ive been talking to someone else about my current love problems, and have been telling them to some one that is also interested in me, and know i find myself wanting this new person. Is it just because im not getting what i need from my lover, or am i having an "emotional affair?"
2006-10-09 16:31:28 · 28 answers · asked by amomg2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Technically your not a cheater yet, but in your heart I think you wish to be. You are attracted to this person and are looking for an excuse to validate your reason to cheat. You are headed for dangerous territory. Be honest with yourself and everyone else involved. Stay with your current partner and away from this new interest, or tell your partner that you are moving on. Just be the man you know you should be, and go about it the right way. I hope you make the right decision, because it will ultimately hurt someone.
2006-10-09 16:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by Desi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're probably just not really into your current girlfriend.. cause if you were, you'd be talking to HER about your problems, not someone else. also, the thought of cheating wouldn't even pop up in your head if this girl was the one. you just need to explore more. and to answer your question, no, you're not a cheater. cheating is having sex with other people (or the like) not having emotions for other people.. that would be considered "life"
2006-10-09 23:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by keep it real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking about leaving the one you are with for the one you are talking to then it is cheating. If you are seeking advice on how to mend your current relationship then it is not cheating. People always use the excuse of not getting enough attention but that is purely an excuse. I have seen many times where the person complaining about attention started getting what they wanted and they still ended up leaving or cheating anyway.
There is a big difference between seeking personal advice and using someone of the opposite sex to complain about to say what you dont like about the person you are dating.
2006-10-09 23:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone needs to vent about their problems and it could possibly be someone we are kind of curious about. If this are really bad between your current lover then maybe its best to move on. But, step back and look and see how much you care about you current lover.. Is it worth risking something new?
2006-10-09 23:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by RoryGirl2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, your not a cheater yet, but you will be if you continue to tell this guy your problems. Your giving him something he can work with and he will soon be telling you that I wouldn't do that to you, I would treat you better. You need to talk to you boyfriend and tell him what you need if you want to continue with him. If not then just leave your boyfriend and stay with this guy, your half way there now any how.
2006-10-09 23:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is EXACTLY what just happened to me about a year and a half ago. Me and the "other guy" were both dating other people. We started talking as just friends and it turned into a lot more than that. Now we have both been together for 1 1/2 years and it has never been better! Since we both talked before we dated, we knew each other's pet peaves and we know the boundaries too! Go for it!
2006-10-09 23:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lita 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
same here but i dont like the chick i made sure she was butt ugly b4 i talked and opened up 2 her ,but yeah because u r leaving the option open 2 cheat with this other girl, thats wrong u should tell ur girl what u would want from her and what u expect from her as ur one and only love intrest but be careful she could be doing the same . now ask urself how would u feel if she did the same thing?
2006-10-09 23:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling your problems to someone who is interested in you is fine.Though as for your feeling towards the person your telling......Well ask yourself if you was interested in that person before you started telling this person your problems or are you falling for this person because your in a vulnerable state of mind.
2006-10-09 23:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the beginning stages of cheating. Leave your current person if you want something else. If you don't, then you need to be talking to your current person instead of your future cheat.
2006-10-09 23:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not cheating yet. But if you keep talking to this person knowing you want to be more than friends then yes you are on your way to cheating. Look at it like this would you want your boyfriend to talk to another girl
2006-10-09 23:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by Billy T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋