We've been together four years and he is still in love with me. I can tell because he calls me all the time and says he misses me and wants us to move in together and stuff. But I have no spark left for him. I've gotten to the point where I am already seeing other guys and cheating on him because I am just not romantically fulfilled and I am attracted to other guys. How do I break up with him without breaking his heart? I don't want to tell him I'm seeing other guys because that will devastate him. What is the best way to break up with him for good?
He's kind of a needy guy and is very dependent on me. I've tried to break up with him before and all he does is spend days trying to talk me out of it and keeps calling me. Then even if he stops caling me it's only for about a week and then he starts calling again. It's hard for me to not answer his calls because it feels so mean. How do I do it?
2006-10-09 16:31:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a tough situation, but you could either have an intense fight with him about...something (the sofa cushions, the kitchen light, etc) and just BREAK up with him.
or you could break it to him gently, which would hurt him alot but at least you won't have to deal with him anymore.
Or you could just ignore the hell out of him until he goes away.
2006-10-09 16:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are leading him on, and that's a whole lot meaner than just being flat out honest with him. No wonder he's confused.
Grow up and take responsibility for your actions. Sit him down, tell him its over. Period. Then do not contact him again for any reason, don't answer his calls, don't accept gifts and distance yourself from him.
You created this mess by not being honest the minute you weren't in love with him any more. You have cheated and lied and the only way to make that right is to do the right thing by him and let him move on to someone that respects and loves him.
2006-10-09 16:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least you have courage.
How long has it been since the spark left, anyways? Are you holding on because he is needy or because you need the attention he gives you that the guy (guys) you are seeing on the side can't give you? You have been with this guy for four years and, one would presume, you know him well. Why can't you be honest with the both of you? I think you owe that to both of you.
2006-10-09 16:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you're doing him any favor by cheating on him behind his back and prolonging his agony by giving him false hope and continually taking him back? If you would have stuck to your guns earlier, he could possibly have found the RIGHT girl for him by now. He doesn't want YOU, the cheating girlfriend who doesn't even like him anymore. He wants the girl HE believes you are.
Make a clean break and change your phone to an unlisted number.
2006-10-09 16:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so emotional and start being practical. You don't love him, you're not interested in being with him any longer, and you're dating other people. So just tell him that.
If you could break up with someone without breaking their heart it wouldn't be called Breaking Up. You sound very immature. Tell him the truth and move on with your life.
I can't believe you're making such a big deal about breaking up with someone you're cheating on. Grow up, girl.
2006-10-09 16:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're not in love with him anymore. You love and care about him but you're not in love with him and he deserves someone to love him back. Tell him he spark is gone and your sorry. Then stop talking to him. If he keeps calling you and stuff just pick up and say please this is hard enough without you calling but I'm not going to change my mind. I've thought about my decision long and hard and I need to stick with it.
2006-10-09 16:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sasasa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just tell him it is over. The longer you drag this out the harder you are making it on everyone. The sooner you leave him the sooner both of you can move on. Cheating gets you no where.
2006-10-09 16:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by jae4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....Well 4 years is a long time to break up with him ...you should go somewhere quietly and tell him how you feel but don't mention that you already dating other guys that will surely devasted him...tell him you been wanting to talk to him about how you feel and reasure him that you will always be friends ...good luck...
2006-10-09 16:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to talk to him in a nice way. tell him what you fill and that for him to also move on with his life without. but you two have been together for 4 years you wouldnt stuck up with him for that long if dont love him
2006-10-09 16:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get tough!! I know it will be hard, tell him that its not him its you, u love him but ur not IN love with him. as far as the phone calls go get someone else to pick it up and tell him he has the wrong number!
2006-10-09 16:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by madkittykills 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋