Okay let me explain a little, years ago I had sex with somone who has basically been in love with me for years. I did not feel the same way about her, but we continued to be good friends anyways. Well one night after to much to drink on both of our parts we wound up hopping off on the good foot and doing the bad thing yeah baby!! So now suddenly she is writing me letters and emails telling me how much she loves me and always has. She just wants me to give her a chance. The bad thing is I have told her repeatedly since the night in question that I do not have feelings for her and never will, she will just not take no for an answer. It has gotten to the point that I avoid her at all costs. It is not so bad if we are around other people she doesn't talk about it but if we are alone she constantly bugs me about hooking up. I am almos scared to date other people because if she is stalking me this way what would she do to my girlfriend? How do I get rid of her?
2006-10-09 16:46:13 · 13 answers · asked by smitty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She sounds kind of like the lady from Fatal Attraction. I think she has an unhealthy obsession with you. You have to make it clear to her you don't have feelings for her, then don't talk to her or see her and give her a chance to get over it and find someone else to become obsessed with. Don't answer her calls or respond to her emails or get together withyour friends if she's going to be there. Ignore here! If she still refuses to leave you alone get a restraining order. This sounds like it could get dangerous if she is really unstable.
2006-10-09 16:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her firmly NO. Date other people if you have to get a restraining order on her. Desperate people call for desperate measures.
Do whats best for you.
Yes.
After my second divorce I was very hesitatant to begin another relationship with anyone, as during my marriage with both of my former husbands, sex has always been forced and I dreaded being forced to have sex again.
However a year later I met a guy who wanted to have sex with and I him, but I was afraid he would force me and I wasnt for sure how far I could go.
It was an amazing experience and he taught me that all men arent the same in thinking that the only kind of "good" sex is forced sex.
He calmed some of my fears, and now that I am remarried I am much more calm when it comes to sex and I dont scare as easily. I am able to talk to my man now whereas before I wouldnt have said anything.
2006-10-09 16:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow she is a stalker. Sit her down and tell her exactly what you have said in the question. She needs to understand that she is making life hard for you to be her friend. She either takes your friendship or nothing. You don't need to baby it anymore either, get to the point. And Good Luck
2006-10-09 16:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by raspberryflavr 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you give her a chance? you know women like that are probably going to be the best in every way because she is head over hills in love with you. If you take it slow, then maybe you just might get feelings for her.
2006-10-09 16:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by missouri girl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well knowing you didnt have feelings for her you should have never had sex with her that just led her on to believe there was more than there was all i can say is simply tell her it will never happen otherwise u brought it on urself by havin sexc with her
2006-10-09 16:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by sexy m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have made your feeling clear, then you'll just have to put alot of distance between the two of you.
2006-10-09 16:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by sexy_lil_butterfly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should never play with a person emotions by sleeping with them and then try to push them away
That's why people should communicate their feeling before any type of sexually relationship.
You have created a monster all I can do is pray for ya!
2006-10-09 16:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by curly0107 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do a confrontation whilst SOBER. This may be nasty but you gotta tell her it was a one night stand and that's it. It meant nothing.......
2006-10-09 16:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put a restraining order on her...or you can embarrass her in front of people....send her love letters to all your friends....if you already done told her no than she needs to move and keep avoiding her
2006-10-09 16:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by queenbee 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
omg i have never had sex with someone i did'nt have feeling for LOL. wanna get rid of her ?, tell her you have V.D.
2006-10-09 16:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by wanttolpve 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋