby keeps crying and crying at night after you have already fed it and changed it and all that after about 3 wks you can put about a TBLS of cereal in its bottle. Don't let it sleep with you, same room is fine, but once it gets used to being in the bed with you it is hard to get it out. Save time for you and your husband, I know right now you don't understand that but you will. soon, take at least one day a week just for you and him, if you have to hire a baby sitter for the evening, just a few hours will make a world of difference. E-Mail me if you want, and I will help you as much as I can.....csheeks@alltel.net, I am full of helpful stuff...lol
2006-10-09 17:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by nascar_cr8zy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the baby comes you'll just know what to do. Your stay in hospital is a good learning environment, ask the nurses lots of questions and when you come home from the hospital follow up with a community nurse who will be more than happy to give you advice and answer any questions you might have. Basically when the baby is born you'll need to feed, change and bathe. Set a routine and stick with it.
2006-10-09 17:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by coolmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 wonderful kids!!! A 6 year old and a 1 year old!! Your mother instinct will kick in when the baby is born!!! You will learn what your baby wants and needs!!! Just love and nurture your baby and it will all fall into place!!! Start ready some books and if you want to chat e-mail me and i will be glad to help with whatever ?'s you may have!!! Do not stress over it. You will be a wonderful Mommy.
2006-10-09 17:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by housewives5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the book "What to expect When you are expecting" en spanish, they are so have the same book "What to expect newborn" en spanish, But other than that ask a lot of questions and the hospital will give you a number for breast feeding counselor if you ask but the main thing is ask lots questions of the nurses and doctors especailly if you become depressed after having the baby . And you can write me if you like, but you will do fine!
2006-10-09 17:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by Tiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy some parenting books and refer to them when you are trying to figure things out. See if the hospital you are delivering at have any newborn baby classes that will teach you what to do with your new baby. When you have the baby ask the nurses at the hospital lots of questions.
Good Luck!!!
2006-10-09 17:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by LasVegasMomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You emulate how you were rare as a child, and change whatever you want to when your have your own child. Also, read lots of books, I grew up w/o my mother (died) as a young child, still I do just fine even better than those who's parents are alive. One of the book I recommend is Dr. Spock, don't remember the title, however he wrote a book from pregnancy to young adult. Good luck, frequent the book store, libriary, and ask a lot questions from your Peditrician.
2006-10-09 17:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by KaPaul L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can surely understand your fears and worries, but trust in your "mother's instinct" they will kick in automatically. You will know what to do. If your still having trouble you can call your doctor or nurse, even your baby's pediatrician for help. But I am sure you will be fine. I was scared to when I had my son. I was 19 years old. But somehow I just knew. Good luck to you
2006-10-09 17:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have three kids.and i love my kids.really its a great experiance to be a mother.u feel like this now but the day you deliver a baby automatic you get the power to take care of her.just wait and watch.now you have the time to shop for your baby everything.go and buy all needy things.do reply me after you have your child in your hand.dont worry.and try to think that the whole world is with you.
2006-10-09 17:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by tasneem 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that once you have your baby it will just come to you naturally. I think it's part of being a woman. Before I had my daughter, I had no idea how to do raise a baby girl and well, it just comes to you. Good luck
2006-10-09 17:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋