Was it a dreadful experience?
Why did it take that long?
Did you use any substitution? If so, what?
2006-10-09 17:13:14 · 24 answers · asked by pureessence 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
9 years, just had better things to concentrate on, this last stint would br about 2 tears and I'm still happy
2006-10-09 17:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by aussiegeezer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years.
Was it dreadful: Yes at first. After a few months, you aren't having such a serious case of blue balls. After a while, it just stops being an issue. I missed the intimacy more than the sex after about a year. I not only went without sex for 3 years, i didn't have a relationship either. Its a very lonely existence.
Because I dedicated my time and efforts into making my life better. Spending money going to clubs, on dates, and on special occasions was keeping me broke. I realized i was putting more effort into keeping a girlfriend happy, than I was trying to keep myself healthy, and successful.
Substitution: Hmm.. Well I have an addictive behavior, but the only thing that I had a problem with was gambling. I'm the type of person that I like to be in control of myself, so when someone mentioned they thought I had a problem, i was determined to correct it (and i did very quickly). I think the first few months are the hardest if you are quitting anything. In this case, i wasn't quitting sex, I just didn't like having to put forth a lot of effort just to get sex.
Bottom line: In that 3 years, I've learned a lot more about myself. I'm not the type to go hang out at clubs and bars looking for a potential mate. I want more from the person that I'm with. I know I deserve more than a sexual partner. To be honest, sex is such a primary motivating factor in a single person's mind, and having removed it for 3 years.... I can easily say... I could think more clearly. I didn't think "I've gotta look this way" or "say this __________". I could just be myself and have a great time without worrying about whether or not it would ruin my chances with this girl.
A side note: In that 3 years, I turned down a number of opportunities to be in relationships (and of course have sex). This wasn't due to a lack of opportunities, but more from a lack of health & financial stability that I found linked to my dating life.
2006-10-10 00:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Following my divorce, I went for almost a year of no sex at all including masturbation. I was in such a state of mind, I wanted to good feelings at all. In short I was a total basketcase. What caused it to end was starting a new relationship with a wonderful woman who made me feel like a man again. To be honest, the whole celibacy thing during that time was not so bad. It gave me a chance to concentrate on other things in my life that needed improving.
2006-10-10 00:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'll be 19 this Saturday and I am a virgin--so umm, I guess you could say that Ive gone 19 years.
Dreadful experience? Quite the opposite actually. I dont have to wory about getting disease, being pregnant, or any other worries. And when I get married, I will more appreciate making love to MY husband because it will be my first.
2006-10-10 00:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by suzanne g 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
4 years, it was not a dreadful experience, religious reason, no substitution
2006-10-10 00:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by 2fine4u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went 2 days once. That was the most horrible experience ever! I was driving from New York to Chicago. I was too tired to do it, but it was painful not doing it.
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2006-10-10 00:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear there was a tortoise on a tropical island that went 168 years without sex.
Poor thing was the only tortoise on the island and the ducks were too fast!
2006-10-10 00:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years and counting. Mainly because i was bitter after that relationship. No the sex wasnt bad, it was great. Its taking that long because I cant bring myself to feel emotion any more.
Substituion was Martial Arts.
2006-10-10 00:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by Lord of the Apocalypse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm about 6 months. that is when i was in college and i was too busy to like hang out. yes it was horrible i felt like a virgin all over again. why i already explained that and substitution none of your business.
2006-10-10 00:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband went to Iraq, and he was gone for a year, I love it, I felt like being married with-out the "come-on honey" all the time, it was kinda like a vacation from sex
2006-10-10 00:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by missouri girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋