ok I dont know what it is but i have a bf and for some strange reason I want him to be the one to break my virginity. And I also want to have a child for him and wishing that it will be a boy and look just like him . Ishis normal oh and just remember we or both 17. And he did tell me that he would nt leave me if i would have a child he said he would take care od his child????????????????
2006-10-09 17:04:09 · 17 answers · asked by danielle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we were togehter for 6 months and broke up but got back together about a month and few weeks later
2006-10-09 17:16:16 · update #1
Dating long? Maybe discuss marriage
2006-10-09 17:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal, but it isn't smart. You need to afford a place of your own and make enough money to support yourself and your baby. It is not fair to put the hardship on your parents. I do believe that when you have sex, it should be with someone you love. I also believe that you should not have unprotected sex until after you have created an environment to raise a child properly. Remember that most people do not remain with their high school sweet heart. People mature at different rates and sometimes this causes them to grow apart. If he does leave you and you have a child, then you are not as marketable on the dating scene. Not many guys want an instant family, but some guys feel that dating someone with a child might be an easier lay than someone that does not have a child.. In other words, you will be a target to be used more often than not. It is best to think long term and not short term and to plan for the worse. If nothing goes wrong, you will be in much better shape.
2006-10-10 00:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? I had my first child at nineteen and I love all my kids but I wish I would have waited. Plan your life a little You need a place for that baby to go. Your parents should not be the ones to raise your child. You should think about all the things that go along with it. Coming home from the hospital and going to sleep then waking up every 4 hours to feed the baby it feel like you will never get enough sleep it makes it hard to get along with the father to. But then there's the money factor. All the things a baby needs if you don't breast feed formula is so expensive then the diapers cloth diapers are gross and disposable are not cheap and you go through alot of them. Just think about it before you do anything crazy. Maybe buy a house first. get married.
2006-10-10 00:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I think you're not thinking straight, seriously. It's pretty normal (I guess) to want him to break your virginity, but having a child for him? Are you out of your mind? You're both just 17! You have a long way to go before 'settling down' or whatever you wanna call it. And most guys say that they'd be responsible and stuff but usually, they're just words. Anyway, you just went out with him! How could these thoughts (having a child?!) even cross your mind? Is it because he's handsome or something? Sigh, anyway, my advice to you is that you better make sure you don't cross the line by getting pregnant. Other than that, it's pretty fine to me.
2006-10-10 00:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Danny, Think about what you are doing. You are 17...are you still in school?? What are your goals??? Having a baby is a great responsibility. Are you really ready for that?? You are opening yourself up to many problems. What about diseases??? Some people that have herpes don't even know that they have it. AIDS will kill you...eventually. What if you eventually outgrow this guy?? Do you want to be tied to him forever with a child?? Do you really think that you should give it up for the first guy you really fall for??? People will tell you anything you want to hear just so they can get what they want. How do you intend to support a baby??? Are you ready to handle sleepless nights and days??? Please talk to someone that you trust...an aunt, a friend's mother, a counselor...before you do something you may regret.
2006-10-10 00:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant at 16 its hard so dont go for a child he too told me he would take care of her and now we are in the middle of a divorce and he hit me and cheated on me I thought when we dated he was great losing your virginity to him is one thing having a baby is another.
2006-10-10 00:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur too young, both of you will not be the same in 5 yrs from now. it takes alot and only a genuine strenght of love can help you have a child and be happy, because you are young your judgement is still slightly impaired. if you are planning plan for years and years. enjoy your youth, you have plenty of time to become parents.
2006-10-10 00:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are WAY too young to be thinking of having a child with anyone i don't care who they are or what they tell you!!!!!!!
taking your virginity, well, that is something you will have to think long and hard about. weigh the good and the bad and make up your own mind...don't let anyone convince you to do anything you don't want to.
2006-10-10 00:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all depends on how long you have been together, where you are going after high school, and if he will be able to support you.... plus whether or not parents would agree with you doing that, since youre still under their roof most likely. but if you really like him, wait a while and if its still like that, and you think it will work, then follow what you feel i guess, just think about what will happen
2006-10-10 00:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by Chris O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel this way about him, but don't chase these dreams just yet. Wait until you're older and both have successful careers. You don't want to bring up your handsome son in welfare.
2006-10-10 00:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by SwinkSS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋